MSE Parents Club Part 7

money_maker_3

ooohhh nice mooki, I would love to go on holiday

money_maker_3

def sounds like excess wind. If you are willing to spend a bit of money, the Dr Brown anti colic bottles are really good, just expoensive. Also anything you do try, even if you dont think its working, continue for at least 5 days, my HV told me it takes anything at least that to start working

Glamazon

mookiandco wrote: »

Leila really cries when she has trapped trumps (we use polite words in this house!). We lift her legs up gently to release said trumps!

trumps it is then

the dr brown bottles r on offer in ASDA at the mo - 4 for £20

should I get them tomorrow or wait a few days with new milk?
new milk supposed to help with wind as its thicker

astonsmummy

Hello peeps!
How is everyone? Have I missed any important announcements or anything?
Aint been on MSE since Sat eve, OH broke his hand quite badly on Sat night so havent had much time to go on the computer.
We are just waiting to hear when he has his surgery, it was supposed to be tommorrow morning but they have cancelled it.
Boys are fine, I'm knackered!!!!!!!

astonsmummy

searching_me wrote: »

fitz i go nandos all the time and theres plenty of room in any of the ones ive been in and if there isnt there very good at making room for you .. and its a family place so they expect a cryig kid at times x

I LOVE nandos!
We get the peri peri sauce in the bottle from morrissons :drool:

Glamazon

astonsmummy wrote: »

Hello peeps!
How is everyone? Have I missed any important announcements or anything?
Aint been on MSE since Sat eve, OH broke his hand quite badly on Sat night so havent had much time to go on the computer.
We are just waiting to hear when he has his surgery, it was supposed to be tommorrow morning but they have cancelled it.
Boys are fine, I'm knackered!!!!!!!

oh dear - how did he do that?

mookiandco

astonsmummy wrote: »

I LOVE nandos!
We get the peri peri sauce in the bottle from morrissons :drool:

I've just ordered nandos for hubby to collect on his way home. We buy the industrial size peri peri from Costco. I have it on everything!

How did OH break his hand? Hope he's going to be okay xx

searching_me

AM i love there lemon and herb chicken ... nomnomnomnomnom nommy nom and there chocolate ice cream after is to die for x

money_maker_3

I would try the milk for a couple of days Glam, but if he is crying loads, then get the bottle and try it with the new milk, Good luck

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

I really don't know to be honest, I go round and round in my head and I can't figure out if he is controlling, or if it all me and he is my victim.

When I'm well, all is fine. When I'm ill, things are quite bad.

The things that get to me are things like -
him making promises that never materialise (if I get therapy, he'll look after LO, he'll take time off work so I can learn to drive, he'll give me a lift places)
if I'm upset/sad, he says that he can't cope and will quit his job or smoke if I don't change
tells me to pretend to be fine
questions whether I've taken medication, saying I'm being weird or odd, complaining that I'm taking meds. I asked him to write down in what way I'm crazy so I could tell the doctor, but he kept saying he'd do it later. He makes a lot of threats - he'll send me back to my parents, he'll leave me, he'll make us move, he'll quit his job - if I do something (cut myself, drink, take medication,=) or if I don't do something (if I don't change, pretend I'm happy etc).
When he is upset with me he sleeps. When it is bad, he can stay in bed till 6pm or later. He won't eat if I've upset him.
He doesn't like me talking about my problems, but I get accused of being cold and ignoring him
I'm accused of playing games, lying about not being in a mood, or hating him

There are subtle things I don't get, like if I suggest that a friend watches LO, or h goes to a child minder for a few hours, LO will be abused and you can't trust anyone - they might hurt him or ignore him. When I'm dieting, he wants to get takeaways, eat out, get chocolate - it might just be that he doesn't understand. The other day he couldn't find an ironed shirt, and said he wouldn't be able to go to work. If I want to buy anything (pram, cot, scales, storage boxes) he agrees but says how we'll never have a house. Makes me feel really guilty for getting things.

I am a lot to deal with, I've put him through a lot, so I don't know if it is just what I deserve?

I really don't know. Any thoughts welcome. You guys know me quite well, you know I've done some terrible, terrible things and I am very needy and emotional, so if I'm just being a drama queen, I don't mind you telling me.

Feelie, you know me, I dont mince my words on here.
Now I am telling you that your husband is dragging you down emotionally and psycologically, what you are descriving is domestic abuse, just because you dont get bashed about, does not make it any less.

I'm being really blunt here but IMO from reading this I feel that you staying in this situation is not going to help you get better within yourself, you do not deserve any of this hun, he is controlling you.

I may be a hypocrite because my relationship with OH isnt exactly good, but I know from alot of personal expereience that this is what is going on (I just rarely heed my own advice)
I hope your ok hunxxxxxxxx