The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

jo1972

Maman, they usually start the new thread, it normally closes at 4000 odd posts but this one seems to be running on quite a bit longer, it seems that 1st Jan would be the best time to start a new one though, new resolve and all that :cool:

Yes, where are the AWOL posters?

BHB
WB
115K
Fedupandsparkles
MrsDee
40SM
Gromit
PIR
IM
DC
Grey Pilgrim
Marthas Dad

Just to name a few :rolleyes:

Hope you're all okay, please pop in to let us know how you are even if you no longer want to regularly post on this thread xx

YM, sorry to hear bout the neighbours, though sword fighting with them is a little drastic No, no mince pies left, them indoors do love it when I do baking

xx

yellowmonkey

jo1972 wrote: »

No, no mince pies left, them indoors do love it when I do baking

xx

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jo1972

Right, I'm off to hit the shops




Wish me luck

xx

yellowmonkey

You will need more than luck......Brave girl

jo1972

Just having a quick look for a mince pie for you YM, then come across this



A mince pie USB drive!! How useful

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

Morning again Fay

Eselt, hope today goes okay, hugs to you xx

Just eaten one of 'my' mince pies, totally yum :drool:

Doing crap on the AF front :rolleyes: looking forward to Jan 1st when I feel I can draw a line under a strange year. Been most odd.....I've had more AF days than since I was 20 years old (I'm now 37 :eek:), I've been more depressed about my drinking than I ever have. But I have found motivation, sorted out my house and clutter, mind is free'er (sp?) and I feel happier in myself. So swings and roundabouts, I do feel that 2010 will be an improvement, all I need to do it kick the AF'ness into touch then I think it'll be all sorted

Why not start being AF now? Why wait?
We always put off stopping, and thus never truly start the process of stopping. You could go into Jan with a few days under your belt and confidence up. That'd be great wouldn't it?

I think the reason you feel depressed about your drinking is that while you have made great progress, you are still drinking sporadically. You want AFness, but cannot achieve it. Thus the alcoholic in you is saying "you'll never be rid of me entirely" and that is depressing.
Also, when you're not drinking you may not feel the peace and serenity you thought you'd get by not drinking.

You need to take away the desire to drink, which means
1) You no longer drink
2) You no longer feel you are missing out by not drinking

This needs a change in attitude and perception. It is not easy, and you really have to want it.
All you need for that is to be open, honest and willing. If you are willing to go to any length to get it, then it can be yours.

graemecarter

maman wrote: »

Jo, will we have to start a 2010 thread or will they do it for us? I think you've done really well this year. I know you'd like to wave a wand and be permanently AF but it doesn't work like that does it? I think you're AF days total for the year are pretty impressive.

Nope, unfortunately very little worthwhile in life is that easy.
The easy way out is to drink, however that kills you mentally, socially, and finally physically.
The difficult but rewarding way is to be AF - and for that many people need to change their lives. It is our minds that put the alcohol in our bodies. Thus we need to change the way of thinking and living to achieve a happy sobriety.
This is a difficult thing to do - out of the hundreds of people who have come onto the thread this year, there are probably less than 5 who still have a continuous period of being AF.
It can be done however if one is thorough and fearless

Marru

Pledged 498 had 242 AF days which is 49% in 61% of time

And full table here

Ok Aunty Jo - off to bed I go (after I've put the washing machine on )

Pippilongstocking

Hugs chaps - making soup here and a roast dinner later will I set the table?

We've lots of fizzy water in and lots of cordial (no wine or beer in the house) so who's up for a bit of roast chookie with all the trimmings and yorkshire puds?

Can extend my normal table (which sits 10) and put out the lovely new deep aubergenie purpley plates which I bought with November AF money

Got myself an orchid yesterday (=3 bottles wine) and its in the bathroom

Contemplating making a pavlova for pudding with rasps from the garden (in freezer) we can do a AF xmas party

Waves hello to folks - YM sorry to hear you getting more hassles

............pigtails and a santa hat here!

yellowmonkey

fayjmck wrote: »

............pigtails and a santa hat here!

If you look like this can I sit next to you