How to find out A level results and if she is attendeding University !!

loftus

Rachelhen I think you're the one missing the point.

The OP's partner isn't questioning whether he should support her at uni and accepts his responsibility for that. The question is whether she is actually attending or not.
You talk about the cost to the mother. If the daughter has left full time education and is working, as an adult she now has a responsibility to contribute to that cost.
When couples divorce, in the majority of cases, there will eventually be a full and final separation including financially. If the OP's parthers daughter wanted some sort of help I'm sure it would be considered but the kids have to stand on their own two feet at some point.

dmg24

rachelhen wrote: »

I don't know any student that lives completely on their student loan. they all look for subs from their parents. of course I did not have a court order it was called love. should I, once they reach 18 just abandon them?

The students that you know are clearly very lucky. Many are not able to ask for subs from their parents.

rachelhen

I know that it is true. It was unfair of me to comment and I suppose it's just really me thinking about my situation and I can't put that onto someone else.

bestpud

rachelhen wrote: »

I know that it is true. It was unfair of me to comment and I suppose it's just really me thinking about my situation and I can't put that onto someone else.

Lol, it gets you like that!

I find myself doing exactly the same sometimes!

floss2

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

.... degree level study is already funded by the state ....

Not all students are fully funded.

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

....seems a bit unfair that he should have to pay the same amount of money for her when she's receiving £3,000-£6,000 funding, as he did when she received nothing in 6th form.

The young woman in question needs to be aware that any payments from her father to either her or her mother may be taken into account when calculating her student finance entitlement.

floss2

rachelhen wrote: »

I don't know any student that lives completely on their student loan. they all look for subs from their parents. of course I did not have a court order it was called love. should I, once they reach 18 just abandon them?

I actually know quite a few who do live off their loans - some more sucessfully than others. However, I know lots of others who work either during their vacations or part-time to support themselves without relying on "subs" from their parents

My 2 sons did not / do not "look for subs" from their father, and his maintenance stopped when they went to uni. I support my younger son (about to start his final year) as my household income with my partner means he is only entitled to 75% loan and no grant, so I give him the difference. As I was living on my own when older son was at uni, he was fully funded.

No, when they are 18 you do not "abandon" them. You continue to support them by helping out occasionally as they learn to stand on their own 2 feet as adults.

smartpicture

Actually I would agree with Rachel that once they start Uni, they cost as much if not more as at any other time, and I've said this before on here.

Of course that's not the case for everyone, and some parents aren't in a position to afford it, but my daughter and most of her friends at Uni are certainly topped-up by parental contributions. Even with a part-time job, it's hard to see how anyone can manage on the student loan (and remember it's mostly a loan, not a grant) without either working so many hours it affects their studies or doing without. If neither parent is in a position to afford to contribute, then fair enough, but if they would have reasonably contributed if the marriage had continued, then I think it's fair for both parents to contribute to their joint child while at Uni.

In fact, the OP presumably agrees with this, since they voluntarily agreed to continue contributing until the end of Uni, the only issue is whether she's actually attending Uni.

Mojisola

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

I'm not sure how she could 'prove' she was at university without disclosing which uni she was at, which she may prefer not to do for some reason.

As she's going to be living at home while going to university, there can't be many to choose from, so I don't think keeping it secret is behind the refusal.

In the circumstances, I would want proof that she is going to uni and I would want it confirmed each year that she is still a student.

Penny35_2

Thanks for all your comments and thoughts...

poet123

[QUOTE=rachelhen;25142909]"The Child" how awful for her to see herself referred to as that!

Hmmm,
I find this thread very strange, if the issue is that a loving father is concerned about his daughter's occupations genuinely' then it has nothing to do with the money. If she is living with her mother then the cost to her mother is probably huge! Is anyone thinking of that?

I know, I have three children and the only support any of us got was 1 £25 bag of shopping shortly after he was removed by the police.
This was despite the fact that he has had a considerable amount of money he has never enquired whether, financially, they were ok.
I realise that this is not the young woman's father on here and hope that he would be interested in her results of A levels and welfare for reasons other than finance.
sorry if I offend anyone and of course everyone's context is different[/QUOTE]

I was referring to the "child" as that is how a legal document would refer to her, or as "issue" as dependents are sometimes referred to, not meaning to offend, and of course I have no idea of her name!!