MSE Parents Club Part 6

weezl74

searching_me wrote: »

hello weezl and glam ... not in the mood to talk??? x

Just catching up with you all first

searching_me

ahhhhh ok chuck x

searching_me

i got myself a few beers for tonight i think i need them after last night x

tiamai_d

Rant alert, feel free to skip

How do I explain to DH that him working all the time is really bad for our relationship right now? He seems to think I have PND, which I have been thinking about but I have decided that I don't, I just have LSHD (lack of support from husband depression). Last night he came home and put the tv on, started watching eastenders and I started to tell him something (from on here so ok, not really important just chit chat) and he moved to look past me, grabbed the remote and turned the volume up. So I took the hint and went to bed without saying a word. This was after we went into town in the morning and he refused to come with me to drop DS2 off (we went into the coffee shop first as we were 20mins early) he sat and waiting till I came back then !!!!!!ed off through the back. We then spent a grand total of 15mins together in the town buying nappies before I had to go for my GP app. Last week he was on day shift so finished at 4pm, he was out every night doing important things (he thinks they are important), this week it's back shift so he sleeps all morning and I'm in bed when he comes home. If I am up I'm ignored anyway. It has went like this after each of the boys were born. He suddenly starts to work all the time to get more money, I hardly see him so spend more money. I feel like I'm all alone and so I'm cold towards him when he is here, he works more or makes excuses to go out (always to do very important things in his mind) and it ends up one big argument where we go round in circles. And he seems to think that everything will be better if I switch to formula feeding because Amber is small and not feeding enough. And because I'm such a stubborn cow I think 'know what, I don't care what he does he can go !!!! himself anyway' when really I want him to give me a big huge hug. Then I wonder why I keep having dreams that he is cheating or is generally just being very cold and I physically can't get near him.

And my throat hurts, I'm losing my voice, I smell of fenigreek and I need to go make dinner :mad:

SusanC_2

emlou2009 wrote: »

i dont have any bump pics i wish i had. took one at 7 months and then kinda forgot after that

That's the only photo I have of me between five weeks and when Alice was born. I have photos from when I was 3 weeks (which was actually the first day I was sick) because we were at a wedding then 5 weeks because we were on holiday then that photo at 38 weeks which someone else took at an ordination and then it's photos with Alice. Because I was ill I never did anything and it just never occurred to me to take photos. I do intend to next time though.

Buttonmoons wrote: »

I fell preggo at 17, I remember on my 18th birthday, I had to drag myself downstairs to blow out my candles, stopped by the toilet to puke, and went back upstairs to sleep. Great birthday!!

I was on an A-level maths revision weekend on my 18th birthday. And Boro lost a cup final (can't remember which 'cause they lost two in one year).

Sami_Bee

possibly not the best thing Tia but if it were me when he did the remote thing I'd have said "you know what, why don't you just f88k off, you don't do anything when you're actually here so why bother?!"
Hope things get better after someone gives helpful advice xx

tarajayne

Big (((hugs))) Tia. X

emlou2009

tia, i'm rubbish with advice but :grouphug: huge hugs!!

Sami_Bee

I was pregnant on my 21st bday, I had a fab time out with work to a Turkish restaurant tho, I just skulked off when they were past the tipsy stage and went home to my bed
My last birthday I'd just had Ed so we had a big family meal the month before while I was still pg and could enjoy it more

searching_me

tia first of all ((hugs)) ... sounds like your both being abit stubborn ... and he thinks hes doing right by giving you your space (sounds alot like me and philip) ... you both need to find a way were both of you can sit down and talk about both side with no judgement (or above a certain volume if your like me) ...... then find a way to make whatever you both said in to a compromise you both obvisially aint dealing well stuck in your corners ....... i find a walk and talk helps walking takes the focus off the topic but you say how you feel x