First Grandchild - more love??

feelinggood_2

On my side of the family, all grandchild are treated equally. I'm number 3 out of 5 on one side, and 5 out of 5 on the other, and never felt less loved that the others.

My LO is 5 out of 5 on OH's side though, and no-one is bothered about him. No-one came to visit when he was little, despite being at the hospital for the day of birth for the others. He is definitely not loved as much as the others.

It does make me a bit sad, but as long as they get plenty of love from other places, I don't think it is a real problem.

Katyag

My parents treat my two boys the same. My brother has a possible son (csa, dna all involved just now) but they have been treating him the same as can be possible considering they dont see him for weeks and weeks on end.

However, my in laws are totally different. They have 3 grandchildren, one girl and our two boys. The grandaughter is doted on, they even flew to Germany to babysit but wont come 5 mins accross town to see our two. Granted there are other factors but there has always been favouritism clear.

tandraig

my daughter had my first grandchild - a boy - then a girl, then son2 had twin girls and another girl, son1 has a boy - and I love them all dearly! very dearly, they cost me a fortune in treats and pressies!!! seriously after dd had 1st I was a bit worried that I wouldnt feel the same about the next one - but - they are all unique individuals and i love them as such!

Bufger

i was the second in my family and my nan likes me the best ;-)

At first who knows but its all down to who gives the most love and care back. Dont worry about it too much.

vastsarah_2

Hi,just became a granma myself to ds2 baby boy.
Cant think i could love that little one any more than i do now.
It make no differents to me that it my daughter in laws baby as he is my sons child.
I have a very good relationship with my grandparents due to my parents died when i was young.But i was the fav but then again i spent the most time there out of choice as a teenager.
I am aware that dd1 aged 16 did get jeslouse of ds g/f when baby was born but thats all died down now.

PinkLipgloss

Evening all,

I'm the oldest grandchild (on both sides of the family) and I do think it has "special status". I guess it was partly because each of my parents have lots of brothers and sisters and I was their first niece and my grandparents quickly became second parents.

When I was 3 I refused to live at home (as my sister came along) as I was much happier at grans were I was centre of attention! My poor parents were devastated however I think I grew out of it (eventually)!

As others have said its mostly about spending quality time together. I spent a lot of time with my extended family (still do) and as such my cousins always complain that I'm deemed to be "the favourite".

tanith

I love all 7 of my grandchildren equally but differently, they all have a special place in my heart but for a different reason, one being my first grandchild, then my first grandaughter, the youngest , the middle one , the cheekiest, the most like me, and so on and so on. You get the idea I love them all in a different way... as will your family, your child will hold a special place in its grandparents heart for one reason or another but loved they will be...

moneypanicker

My MIL likes to think that she favours all 9 of her grandchildren the same - but it is very obvious that the first born can do no wrong and is clearly the favourite. I've got used to it now!

Sneezy

I think grandparents do treat their grandchildren differently - i'm the oldest on both sides my Nana treats the three of us the same (altho sisters at uni & college get pocket money-while i work &don't need it). My granny however is another kettle of fish when we were younger she never took an interest in us growing up first words etc but when my cousin was born it was all they could talk about - i was 19 and could see the differences in the way we were being treated!Which were hard to watch but after a few family fallouts (the first been that her christening was arranged on my sisters 18th and the reason was because my granny had put pressure on my uncle to arrange it while they were still in ireland) i just think my gran is making up for lost time...

Threebabes

My inlaws hardly see my kids and I had my three kids before my SIL had hers and my MIL/FIL never bother with mine, but see my SIL's all the time. So depends on grandparents and their relationship with their child, so if they are close it probably means that they will be close to their grandchild.