husband wont go!!

Bob_the_Saver

Bethankim wrote: »

Forget the adults for a moment - the chilren have a right to a home without being uprooted. the adults have choices the children dont. If the relationship is in such a state of no return then. One of the parents needs to take responsibility for the children - mum or dad, so who ever does should have the greater right to stay not for themselves but for the children.

Why? they just have to work out an arrangement for a workable lifestyle.
Millions of people live like that.

There are two sides to every story.

"For better, for worse" where did I hear that?

Not talking about this case... but maybe someone in this situation for instance sleeps in another room to avoid NAGGING:eek: for instance

woody01

Why doesn't SHE go and leave the children with him.

Its always in favour of the women.............

esmerellda

The OP mentioned unreasonable behaviour. If there is violence or emotional abuse of any kind you could not condone leaving the kids in that environment ?

woody01

esmerellda wrote: »

The OP mentioned unreasonable behaviour. If there is violence or emotional abuse of any kind you could not condone leaving the kids in that environment ?

Unreasonable behaviour could be a million different things.
You assume, just because she has stated this, that the fella is knocking her around.

That's not good judgement is it?

zippychick

woody01 wrote: »

Unreasonable behaviour could be a million different things.
You assume, just because she has stated this, that the fella is knocking her around.

That's not good judgement is it?

yes it could be a million different things. Emserelda did not assume anything

esmerellda wrote: »

The OP mentioned unreasonable behaviour. If there is violence or emotional abuse of any kind you could not condone leaving the kids in that environment ?

ariba10

Personally I would think if there was violence it would have been mentioned.

Unreasonable behavior could mean taking too much of the Duvet at night.

woody01

zippychick wrote: »

yes it could be a million different things. Emserelda did not assume anything

But it's what was suspected. (If truth be told, almost every woman that read this would suspect that).

galvanizersbaby

woody01 wrote: »

Unreasonable behaviour could be a million different things.
You assume, just because she has stated this, that the fella is knocking her around.

That's not good judgement is it?

But aside from whether the unreasonable behaviour is violent or abusive you seemed to have assumed that the man would be in a position to be able to look after the children and would want to?

I read the OP's post as the man doesn't want to leave because its somewhere cheap to live and would cost more to go elsewhere not that he wanted to stay in the family home with the children but perhaps now I too am assuming?

smithyjules

who knows exactly why the guy wants to stay in the house apart from him?the woman could well be saying that to get her friends sympathies, and yes sadly this does happen. from the outside my parents relationship looks very much one sided-like my mum is treated badly...but thats because she tells everyone her life story.My dad chooses to keep his problems to himself and not involve anyone else

seven-day-weekend

Bethankim wrote: »

the reality is that as she has children, and u less he has a priroty need and is deemed a vulnerable adult he may be forced to go. But he may hold out in the mean time

So does he. Why should it be him that goes?