MSE Parents Club Part 7

3onitsway

r.mac wrote: »

okay - I have a question! (when do I not). When and how does one start/do baby discipline? Obviously we aren't at naughty step stage, but LO isn't responding to a firm No. It's driving me insane, but I know that shouting isn't the way to go and I can't bargain with her!! It's not that she is naughty, but she's going to have to learn some things are not acceptable and/or off limits. ANywone any tips/books I should read/think I'm insane????

thanks

It makes me laugh that we're leading parallell lives at different corners of the uk. My mostly used word of the day is NO. She stops what she's doing, turns and grins at me, then continues with what she's not meant to be doing!
I've no advice, other than getting a cage!
The safety gate is now on the living room door to stop her going out and sampling the dog food.

Tara Big hugs! I dread to think what it is/who would do such a thing. We're always here to talk/listen hun.

Tia Would you like us to all come and visit and take turns to poke him in the eyes?, then we'll post the xbox out of the highest window. Those bl00dy things should be banned - they cause far too many arguments.

tarajayne

7yrs ago someone in the small village I lived took great offence to my new boyfriend, now my OH. My past was rather bumpy anyhow but it seems they didn't like me moving on. I had the most vile threatening letter which I burnt as I was too ashamed to let anyone read and they scratched some awful words onto my car causing real damage. I moved away and have been settled in my 'normal' life since but have never been comfortable with my past. 3yrs of counselling to get my head around the fact that I am not a bad person and although I flitted from one relationship to another far too easily my childrem were always taken care of, omg, now I'm going round and round in circle again!!!!!!!!!! WHY AFTER 7YRS.

ladybirdintheuk

Oh my Tia and Tara both of you need :grouphug: and lots of :EasterBun.

Tia, I have tried to think of a few [strike]non-violent[/strike]useful things to suggest other than getting the boys in on the act, which you say you are already trying. Having a clear out of the clutter (including his stuff or not ) would definitely help - much easier to keep things tidy than to get them tidy iyswim. We had a similar row while I was on maternity leave (he doesn't see looking after Izzy as a 24/7 job like I do ) I got my mum to come help for a couple of days and so now we are keeping tidy/clean, rather than tidying up, and it makes a huge difference. I don't know if your mum/MIL is around to help you? Nothing wrong with asking for a bit of help when you have a little one.

Oh, the other thing that worked with my DH - he doesn't like me asking him to help with things, so we have an agreement that if he does things without being asked then I don't have to ask him to do them. And if I do need anything else doing and i have to ask him he a) will do it and b) won't be rude to me (it sometimes works ). I don't know if that would help at all... see if you can talk to him about it when you have some down time (not while you are all worked up) and delegate a few jobs to him that he can have as part of his routine? Even a few little 5 min jobs can make a lot of difference if you work out which ones are getting in the way of looking after the little'uns.

tarajayne

Police said they would come round within 48hrs. Can't see what they can do. Not even gotta stamp on it, I've got to pay £1.30.

scruffy96uk

Tia ((((hugs))))

tara ((((hugs)))

Elle Glad physio went well

ladybirdintheuk

Tara - that's terrible You need to get some cross feelings going, not some upset ones. Maybe even some pitying ones if you can manage it - they must be wrong in the head (or at least have nothing better to do with their lives) to be starting up again after 7 years!

We are here if you want to talk about it in more detail anyway.

Do you know who it was in the village, or that it was just someone there?

Does your DH know you have received it?

emlou2009

i wouldnt bother paying tara, how would they know? when someone sends a letter without a stamp here you get a photocopy of the address bit through the door saying you need to come to the sorting office and pay x amount to have this letter?

huge hugs. you dont deserve to be victimised for your past! its not even bad!! is it an ex?

SusanC_2

:grouphug: to Tara

Buttonmoons

Just been skimming today, but HUGS tara, that's horrible and If you know who it is or suspect, then send the police round their way, nasty f*****!!!

Tia - Your OH sounds like a kn0b, no offense, I know my house was a total tip when Keira was a baby, esp when they are wanting fed or stimulated ALLLL the time, she's 3 now and the house is still a tip, because now she can dump stuff as she goes, and OH says I should be getting her to tidy up but you know what? She comes out with the same excuses HE DOES - Keira go pick up those wrappers and put them in the bin, NO I CANT IM TOO TIRED, IM SLEEPY, I HAVE A BROKEN LEG, same kinda things he comes out with!! Throw the xbox!

Fitzio

Aww, hugs to you Tara - who would do that after such time has lapsed? And what business is it of theirs how you live your life?! They clearly have nothing better to do and don't have a life of their own if they can't move on.
Please try not to let it get you down and worry about your past. The whole point of the past is that it has gone. You have a lovely family so hopefully the police can put your mind at ease in some way and let you concentrate on your present and future with your beautiful children and grandchildren.