what time would you say was the right bedtime for an 11 year old?

amandada

peachyprice wrote: »

In bed by 9.30, lights out by 10.00 when mine were 11.

Same with my daughter who's just turned 12

(weekends we cut some slack and she can stay up till 10.30 but boy do we miss our evenings!)

Caroline73_2

amandada wrote: »

Same with my daughter who's just turned 12

(weekends we cut some slack and she can stay up till 10.30 but boy do we miss our evenings!)

Just because the child doesn't go to bed, you don't haveto lose your evening. DS1 has to go up to his room by 8.30/9pm. It means we get alone time and can watch what we want on tv without fear of it being unsuitable.

Lunar_Eclipse

Personally I'd say no later than 9pm, 10 by the time they're about 14 which I can recall needing to get all my homework done!

We're sticking with lights out at 8pm throughout primary school since mine need their sleep, we need our evening and I would much rather they were 'early to bed, early to rise' than being dragged out of bed in a bad mood for school.

We also have the same bedtime for every night of the week, holidays included (unless we're camping or overseas actually on a "holiday".)

lolababy

Hi my son is fourteen and goes to bed at ten. At the weekends we leave it up to him when to go to bed. My daughter is six and her bedtime is eight.

squibbs25

My ds started secondary school on Friday, he is one of those children that needs his sleep or else he cant function properly, so he's in bed by 8.30ish then lights out by 9pm. 9 times out of 10 though he turns his light out when he goes up and lays listening to his cd or radio which he puts on timer.
I know that some of his friends do go to bed later and the parents are quite happy with that.
My dd (almost 7) is completely different, recently she has been finding it really difficult to get to sleep, no matter what we try she is still struggling, but hey-ho we'll ge there! So as much as i agree children should have some kind of routine unfortunately my dd has other idea's :rotfl:

themaccas

My 11 year old goes to bed at 8.30pm and weekends 9pm. I seem to be very strict compared to the other posts on here though at weekends I don't mind what time lights are out!

amandada

Caroline73 wrote: »

Just because the child doesn't go to bed, you don't haveto lose your evening. DS1 has to go up to his room by 8.30/9pm. It means we get alone time and can watch what we want on tv without fear of it being unsuitable.

It's the price we pay for being evil parents and not having TVs in bedrooms! We're in the fortunate position of having 2 living rooms so we do at least get our choice of programmes!

neveah

hi everyone and thank you for all the advice .i wanted to tell you all that as of 9 pm our dd was in bed and is going to sleep by 9 30 at the latest and so far so good .w ends are going to be bed at 10 asleep by 10 30
nev x

Lunar_Eclipse

amandada wrote: »

It's the price we pay for being evil parents and not having TVs in bedrooms! We're in the fortunate position of having 2 living rooms so we do at least get our choice of programmes!

I suspect Caroline73's children don't have TV in their bedrooms either since she mentioned programmes being unsuitable.

There are plenty of activities children can enjoy in their bedrooms before lights out that don't involve electronic gadgets; reading being the most obvious. My children, although a bit younger, sometimes choose to write, draw or do puzzles like sudoku instead of reading. For girls, it's also the perfect time for a manicure if the only alternative is sleeping.:D

Caroline73_2

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

I suspect Caroline73's children don't have TV in their bedrooms either since she mentioned programmes being unsuitable.

There are plenty of activities children can enjoy in their bedrooms before lights out that don't involve electronic gadgets; reading being the most obvious. My children, although a bit younger, sometimes choose to write, draw or do puzzles like sudoku instead of reading. For girls, it's also the perfect time for a manicure if the only alternative is sleeping.:D

The eldest one does have a tv for weekends, not school nights. He has to ask what to watch though. The majority of the time he reads or writes/illustrates his own stories. I do make exceptions if I think something educational is on tv - last night he asked to watch the 9/11 programme so he was allowed to watch some and record the rest for today.

Glad you came to a good comprimise Neveah.