The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

Miss_Piggy_2

Just caught up a little bit on the thread.

Fedupski - ((hugs)). Even if you want an Ex to be an Ex it still hits you a bit when they move on. Hope you are ok.

YM - sounds like a touch of depression to me in all honesty. I suffer myself periodically (think just lately I have been) and it can seem like you are stuck on a treadmill going nowhere. You've been through a lot lately. I find I have to make a concerted effort to ENJOY things and surely that can't be right. But, trust me, it will pass. Talking to someone always helps, whether its us on here or someone close to you. You have make an efffort to let go of the things you can't control (the past is done and dusted so try not to dwell) and concentrate on the things you CAN control or change. Strangely enough, its why I can diet really well when a bit down - its something I alone have control over in my life! Sorry if all too deep. Feeling a bit snowed under myself lately so am in reflective mood!

Nina
xx

Pippilongstocking

Hands Miss P a shovel to get rid of the snow - x

Miss_Piggy_2

fayjmck wrote: »

Hands Miss P a shovel to get rid of the snow - x

Why thank you...think I need it!!:rotfl:

maman

Just catching up.

Miss P (:hello:) I so understand what you mean by forcing yourself to enjoy something. I remember my GP asking me a few years ago if I looked forward to things, so it's obviously a symptom of depression. Maybe we substitute looking forward to a drink to get over it? I know it's the lack of anticipation that I find hardest.

YM, I can't think of anything profound but to say that will help (it is Monday morning after all!) but do go to see your GP. You've obviously been through a number of traumatic episodes so it's no suprise you're feeling like this but don't feel you have to soldier on alone.

fay, I hope OH sorts out his days off so you can spend some time together this week or next.

Fabulous, autumn day here. I'm up for an AF Monday.

jo1972

A joke to cheer us up?

A man feared his wife Peg wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he
thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her,
he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem.

The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband
could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.

Here's what you do,' said the Doctor, 'stand about 40 feet away
from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears
you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a
response.'

That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was
in the den. He says to himself, 'I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what
happens.' Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?'

No response.

So the husband moves closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his
wife and repeats, 'Peg, what's for dinner?'

Still no response.

Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from
his Wife and asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?'

Again he gets no response.

So, he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. 'Honey,
what's for dinner?' Again there is no response.

So he walks right up behind her. 'Peg, what's for dinner?'










'Frank , for the FIFTH !!!!in' time, CHICKEN!'

graemecarter

Different_Corner wrote: »

GC
Going to the pub, don't think I can do that AF. More to the point I don't want to do that. Can't explain it, other than this nagging feeling that pub = alcohol.

11/22 feeling ever so tired, in bed by 10, up at 6, but still want more shuteye. Seasonal change ?

It's true that my pub visits are less frequent, and I certainly wouldn't go to a pub now by myself. There is no point. However, I still socialise regularly and a lot of that is in pubs. I drive, and normally leave after 1-2 hrs, so I am not around when people are getting really drunk.

Pubs are inextricably linked to alcohol. However, as I don't want to drink, I am fairly safe in pubs (or other wet places) for short periods of time.
If one is struggling, avoid at all costs!!!

You are doing great DC - long periods of sobriety can make you feel great

Pippilongstocking

Jo well done very funny

contemplating painting or cleaning at OH's - find myself strangley drawn to laptop instead ..........

Had two days drinking down here - once with a chum who's just getting seperated - only 2 drinks - and had some wine last night (OH is a reformed again person so didn't tut much but I did ignore his disaproving looks both nights) - found it hard though only bought 2 peedie bottles (just about half a bottle of normal wine) so that kept me on a straight (ish) line.

Avoided staying at a good chums house on Saturday who wanted to party cos we were down - I felt bad - I use to enjoy it - I don't anymore the kids are bigger and it would have meant staying over with them too - and we wanted to do other things. SO we didn't - met for a coffee instead, not the same - but a good compromise and kept things on the straight and narrow.

Small steps - normally with kids away I'd just get drunk every night to blot it all out. Baby steps trying to 'manage' my life changes slowly and make them stick.

AF tonight

ineedtokickthehabbit

graemecarter wrote: »

While I don't know your story INTKTH, for me I kept on doing it because I am alcoholic, and that's what alcoholics do. They drink. They feel remorse, promising themselves they won't drink again, but then eventually they do. Thus the cycle continues.

I drank because my problem is with life. Alcohol just compounds the problem. Alcohol is in the bottle, the ISM is within me. Alcoholism.
I hope you find the support you need on here. Posting for the first time is a brave step, so well done.

Thank you again for the welcome. I want to start my AF today, I have had a heavy weekend of drinking and am really feeling the effects of it today. I want to try and get to the stage when I can just enjoy a few glases of wine at the weekend, and not have the dependency that I have right now.

I am a secret drinker some of the time, but I must realise the only person I am kidding is myself.

Any tips for getting started would be much appreciated.

Thanks

Pippilongstocking

Can only say - I don't keep alcohol in the house, take each day at a time - I won't be drinking tonight and will be keeping myself busy. WHen I feel like you do I make a list of things for later to keep my motivation up - filling the evening up with positive things might help keep you motivated. Lots of us are reading so much more now as well!

I am sure others will pop along with some good advice soon - INTKTH good luck - x

40somethingmum

yellowmonkey wrote: »

Warning another deep post about my current state of mind


I think it is just a culmination of everything that I have gone through this last year or so. I stop myself enjoying things sometimes because I feel guilty. I feel guilty about the BR and am still under the restriction of that for another 5 months and just want that to end so I can underline that episode of my life. I have felt guilty since I left my ex wife 9 years ago now for my current partner even though she has since re married and is all settled.I have 2 lovely girls with my partner as well

I have tried for so long to keep a lid on this things and put on a brave face that I think the lid has just come a bit loose lately.

I seem to be in the mindset that the only thing I have to look forward too when I get home is a drink and I think that abstaining recently has brought to light the fact how much I rely on drink to get me through my life when I have so much going for me.

I need to realise that you can enjoy life without drink

Just need to open my eyes :rolleyes:

As I mentioned sorry for the long deep post but it is nice in a way to get these feelings down and therefore realise, perhaps, why I like a drink so much.

Will be AF today by the way

Thanks for listening

Big Hugs to you YM

I understand totally what you are saying . I am kinda in the same place as you at the moment ( mostly for different reasons apart from the debt !!).

We will both get through this.

Lots of Love

40SM:D