Army Divorce advice

moneysavermum_2

Any woman who tolerates a situation like this has no self respect and is giving the green light to anything in the future. I hope she makes the right decision as whod want to live with someone who had done that to them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Better to be skint and have your pride and self respect. You wouldnt see me for dust!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

13Kent

If she tries to destroy his career then it will be the children that suffer in the long run - if he misses out on promotion then they will miss out on extra child support.

It is a horrible situation to be in, especially if you are living in a quarter and have to find yourself somewhere to live too.

ldonald101

bryanb wrote: »

Still trying to locate the "Privacy laws" that dictate she will be taken to the cleaners if she writes to his CO (see post 29)

T versus NPB 1924 is the Precedence for this. Hunt it down, you may learn something. Successful civil cases have been taken out based on this against individual companies and people who think they can threaten military personnel with the, "we're telling teacher" mentality. I have successfully represented personnel in the past resulting in letters of apology and compensation (and costs). If the lady wishes to use this tactic she needs to be aware of the consequences.

bryanb

Thanks for replying, unfortunately I don't have the necessary skills to hunt down legal precedents, so I'll have to leave it to those concerned or their solicitors.

EnglishBrainIrishHeart

bryanb wrote: »

Thanks! I realise they will only act in certain circumstances, Who can say if they exist?
CO will be aware even if no action necessary.
As I said earlier, It will hardly be a boost to his career.

The only time a CO will act is if there has been a criminal case or the respective service has been brought into disrepute - neither has occured here. This is in QRs but I cannot quote which one - but I think it is in the region of 900s or 1000s (at least that is where all the admin stuff is). Whether the CO knows about this or not makes absolutely no difference and I venture is nugatory effort, however, what action the individual can take against his ex should she write i cannot tell, but the individual would have a right to say that the matter is non of his CoC's business and pursue an infringement of privacy complaint against his CO/OC. As for SJARs to write about this or judge this on his annual appraisal is a big no no - and that is stated in JSP 757, the bible for SJARs! We are here to judge his ability to do his job, not his ability to keep his pecker in his trousers - believe me I know this as I do SJARs as a Flt Cdr regularly - and unless he can to be punished because of failing the Service Test then we cannot and must not do anything. FACT.

My advice to the lady is to try use the only route possible which is the civilian course of action and be careful using the best advice that has been posted here. The military cannot help serve any sort of punishment against this individual, not anymore. However, if he was any sort of a man he would see her right to sort the kids out until they need her support no more - and that is a single parent child talking here who knows that if his marriage breaks down, for whatever reason will always ensure that his kids do for nothing no matter the acrimony of the break-up. That is not fanciful, that is bitter experiences shaping how one will conduct oneself in the future.