The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

RecoveringAlcoholic

Thanks folks for your kind words.

Some reading:

It will never happen to me: Growing up with addiction as youngsters, adolescents, adults.
Claudia Black.

Adult children of alcoholics.
Janet G Woititz

Perfect daughters: Daughters of alcoholics.
Robert J Ackerman.

honeybear_2

Lurkio wrote: »

you don't know what you're missing......

Pesto & olives, by the sounds of it

honeybear_2

Feel very proud of my little bear self as, in addition to all my cleaning, I have been to the gym :A

Am now going to collapse in the bath & hope that all the steam shifts my cold & sore throat

barshamhillbilly

winebox wrote: »

A quick hi & bye from me...a few people not around at the mo & think I'll have to join the absentees club for a while, but I'LL BE BACK!

In the meantime, keep well all x

WB - where are you going ? I just got used to being back myself

budget_babe

Hi Guys,

Been so busy, so just catching up now to see how everyone is doing?

I read the so sad posts of alcoholism and the ultimate devestation it has on everyone's life.We start off by being concerned that perhaps we are drinking more at times than we should, but never do we think that we could end up becoming an alcoholic.

But is this the downfall that we do not see, we are blind to this outcome. We choose to ignore this senario, as of course this is not us. I could not imagine losing everything that I hold dear and to spend my days drinking all the time.

I see myself as someone who may open a bottle of wine and drink the bottle, but if we are to be honest with ourselves this is the start of a journey. Some of us will stay at this stage but then we have experience of others who move on to another much darker stage in this journey.

I have said this before and I know alot of you think the same that I/we are not alcoholics. This I would agree with, but then there is the rational part of my brain which tells me that the people who have become alcoholics started off on their journey at this very same point. I am sure looking back in their lives they would have been saying the very same words. " I am not an alcoholic" only in time would they realise that they were!

Sorry I really don't know where I am going with this? I think it is reading Ra, Bis, Graeme and MollyPolly's posts which have set me thinking .................

Also Fay and her heartfelt post about her Dad, I know how much you have thought about your family Fay and also the relationship you have had with your father. I remember that you wrote him a letter a few days before he died, you never knew if he had read it, but as I said at the time, by writing the letter you ultimately made your peace with him. You are out of us all, a warm and caring person who has many wonderful qualities, you took a decision all those years ago to protect your children. That was for the right reasons then, and even after these years have passed it is still the right reason now. You are going through such an emotional time, people who seemingly have no integrity or compassion are making your life difficult for you. Remember that you are the better person in all of this, ultimately things will work out for you. Life is a learning curve, sometimes it is difficult but in the end we become better people because of it.

Things my Dear Fay will work out in the end :A (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ok going now but will be back, I think I have been a bit deep

God Bless
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

budget_babe

graemecarter wrote: »

and I imagine the last thing on this list would have been your life.
That's untreated alcoholism - it destroys everything.

There will be people who have been on this thread (maybe not currently posting) that are losing things already. It will only get worse for them unless they are willing to be helped.

This disease will take the lives of many people on this thread, and dramatically shorten the lifespan of others. It is a shocking, killer illness

As you know I admire Graeme, I always read and re-read his posts. I think the above sentences say it all.....................

We need to be mindful and we need to be honest with ourselves, if we are then our lives will be much better for it.

Graeme realised that he needed to change, and he realised this in time to save his marriage and home. Ra also realised that he needed to change also, sadly he realised this too late to save his family and home.
But not too late to save his life.

So this is the lesson that we learn, it is never too late to change :A

Sorry I seem to be in a very thoughtful mood ..........................
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

saorsie

Can you make that a 14 for me HB please (loving the new range of smileys btw )

Thank you to everyody who's shared their often painful thoughts this evening - it's certainly inspired me to to continue on my personal journey - thanks again guys x

-s-

RecoveringAlcoholic

And on a lighter note:

For Fay:

January features Darwin.

http://www.emmaball.co.uk/calendars/2010-coastal-calendar.html

budget_babe

Oh and on a bit brighter note

I am on 16af days and I went to the Doctors yesterday and my blood pressure has come down :j I still need the sleeping tablets but am overall feeling better as at least Budgie is getting some much needed shut eye. Re: the weight loss, well I have put 2lbs on :eek: I so need a summer meet up to shift it

I have though brought lots of fruit and veg today, and my Dear Mum has brought me a JML nicer dicer :cool: Budgie will be dicing everything in site come tomorrow morning, so watch out :eek:

So thankyou for scoring Ms Honey B, hope you are feeling better soon my friend, bear hugs and keep warm and safe. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Nettie hugs hunny and I hope your Mum is better soon, a very emotional time for you now but stay strong and you have all of our thoughts with you. (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hugs to everyone you are all doing brilliantly. :A

Btw where is: Eselt, Jo, 69 Chick and Miss P?

Ok pootling off, I have a seat booked to watch casualty and has I am af I will of course remember all that happens.

Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

heath480

Just been catching up with the posts.Well done to those who are achieving their targets.:T
I certainly didnt think I was an Alcoholic like my Mother,I drank for many years before my Alcoholism took off in a big way,very few Alcoholics stop drinking and those that do have to usually reach a "rock bottom".I am glad today that my drinking got bad enough for me to be desperate to stop.It is wonderful not to think about drinking,I am vigilent though,I dont drink Alcohol free beer or wine,I dont cook with Alcohol and I dont eat food with Alcohol in,I buy Alcoholfree mouthwash.
I never want to feel like I did 7years ago again.

Have a peaceful evening all.