The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

ineedtokickthehabbit

Thanks everyone for such a lovely welcome.

Well last night went okay, I did not drink at all yesterday, I think the sleeping was a bit off and on, like when you are half awake and half asleep, but I feel really good today.

I know it is only one day but I feel quite pleased with myself. I want to stop drinking indoors, and just drink couple of glasses of wine when out and about, but don't know if I'll be able to, so will have to try.

The Christmas season will make things a little difficult, I have 2 Xmas parties this weekend, but what I will do is not have the secret stash, how sad.

GP, your comment about the Horlicks in the bath really made me laugh, I hadn't realised how it sounded, thanks for that.

Anyway I best get on with some work, chat to you all laters.

Thanks again, I know I am in the right place.

((Hugs))

dreamonsu

Good morning all and welcome to habbit :hello:. The title of this thread says it all and there are those of us who need to cut out alcohol altogether because it has, had or could have such a catastrophic effect on our lives, those who just want to trim a few units off and those in between. The thing we all have in common though is we recognise the power of alcohol. I'm a 'cutterdowner' not a 'giverupper' (or not yet anyway) but whatever you want to achieve this is a very good place to get help and support. Good Luck.

GG thank you for scoring in November, I was AF yesterday so that's 17 for November please. If you've 'closed the list' no matter I'm delighted to have made my target of 16 and had more AF days than not in November :j.
I came across this thread 69 days ago in September, at that time I couldn't remember the last time I had had a 'dry day' but it was probably about a year :eek:. Since then I have managed to be AF on 33 of those 69 days, saved at least £250 and lost 4lbs in weight! Thank you everyone:A
Su
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graemecarter

GreyPilgrim wrote: »

Anyone hear a massive thump a few days ago? That was me falling off the wagon.

Tantalisingly close to the 100 day challenge. It was a friends wedding. I just went for it and had a fair amount to drink.

And lets not muck around - although I'm kicking myself for it, I actually enjoyed the night so I'm not going to let the disappointment cloud the memory.

Let me just amend my autosignature and mentally prepare myself for starting again back at 0 days...

You seem to have the right idea.
Don't let a blip put you off the main goal. It doesn't sound like it has

Not making targets can undermine us, and makes us think "I cannot manage 100 days without drinking, thus I am a failure, I will never quit drinking, so I may as well drink". This is classic alcoholic thinking. Feeling hopeless and powerless.
This is why I just say one day at a time - I can do 24 hrs without a drink. That is manageable. Even if I have a wedding to go to, I can tell myself i can get through it without a drink, and I do.

Good luck in your new 100 day challenge.
If you cannot manage it, maybe you should try different methods to help you quit drinking in addition to this thread and will power

graemecarter

mumofseven wrote: »

Life's better without booze, and today I have no desire to drink. I hope you can find the same peace of mind too

I so wish I could find that same peace of mind too GC - was doing so well for about a month then it all went pear shaped (or bottle shaped), already had a bottle of wine tonight and just sent hubby out for some more, how sad is that! I am thinking about my new year resolution (for about the 10th year running) is there any hope - right now I am not so sure.

Seeing as you doubt yourself, then I would say there is little hope. Thinking about giving up when drinking is not going to put you in the best frame of mind
You have tried approx 10 times and never succeeded, so perhaps try different methods. Good luck.

ineedtokickthehabbit

dreamonsu wrote: »

I came across this thread 69 days ago in September, at that time I couldn't remember the last time I had had a 'dry day' but it was probably about a year :eek:. Since then I have managed to be AF on 33 of those 69 days, saved at least £250 and lost 4lbs in weight! Thank you everyone:A
Su
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Wow, what an inspiration you have done brilliantly. Gosh imagine having already saved £250 in such a short space of time. I also want to loose weight I have gained 2 dress sizes over the last 4-5 years, so that should be another inspiration for me. I will not have smoked for 2 months this Sat, but it hasn't helped with the food and prob have drank more alcohol than normally would.

Cheers
H

graemecarter

changing_ways wrote: »

Definitely there is hope, there are lots of people on this forum who have really struggled and been in very bad places and are now doing brilliantly.

I've never been able to do the new year resolution thing though - I don't know what others think but I reckon - after many failed NY resolutions - that it's the worst time in the year to commit to change while everyone else is pigging out and drinking too much. You could just choose a normal day.

The other thing is what wise folk on this thread say - you can decide not to drink for the next couple of hours, or the next day. Any longer is too long and too difficult. So a new year's resolution not to drink is just too scary because it's too long a commitment to make, so that you're almost setting yourself up to fail before you start. Baby steps!

Exactly - beautifully put

graemecarter

ineedtokickthehabbit wrote: »

Hi there everyone

I am a lurker on here and registered about a month ago to try and become AF.

To be honest I didn't try very hard. I feel that my drinking is getting worse and as a consequence I have not been able to go to work today and have felt terrible all day.

I really do want to try now, I went to Holland and Barratt and got some St. John's Wort and Kudzu which are supposed to help with cravings and anxiety.

I also got some Horlicks so plan to have a nice long bath with the Horlicks to try and get some sleep.

I feel really down about all of this, and haven't told anyone that I have this problem, I know that I am a bit cranky, I have lost all interest in work and home life, so I will for the moment come on here for bit of moral support if you guys don't mind.

Thanks

None of us here are Doctors - perhaps you should see one as I know many people who were feeling emotions similar to your good self (down, cranky, not telling anyone, loss of interest in work and home life) and they were depressed. Many people who are depressed 'medicate' with alcohol, when what they need is proper medical treatment.
Good luck

ineedtokickthehabbit

graemecarter wrote: »

None of us here are Doctors - perhaps you should see one as I know many people who were feeling emotions similar to your good self (down, cranky, not telling anyone, loss of interest in work and home life) and they were depressed. Many people who are depressed 'medicate' with alcohol, when what they need is proper medical treatment.
Good luck

If I still continue to have these feelings after I have cut down/out the alcohol I will visit the GP, I don't really want to end up on a load of Anti depresents, as they can become additive as well.
cheers
H

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all

How are we all doing today?

Welcome to I want to kick the habit. This thread is great for support when you're finding it a struggle.

Busy day today - going to town this afternoon with Mum whilst Piglet in Nursery. Not looking forward to that...its bound to be busy. Thankfully though, only got to get a couple of little bits and then I'm done. Christmas will be all sorted - yay!

I'm feeling a bit brighter today. Piglet seems happier. When he's in a bad mood everyone knows it. Can't think where he gets that from!:rolleyes:

Day one of December and I'm feeling positive. No alcohol for me today. Will be busy wrapping pressies tonight so that should keep me occupied!

Miss P
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jo1972

Afternoon all,

Welcome to Habit

Crashed and burned out of November so have a grand total of 28 thanks GG, thank you for the superb scoring