MSE Parents Club Part 7

elle_gee

Feelie.. *hugs* I agree with MFD, phone the GP and get him to fight your corner too. I don't understand why half your meds though..

MFD.. Awesome news on CM Have you got any more lined up to see?

My mum's gone to fetch the Jumperoo. She came round earlier (has been making voile panels for our bedroom window so brought them to put up) and it was her who suggested the Jumperoo so I looked if there was one locally and then asked here

Millie's_Mum

MFD CM sounds lovely, I didn't say anything before but I couldn't see you ever finding a CM who didn't have kids cos why on earth would someone whe didn't have kids be a CM? All the CM's I know got into it because they had kids themselves, you might find one with older kids but they would be there before and after school and if you found one with even older kids you'd prob find they'd have grandkids.

MFD & Elle thanks for asking about Ello's weight, after all that stress a month ago the HV didn't bother ringing me back until last friday, she said she had spoken to the growth team and they'd said they wouldn't want to see her and would be happy just if the HV managed the situation so HV is coming out to see me on Friday.

Unfortunately because she's got a cough/had a cold/is teething/is at the stage where she doesn't want to be fed (like Kai) she has not been eating anything like as much as normal so I am expecting to get a lecture once more.

I took her to a group at the local surestart last week where they have some scales you can use yourself, according to those she has gone from 12lb 13oz to 13lb 9oz in three weeks which I'm pleased with bearing in mind how bad her appetite has been.

Feelie, I don't understand how putting Toby in foster care would do anything other than make your problems worse? Toby seems to me to be a positive force in your life iyswim

searching_me

feelinggood wrote: »

GP halfed the dosage I'm on and told me to get an urgent appointment with the Psychiatrist. Got an urgent appointment, in two weeks. Debating what to do. Do I wait until I have another crisis and see the GP again, do I say sod the lot of them and do nothing, do I get in touch with an advocacy charity, do I email HV (again! Still no reply) or do I contact Social Services and tell them I need LO taken in to foster care?

do not contact SS you can get through it your little boy needs his mummy .. email, call or bang on the door of the GP or HV whoever you need to get the help you need x

elle_gee

Feelie, can you and Tobes go up to your mum's for a while?

Millie's_Mum

Elle Its ok we would all have told you to get the jumperoo, we love ours and we had to pay full price, I'd love it even more if it had only cost me £35

Feelie Elle is right, have you talked to your mum about whats going on and how you feel? You need someone on your side IRL and I don't think your OH counts at the mo.

My_Fathers_Daughter

elle_gee wrote: »

MFD.. Awesome news on CM Have you got any more lined up to see?

Nope - found this on through Netmums of all places! She lives in Staffordshire, who I have struggled to get a CM list off. I need to take hubby to see her though.

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

MFD CM sounds lovely, I didn't say anything before but I couldn't see you ever finding a CM who didn't have kids cos why on earth would someone whe didn't have kids be a CM? All the CM's I know got into it because they had kids themselves, you might find one with older kids but they would be there before and after school and if you found one with even older kids you'd prob find they'd have grandkids.

MFD & Elle thanks for asking about Ello's weight, after all that stress a month ago the HV didn't bother ringing me back until last friday, she said she had spoken to the growth team and they'd said they wouldn't want to see her and would be happy just if the HV managed the situation so HV is coming out to see me on Friday.

To be fair this is the only one I have seen that has little kids!! All the others (apart from 1) have had teenagers You should have told me to lower my expectations!! The one today mentioned about preferential treatment and said that if anything she thinks that she would put Benjamins needs before those of the girls. With a 2 year + age gap their needs are very different though IYSWIM - it is not like she has another baby to worry about.


Can you just tell your HV that you are happy that she is gaining weight at her own rate and you don't think there is anything to worry about?

feelinggood_2

I think GP thinks that part of the problem is a reaction to the meds, it happened once before on similar ones, so I'm supposed to be closely monitored. HV has replied to email, saying I should tell the GP and Mental Health team how I feel. Or, I could get in touch with Homestart - "If this could be arranged it wouldn't last forever".

I've not spoken to Mum, she is going on holiday soon and I don't want her to worry while she is away. I'll talk to her when she is back.

OH still is adamant that no one outside should look after LO. He said perhaps I'm just not made to be a Mum. Hard not to take that personally! He doesn't want LO left alone with anyone. He says he'll try and watch LO more. He did ask if I was cutting again, he seemed to believe I'm not, but that is more stress. He can't/won't tolerate that.

I'll give itt a couple of days on a lower dose, then phone GP on Thursday or Friday, asking if I can stop it all together.

searching_me

feelie .. ok first of all your OH needs a slap for saying such nasty things and why are you bothered by him you should be focusing on you and toby ... dont keep putting it off you NEED to talk to someone so they can help you as its clear your OH aint .. i swear i wish i was there as i would be seriously kicking some docs and OHs butt for making you feel worse when there jobs are suppose to be to help and support you x

sorry im just getting so angry that you seriously need someone there for you and no one is doing it .. ((hugs)) to you and toby x

My_Fathers_Daughter

Feely - I really don't know what to say, sorry.

((HUGS))

Millie's_Mum

Feelie maybe your mum should be worried? If you were one of my girls I would want to know (if only so I could give your OH a slap)

In your mums absence is there anyone else? Your brother? Sister in law? a friend/neighbour?

If you feel you need help along the lines of someone else looking after LO for a while then you need to find someone you are happy with and present your OH with an ultimatum along the lines of 'I've found a childminder that I am happy with and Toby will be going there at xyz times, this is her number so you can make an appt to see her if you feel you need to' if he's not happy with that then he must look after toby at those times.

I do realise that you find it hard but you absolutely must start standing up to him, Why on earth would he say something so mean unless he intended to upset you?

MFD sorry haven't been keeping up with the thread that well, assumed no kids of her own was wishlist rather than a serious want (you are so sensible I thought you would have realised it was a dream request)