The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

mrsdee

hello all.
Am back from hols and unable to catch up on all the news from the last week but hope everyone is well and getting where they want to be.
I had actually put my target down as 23AF days this month, assuming I might want to have a drink every day in the last week on hols but I only drank on one of those days (and then only 2 glasses of wine, and then actually didnt really enjoy it!). So I think I am at 10 AF days for October so far and am planning to be happily AF for the rest of the month.
To the person who is getting panicky about not being able to look forward to life without a drink on birthdays, celebrations, going out etc... that's just how I felt when I was giving up smoking - I mean I couldnt possibly visualise how my life would be! But someone said to me, well, remember, there was a life BEFORE you smoked! When you were a kid you managed to run around and have a great time and have fun, didnt you? You managed to live your life! I think it's the same with drink. People do still have a great time (if not better, when you think about it!) and have fun and enjoy themselves without alcohol in their lives....
Good luck.

mollypolly

Morning everyone.
Had a mega busy time over the last couple of weeks.
Just caught up with everyone and wanted to say welcome back to cazza and welcome to newbies.

YM....Sorry to hear you are feeling down mate.....I get thoses feelings of what if etc too....maybe it is a bit of depression.I also feel jealous of what other people have but maybe if we looked behind their closed doors they actually dont have something that we do.IYSWIM.

We all have our crosses to bear.I don't know what the answer is but maybe you should see the doctor.....depression/alcoholism are nothing to be ashamed of.......just illnesses that we need help with.
Take care of you and yours.

Hugs to Fedupski.....Sister went through the same last weekend...quite a shock...(maybe you are my sister;))

Hope you are ok Jo.

Have a good day everyone.
Catch you later
Love Mollypollyxxxx

Waves to Fay.......you mean you don't know where you live..??????LOL

shaggydoo

Hi all,

for the welcome:D

I made it through my first night :j Hence my signature:D Watched x factor and then went to bed. Feel fine today, perfectly normal.

My aim is to have as many AF days as possible but I'm not trying to give up alcohol completely...hopefully this will save me £s and Llbs

Everyone

Shaggy

Pippilongstocking

Morning Molly - No I mean I need to figure out how to get from OH house to my own house (no car) need to make a plane, train and automobile type plan too many choices - and OH doesnt know if he's on holiday or not this week lol - nothing like a cunning plan (and this is NOTHING like a cunning plan) - going to the post office this morning so WATCH OUT!!!! (Not posting myself home you understand - sending out some shiny's in the post - although posting self is a good idea - much cheaper!!!)

Waves hello to Shaggydoo.....and the gang - YM the equinox is a crazy time for most folks noggins - doesn't help much but honestly I think this time of year is crazy - deep breathes - you sound like you have a wonderful family - don't stay in the dark - random thoughts often pop in my head and preoccupy me - I started to keep a diary and just writing all the randomness down helped - it seemed to get it out of my head and on a page. (?) Hugs dude xx

Pippilongstocking

The Outrageous October AFD Money saving Adventure Name.........................................AFD/Target........£saved to date/Total possible savings
Nessa 56. ………...5/10 *****£20/40.00
Fayjmck …………..8/31******** £40/155
MrsDEE …………..10/23 ********** £50/115
Icelandic maiden …11/31*********** £44/124 (27/100 day challenge)
Clarabell 13………..8/20 ********£40/100
Marthasdad ……….1/16* £4/ 64
Mrs JC…………….. 4/20 **** £24/120
Jo………………….. 8/31******** £52/201.50
Yellowmonkey.…… 7/NT ******* £42/NT
Mollypolly ….………11/31 *********** £33/93
Time2growup ..…….3/10 ***£12/40
So Sad Angel ….….11/31***********£44/124 (44/100 day challenge)
Marru ……….………10/31********** £13.40/41.54
115K ……………..…7/10 ******* £35/50
Different_Corner …...11/22 ***********£30.91/61.82
Dreamonsu……..…. 4/10 ****£32/80
Cazzasmazza…….. 9/28 *********£54/168
FluffyB ………………?/10 £?/?
40somethingmum …4/31 ****£20/155
GreyPilgrim……….. 11/31 ***********(37/100day challenge)£?
Price is Right..….... 8/25 ******** ?/?
Fedupandskint….… 8/21 ******** £14.80/38.85
Barshamhillbilly…... 33/21 units £0/£3 day
69chick………….… 5/20***** £22.50/90
Lurkio ……………....0/15 £0/75
Fakeplastictwee..… 3/10 *** £12/40
Wannabefree………. 1/10 * £?/?
Maman ………………5/10 ***** £16.65/33.30
Honeybear …………..2/10 **£10/50
Stroppy ………………1/8 *£4/24
Gromit......................1/10 *£4.50/£45
Budgie......................2/15 **£10/£75
Snowymalone............8/21********£24/£63
Mumofseven.........3/20 ***£12/£80
so here we are......1/10 *£?/£?
suweb5.................3/12 *£9/£36
winebox ...............1 *
Miss Piggy.............0/15 £0/£45

Ok so its a bit sloppy but you get the idea will perfect it later on and pop some totals in

And will amend thoroughout the day as folks show me where I have blundered:rotfl:


And watch out cos I am a bit nearer than normal well 300 miles nearer anyway

69chick

Morning all, had a non af weekend unfortunately Friday was worse, Sat better and yesterday not too bad....feeling really tired today..

Am still therefore 5 days af, but hoping now to get to at least Friday...my parents are coming this weekend with my nephew and my mum is a big drinker so I will find it hard not to drink Fri/Sat so might just not plan what I will do and see how I feel..

Hugs to FUAS and YM am not very good at putting things down but I just hope that the sun comes out for you this week..

Talking of random thoughts and worries (and I know I am weird here) but my problem is that horrible thoughts come into my head, especially when I am trying to get to sleep and its a lot worse when I havn't had a drink as I don't drop off as quickly.....I tend to have thoughts come in about children that have been hurt/abducted etc. I only have to read about something like that and it seems to stay with me forever and really upset me..then these thoughts make me feel generally sad at the world :sad:

Sorry for that downer all...

Anyway did what a lot of you did and watched X-Factor (love it) and Doc Martin (have only got into it this series and have realised what I have been missing!!!) can't believe the twins stayed in!!! actually I can, obv a sympathy vote...I do feel a bit sorry for them myself..think they will probably last now for a few weeks..

Fay I keep meaning to ask, do you have a blog? I love your writing style you always make me smile....thanks for doing such a fab job of the scoring too hun x

HB Hope you are feeling ok today and the bear flu hasn't got any worse

Morning Miss P lovely to see you on here, hope you and piglet have a lovely morning collecting leaves

Gotta go now and sort out a CV for a new job I am applying for, it will mean a lot more organisation on my part if I get it, but we could really do with the money right now....

Catch you all later x

yellowmonkey

Warning another deep post about my current state of mind


I think it is just a culmination of everything that I have gone through this last year or so. I stop myself enjoying things sometimes because I feel guilty. I feel guilty about the BR and am still under the restriction of that for another 5 months and just want that to end so I can underline that episode of my life. I have felt guilty since I left my ex wife 9 years ago now for my current partner even though she has since re married and is all settled.I have 2 lovely girls with my partner as well

I have tried for so long to keep a lid on this things and put on a brave face that I think the lid has just come a bit loose lately.

I seem to be in the mindset that the only thing I have to look forward too when I get home is a drink and I think that abstaining recently has brought to light the fact how much I rely on drink to get me through my life when I have so much going for me.

I need to realise that you can enjoy life without drink

Just need to open my eyes :rolleyes:

As I mentioned sorry for the long deep post but it is nice in a way to get these feelings down and therefore realise, perhaps, why I like a drink so much.

Will be AF today by the way

Thanks for listening

115K

Today will be my 7th day AF and £35 so far.

I'm planning a night out tonight too so hopefully I won't feel too deprived. The night out is very MSE too!:T

Hope you are all okay.:A

115K

It's good to talk about your feelings Yellowmonkey. It sounds like you have had a lot of upheaval in the past few years. (Hug.)

Pippilongstocking

YM - you've come so far - its good to let things out -

I'm with you on the realisation how much reliance I've had on alcohol to just get through.

I know its hard but try and focus on the positives - you've a lovely family and your ex is settled as much as break-ups are hard - just shows how much you care that you are still feeling guilty about it. The BR will be over in 5 months and like you say then you can draw a line under it finally.

You've lots of 'virtual' chums here to remind us all that there is a fun life without alcohol!

Hugs dude - you're a very lovely supportive bloke - enjoy the AFD today x

PS hello 115k will update list which is here

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=25903681&postcount=1816