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I've met several friends from forums, one from here and a few from other forums. I do have friends from school who are on Facebook as well but since moving to my area I only have the friends I have met through forums but at least I have met them and meet them face to face.0
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Other than family and casual friends i think i've only one close mate that i've had for about 35yrs, another went to live abroad about 18mths ago after meeting a girl on holiday. Everybody thought he'd have been back home by now.Liverpool is one of the wonders of Britain,
What it may grow to in time, I know not what.
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My hubby is my best mate also, and my mum comes a close second, i do have 2 other friends that i've known since early teens but we all have young families and freetime is short and when i get freetime, i like doing fun stuff with my family or chilling! but that said i do really like time on my own never have been very sociable. And like the other posters dream of my getaway in the country away from the bustle.
My friends and i speak on the phone, facebook and msn but rarely meet up but i know if i ever needed them they'd be there0 -
I have one best friend but she lives in London and then a few I text now and again, or email on Facebook.
I moved to the town where OH is from and have no friends here :-(0 -
I have good friends in my two sisters. I have two close friends that I have grown up with and know everything about me.
I would trust my friends with my life, I am lucky to have friends like mine and will always see them as my extended family. :j
Apart from them I have work colleagues who I get on great with and on occassions gone out socialising with them.0 -
I have my partner who i tell everything to and my best friend who ive known forever,i have other friends i speak to in the playground and out and about.life atm is quite hectic so i spend the most of my time with my family which is fantastic as my daughters are my world.i also have learnt that some peeps are just not worth the effort,one day they speak others they are snotty, i dont need that i live in the real world where not everything is moonlight and roses.so im glad i have real friends and family who keep me there.:xmastree:Is loving life right now,yes I am a soppy fool who believes in the simple things in life :xmastree:0
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A psychiatrist once told me that if you think that you have more than five true friends you are either lying to yourself, or do not understand what true friendship is. At the time I was in my early twenties, and didn't really believe him. Ten years later I wholly agree with him.
I'm sorry I don't agree with that! Prob just my age though.
I have lot's of mates (some I see regularly, some not.), and lots of friends (many who I see on a very regular basis), and 8 very close friends who I see at least once a week. I lived away for 3 years and these people visited and kept in contact. We are all close, but have different things in common. We are not in each others pockets, but see each other regularly to catch up. I know I could go to any of them in a crisis, and they would do everything they could to help me, and vice versa!
The people I am closest too though is my family, my DH (we have been together since we were 16, 10 years!) and my mum who I can speak to about anything, my sister in law too!
I invest a lot in friendships and the ones that go the distance are the ones who invest back. I have friendship groups who I don't see/ speak to for a while but then we will see each other and things will just slot back into place.
Personally I think as we get older our focus shifts from our friends to our families (partners and children) and finding time for everyone is a struggle. Some people are not secure enough to be 'put on the back burner' for a while, whilst I hold nothing against any of my friends if they can't see me for whatever reason, or if they cancel. I would rather they were happy and doing what they wanted to do, than feel forced to do something by duty! I know it is not a reflection on me and doesn't mean they like me less, just that they have other people to fit in. I am very laid back but don't take any crap, if I feel I am being used I will say 'No' to things I don't want to do.
I think the saying 'love yourself and others will love you' rings true. I don't love myself but I am comfortable with myself, and have accepted my faults, and only now I have done that can I be truly happy in relationships of any kind.0 -
fernliebee wrote: »I'm sorry I don't agree with that! Prob just my age though.
I have lot's of mates (some I see regularly, some not.), and lots of friends (many who I see on a very regular basis), and 8 very close friends who I see at least once a week. I lived away for 3 years and these people visited and kept in contact. We are all close, but have different things in common. We are not in each others pockets, but see each other regularly to catch up. I know I could go to any of them in a crisis, and they would do everything they could to help me, and vice versa!
I have lots of 'mates' and fair weather friends, but they are not friends in the true sense of the word. If you have eight very close friends now, chances are that within a few years some will not be so close (for various reasons), and so you are down to ... five!
It is an age/ life experience thing. I don't think we ever stop learning about people, and the times we learn most are when a crisis actually happens. It is surprising how many people we have full confidence will be there when things get bad, that will then let you down. Conversely, others will surprise and then come through for you. It is only then that you realise who your true friends are.Gone ... or have I?0 -
Its not long since I left university but I consider that I have only one true/best friend and she is not a uni friend. I also have an ex who I still get on pretty well with and confide in (again not from university), the rest are just aquaintances.0
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It's tricky defining who is a friend... I have friends I have been friends with for years, who know everything about me and who i could tell anything about me. I don't always see them that often. Then I have friends I have only known or been close to in the last three years, who again I could tell pretty much everything - I'm quite an open book - but who I may or may not keep in touch with if I moved away. Then there are people at work, who I like but again, would probably not keep in touch with. That said, we are having a work reunion of where I used to work over ten years ago soon... I think it's right that until there is a crisis, you don't know for sure who will be there for you.0
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