MSE Parents Club Part 7

elle_gee

My Dad was happy about me being pregnant, but his response to "It's a boy" was just "Oh.". I thought I'd really disappointed him and he'd wanted a granddaughter, then I got all defensive and almost hung up on him. Turns out he'd just not wanted to know the sex, but he wouldn't have lasted five minutes with Mum that day before she told him so he'd never have been able to remain in the dark 'til the birth :rolleyes:

feelinggood_2

My parents were happy, if a little suprised. I handed them the scan picture and didn't say anything. Mum sat there looking confused for quite a while!

I was talking to her the other day, and turns out I'd never mentioned liking babies or wanting to be a Mum. They all assumed that as we'd been married almost 4 years with no babies, that we didn't want them!

My Nan was the one I was most worried about. I'd been to visit her a few weeks before, and I was pregnant at the time but didn't know it. She was telling me I shouldn't have babies for at least ten years, maybe even twenty. I said I had no intention of getting pregnant - the next time I spoke to her I had to share my news. She doesn't really like babies, and just said 'Oh'. I told her I was happy about it and she forced a 'well done'.

Weezl - one thing is, that although you are grown up and a Mummy yourself, you'll always be thier baby. Sometimes parents worry about us more than they should. Could it be something like that?

redmel1621

mookiandco wrote: »

I meant to reply to this yesterday as its been playing on my mind. I'm not sure whether your contract should say whether theres a cooling off period.

Mine has a load of small print at the back and says ' a 2 to 4 weeks settling-in period is recommended at the start of the agreement. During this time no notice period or notice payment will be required if either party wishes to end the agreement but all other areas of the contract are applicable.'

Its atleast something that your older boys can tell you that Kai was unhappy and they were bored. I believe i've found the right childminder for us but I will never know if my baby is unhappy there unless the childminder tells me. I would much rather she was honest with me though and I could never trust someone that lied/played down the truth. You never know what she might try to hide from you in future.

For what its worth, I think its the right decision to take them out of her care.

xxx

Thank you for your reply. I am sure you have found the right one. Like you, I believe it is more important to be 100% honest when caring for other peoples children, I knew he would be very unhappy for a while as he is so clingy and this is what I explained to her. The fact that she completely downplayed it to a little whinge for a very short while is what annoyed me....as I knew that wasn't right and then the older two telling me what he had actually been like, without any prompting/questioning from me or dh, confirmed that she had in fact hidden it from me.

Now that is quite an insignificant thing to downplay, but like you say, what else will she downplay or with-hold from me? Add that to the mayhem we encountered when picking them up and what I was told by a mum who pulled her kids out of there I felt I really needed to look elsewhere.

Thank you for saying I am doing the right thing too:)

Claire_Jones wrote: »

Mel: there should be a part on your childminding contract that allows a cooling off period for both the parents/carers and the childminder- its usually between 2 to 4 weeks without charge. If your childminder has used the NCMA contracts I'll be able to tell you exactly where it would say if you need me to.

Yes they are the NCMA contracts...I eventually found it in amongst all the print on the back of the contract, so I take it as I have cancelled with immediate effect there are no more financial obligations, other than to pay for the the hours she had them on Tuesday.



FWIW - I went and visited a Nursery today (on recommendations) we left Kai in the baby room for nearly an hour while we viewed the place and went through contracts/prices/requirements etc I sneaked back and peeked in on him once during that time and then we peeked in before actually going into the room before leaving....He was having sooo much fun, he was grinning away and was in his element with all the other babies in the room and the mountains of toys....The staff are so so nice too and I actually knew one of them, a girl I had worked with many years back. I really felt so happy when we went back to the car.

He is now registered and starts on Monday. The two older boys are going to attend the breakfast/after school club that is attached to the school. It means a bit more running around for me but I need to feel comfortable with where they are so don't really mind too much.

Mel x

elle_gee

weezl, did you still want "jazzy" leggings?
http://www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&viewAllFlag=&catalogId=20552&storeId=12552&productId=1246293&langId=-1&categoryId=&parent_category_rn= :eek:

cazscoob

need to eat and not caught up but :grouphug: for weezl and CONGRATUALTIONS again. i know how you feel about the comments made i have been there and done that! noone ever said thats great or anything nice i always got another??? why??:eek::mad: its up to me i do all the work and dont ask anyone for anything and they still take it upon themselves to have a go??? at the end of the day are you and OH happy:D as thats all that matters xxxxxxxx
ok im off to find food lol! i have ate all day but have the never ending hunger?

oh before i forget my nephews bloods were bad again and he has to go back in 2 weeks to see if there is a change, basically my sister isnt being told anything and she is really worried now

weezl74

elle_gee wrote: »

weezl, did you still want "jazzy" leggings?
http://www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&viewAllFlag=&catalogId=20552&storeId=12552&productId=1246293&langId=-1&categoryId=&parent_category_rn= :eek:

Gosh! How erm....classy :rotfl:

DH says it'd be a mistake as our road is popular with 'ladies of the night' and an unsuspecting passer-by may make a tragic error :D

(sorry BTW if you really like them )

Awwww caz, sorry you didn't get a good reception, I think you're a legend

elle_gee

weezl74 wrote: »

.. (sorry BTW if you really like them )

Christ no! :cool:

Don't suppose you'd take "saw these and thought of you" as a compliment?

weezl74

elle_gee wrote: »

Christ no! :cool:

Don't suppose you'd take "saw these and thought of you" as a compliment?

well, you do have to be svelte-ish to get away with wet look leggins so yes, let's make it a compliment- Hurrah!;)

elle_gee

Btw, do you have a name yet for mini weezl? (like Fergus the Frugal Foetus.. is that right?)

searching_me

newmoneysaver wrote: »

SM - do you wanna email over the piccie - I'll get get it printed off tomorrow and popped into fairy post for ya. It should get to you Sat, hopefully! x

its ok sweetie but thanks forthe offer i had to tell him in te en as it was his memory card so suprise ruined ..........

weezl ((hugs)) when i told my mum i was pg with zoe i was screamed at with her saying "how could you do this to me" :rolleyes: .... and when she found out i was pg with jayden (i didnt tell her she fund out by some loud mouth in my family) i was told i had ruined my life again as id gaven up college to have him ... once again :rolleyes: ...... at least you dont have this to deal with ... thats a plus :rotfl: x