husband wont go!!

bestpud

Have they tried Family Mediation?

http://www.familymediationhelpline.co.uk/family-mediation.php

I'd say that may be worth a try. Relate will help with post separation issues too.

But, as I see it, she has three options:

1) Stay put, but you say that is a strain (and I can imagine it is! :eek:)

2) She leaves and finds a private rent for her and the children. If she is on a low income she can apply for LHA. I realise she may not want this, but she needs to remember he doesn't either!

3) She sees a solicitor (the CAB will recommend ones who deals with this sort of thing) and take it to court, if she has to.

The reality is, if it goes to court, the parent with custody of the children will almost certainly get the house. They are not going to award a family home to a single person, and rightly so!

The risk is, if he wants to be with his children, he may decide to go for custody...

Is there any chance of that, do you think?

ZiggyStardust_2

If it's true that he is displaying unreasonable behaviour (meaning emotional abuse/violence/neglect etc) then yes, he should go, enabling the woman to stay in the house that is the children's home. Too many men cause problems for their partners when in reality a good father would move out. What sort of man would see his children rather see his children in an unhappy home or force them to move? Of course, if the father was the main care giver and it was just a problem between the couple it could be a different story.

bestpud

ZiggyStardust wrote: »

If it's true that he is displaying unreasonable behaviour (meaning emotional abuse/violence/neglect etc) then yes, he should go, enabling the woman to stay in the house that is the children's home. Too many men cause problems for their partners when in reality a good father would move out. What sort of man would see his children rather see his children in an unhappy home or force them to move? Of course, if the father was the main care giver and it was just a problem between the couple it could be a different story.

Well, we only have one side of the story, but if they both feel they have compelling reasons for keeping the house, it will ultimately be a court that decides.

pelirocco

Op,how close a 'friend 'is she?

KellyWelly

pelirocco wrote: »

Op,how close a 'friend 'is she?

Yes, I was wondering if she's a friend or a 'friend'. Has this lady found someboy else that turns her head and has decided her husband has to voluntarily make himself homeless and leave his kids to suit her?

longwalks1

thanks for all your replies people, ill have to reply and quote to those that suggested things so please bere with me....

longwalks1

mrcow wrote: »

Maybe it's more to do with the fact that he wants to be with his children?

Has she sought legal advice?

If only it was to want to be with his children, hes made it clear its as he'd have no where to go, and has a couple more kids that he never see's too with his ex

She hasnt sought legal advice yet, but may be a rough to go down, many thanks mrcow

longwalks1

ariba10 wrote: »

If it is that bad. Why is she still there?

Its the home she has built up for her children, the kids school and friends are close by, and her side of the family too, she also does 99% of things round the home, where as OH treats the place as a bed and breakfast

longwalks1

Bob_the_Saver wrote: »

Why should he, it's his home If he isn't violent that is.

Didnt (and dont) want to go into details for obvious reasons but, unreasonable behaviour needent only be violence.

longwalks1

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

But aside from whether the unreasonable behaviour is violent or abusive you seemed to have assumed that the man would be in a position to be able to look after the children and would want to?

I read the OP's post as the man doesn't want to leave because its somewhere cheap to live and would cost more to go elsewhere not that he wanted to stay in the family home with the children but perhaps now I too am assuming?

Spot on, does very little if anytihng for the children, except shouts at them and upsets them, and has stated several times no interest in helping out of wanting to look after them...