MSE Pregnancy Club XVI

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

Oh yes - my face has flared up, the worst thing being only on one side which means i have a horrible spotty rash along my right jaw line

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

I have just been reminded of something - can you tell me if i am out of order or right to be fuming. OH thinks i am taking the pee and being selfish.

Basically we gave an awful lot of baby stuff, including a very nice pushchair, an expensive baby swing, a baby bjorn carrier, plus furnature etc to OH's brother with the agreement we could have certain things back for baby two once we were ready (made this very clear as we spent a fortune). Well it's 2 years on and we have told them we are preg and please could they arrange anything they don't use anymore so we can have it back now to be told, oops we didn't think you were being serious and they passed it ALL on to a relative. Now we don't have any chance of getting any of it back and now we have to get everything again - more expense for us We asked for the swing and baby carrier about a year ago (their daughter was 18mths and no longer needed it) as my brother was having a baby - they kept making excuses to delay saying they'll look for it ect, now i know why all the excuses back then :mad:

Now i am furious because we did make it very clear, basically they got everything off of us for free and took the pee. We spent so much as we were the first out of our siblings and friends to have a child, so no chance for hand me downs. Everything was bought new.

OH doesn't like confrontation so i think he is taking it out on me saying i should just let it go. He knows full well we can't afford to buy everything new again. I know we'll be doing everything from freecycle or cheaply on gumtree/ebay but it is the principle that has hurt me.

I have appologised and told them we will be passing on buying everyone xmas presents this year as now we have to rebuy baby items. Of course i will be getting most of the family xmas presents, but i'm sorry i am passing on the goodwill towards them if this is the way it'll be treated. I know it has nothing to do with it and a present should be the thought not what it is, but DD gets nothing from them for her birthday (not even a happy birthday), a cheap non-thoughtfull pressie for xmas, and we get cheap items that have no thought in them and we'll never use. I am fed up of making an effort to help and alwasy trying to be thoughtful with them - so from here on out no more.

Ok sorry for my rant but am i out of order? I mean we haven't even had an appology.

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

And the worst thing is as i am so emotional being preggers and all it has even made me cry, lol - so i feel (and must have looked to OH) like a bit of a div.

They didn't see me cry though - as it was all by phone. But still! Lol - i do feel stupid.

fernliebee

Fidget wrote: »

Thanks everyone,

I know I'm getting myself worked up about the whole thing. OH rang and I had a cry all over him.

I'm glad you lot seem to understand where I'm coming from with the whole induction thing - I was really taken aback that the midwife asked me to justify why I might want to avoid it. I pretty much thought that she would have already heard why a lot of people aren't keen.

Thanks Alibobsy - it's nice that someone can see where I'm coming from.

Nikkit - Thanks for the story - did make me feel a little more positive. I just remember the visiting hours being 2 hours in the morning and 2 hours in the evening when I had DD so I was thinking along those lines. I'm hoping they make some kind of allowances in the circumstances but the phrase "once your birthing partner is aware of your plan of care, you will appreciate that visiting is as per ward arrangements."

Aless - At first I was happy to get the induction date as I have to be honest, I didn't realise that I would be put on a regular antenatal ward, that it might take several days and that OH would be told to leave. I'm being so crap at the moment I can't do anything because I can barely walk. My little girl is going haywire with the whole atmosphere and impending birth situation that I'm thinking I don't want to poss go another week or so waiting. (For those that don't remember me saying she has learning and behavioural difficulties). She is going on about people dying alot so I think her little world is getting a bit rattled. I don't expect that to just disappear but there seems to be a high pressure feeling with nothing to focus on if that makes sense.

Huge labour vibes! Hopefully baby will come asap.

Just to say that I know lot's of people (at least 6 off the top of my head) who's babies were born or went in to labour just before their induction appt.

I was 16 days over with DD and my midwife was rubbish, I didn't even go and see the consultant about induction or anything. I wasn't worried as a lot of babies are 2 weeks late in my family, but even so they should have been concerned. I got a letter the day she was born saying I had to go and see the consultant the next week when I would have been over 3 weeks late!!

I really did not want to be induced though, so kept quiet about it (bit silly really as they can't force you to be induced, you can ask for regular monitoring instead, but it costs them more and takes more of their time, so they don't like to tell you that.) Personally I would have done quite a lot to avoid induction but you need to weigh up the pro's and con's for your own situation and make your decisions on that, right at the time in your life when you really don't feel like making any decisions. Lol! Hopefully you will just go into labour really soon and all these worries will evaporate!

three2be

BeenieCat wrote: »

Took my car in for tis MOT yesterday (failed on everything possible) but the brand spanky new battery is dead and won't charge although alternator is fine. Suspicious much?

Could be a faulty battery or the connectors, loose ones can reek havok. hope you get something sorted.

nancmat wrote: »

Morning all just to let you know I gave birth to baby Myla yesterday morning at 3.06am she weighs 7'10.5lb and is beautiful.

Congratulations:j:j Cant wait for birth story and pics.

Fishcake_Random wrote: »

Funny conversation of the day.
Job centre person - When are you due to have your baby?
Me; April 2nd
JCP- Is that April this year or April next year?
Me; Um..... next year obviously.

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OH once had a convo in the bank that went
Him..if i give you the 3p can you give me a £10 note
Teller...but you only have £9.97 in the account
Him.. i'll give you the 3p to make the ten
Teller... but you dont have enough in your account.

In the end he deposited the 3p in his account went outside and withdrew the £10 lol
You just cant teach common sense

kindofagilr wrote: »

Is anyone else having trouble eating??

I struggled all day to eat but i think it was more because i was enjoying being busy. have noticed i like to eat little and often most days though.lol

Evansangel wrote: »

24days until the new twilight film

Whoop Whoop cant wait. Looks so so good it'd better not disappoint

WOW sorry guys big post took a while to catch up you's talk too much hehehe

Labor vibes to Fidget what a rude MW none of her bees wax what your views were your wishes are what counts.
Beenie hope your DS gets better ASAP
After all that i'm so tired to properly post todays events , sis has improved a bit more today 6 hrs of ventilator. Work in dads living room has hit a slight problem, and may now take a while but at the speed i'm going at i don't care lol

Hugs and vibes to all.

BeenieCat

ellie i would be FUUUUUUUUUUUMING!!! I'm not surprised you're annoyed. God that is such a pee take

I'd also be fuming with OH for not speaking up to his brother about it. They should at least offer you some money towards what you have to replace.

Evansangel

gill_81uk wrote: »

Did anyone else find that they got more spots than they did as a teenager???

Well actually my skin has never been better,im spot free...on my face.

My back on the other hand :eek::eek::eek:
Looks like they all fell off my face when i was asleep or something :rotfl:

Oooh, ooh, ooh i think i felt baby kick tonight. Was talking to OH about something and i felt a little nudge on my inside. I went quiet and went "i just felt the baby" and it gave another nudge as if to say 'yeah thats me mum!' :D
She hasn't moved much since though as i've just been in the bath

Haha, i have made a baby gift list on Babies R Us, people keep asking what we need as they want to buy a present so i thought this was the easiest way of doing it. Plus i've compiled everything i need to get so its all in one easy place for when i have money again

Also, i swear my belly button is on the verge of popping out, it seems to be stretched and my old piercing scar which used to be hidden inside is now on the front of my tummy

BeenieCat

Gawd how expensive is Vertbaudet?!?! I was sent a code for £10 off a £20 spend so wanted to find some bargains but even with the code i can't help but feel it's all soooo overpriced!

my_gorgeous_ellie-belle

Oh thank you BeenieCat i am glad someone agrees. If he ever see's this he'll be angry at me but 2 of his brothers are very take take take. One is the complete opposite and is always helping us out too, usually with things like moving or being there when we need a bit of diy help, he is very much like us alwasy willing to lend a hand. The others we only hear from if they want something

I think OH knows this deep down but doesn't like to make a deal about anything, his way of life is if you ignore the problem it'll go away. Which clearly isn't the case here.:mad:

We gave up at least £700 worth of stuff too - we didn't want everything back, just made it clear that we deffinately wanted the £80 swing, the baby carrier which was about £50, deffinately the pushchair as that was our biggest expense and a couple of other little bits if they were still going to be in good nick after they used them. They agreed so i was more than happy to let them have it for their little girl, didn't really give it a second thought.

I may sound heartless, but i certainly will be tons more careful this time around. As we want a 3rd child at some point in the next couple of years we'll be keeping everything until we have done. If either of them ask for anything i won't hesitate in explaining why i WILL NOT be letting anything go, it might sound mean but i'd rather it go on Ebay after that.

To make matters worse OH asked that if they had any bits spare that they no longer needed if they could let us have them, they plainly said, ''oh no sorry we don't have anything now''.:eek:

Evansangel

I agree with you to MGEB, i would not be happy if that happened to me.
And i would almost definatly never give them things again.

And yea i know Beenie! And you cant use the £10 off voucher against the things that are a bit cheap in there haha

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