Psychosis Support Needed

claire0788

I may upset the gender but , men (most!) are ar**holes. Im sorry your upset, I hope your feeling a bit less sad and sorting your head out.

Fire_Fox

I can't understand why he told me: I just didn't need to know. He cheated on his previous serious girlfriend but he was a lot younger then, and I know the reason they split was that he knew he wasn't treating her right. I asked him last night and he never told her what he'd done, so why tell me?

claire0788

Maybe to burden you with his guilt. Im telling you, ar**s (sorry guys but really...)

carolan78

Sorry Firefox I didn't get a chance to read your first post but I get the jist of it. Please convince him to speak to the GP he sounds like my brother in law He started off with small episodes that could be ignored and then it got to the point where he didn't come out of the phycosis and 18 months later he still isn't ready to leave hospital. It doesn't look like he will be out anytime soon either.

He has been diognosed with bi polar depression and schizophrenia, this was apparently always present but cannabis triggered something in his brain and brought it out. They can't say for certain but the Dr's reckon there's a chance he wouldn't have experianced the illness half as bad if it hadn't been for the drugs. So please try get him to seek help or failing that next time he goes into a phycosis get him to the hospital. My thoughts are with you xx

Fire_Fox

claire0788 wrote: »

Maybe to burden you with his guilt. Im telling you, ar**s (sorry guys but really...)

I wonder if it's a way of making sure it's over, a full stop.

ClootiesMum

Sorry to hear about all this Fire Fox.

I can't offer anything constructive on either illness or relationship front (I have been INCREDIBLY lucky with DH) but I do think if there is another major episode a visit to A&E might be the best way forward - at least he'll then be on the radar.

I wish you all the best and whatever decisions you make you virtual friends will be here to support you

Take care

Fire_Fox

Well yesterday I asked Mr. Fire Fox why he was acting like nothing had happened, but he said he wasn't. We chatted a bit and he said he never thought I'd be like this [so upset], he thought I wouldn't be that bothered!! I asked if he'd be bothered if I'd cheated and he would ... he can't seem to explain any further.

lilmissmup

Mmmm hun you sound confused. Do you want to try work it out?

Fire_Fox

I do not want him to leave. I know our relationship has been more like housemates for many months, so I can understand why this has happened. I don't want my last memories of him to be me obsessing about him touching and kissing her: it makes me feel sick.

In terms of his mental health he has been 'normal' all week, except that he has asked a couple of times about who I'd have been named after had I been a boy (a Russian revolutionary!) which links in with him thinking about the film I mentioned in post 7. Since he doesn't have the slightest interest in politics, this is unusual.

lilmissmup

I know its different and my ex didn't cheat but we got very like house mates too, unfortunately he just didn't want to try and make an effort to get us back on track. He used to moan at me when he was drunk though about sex and how i didn't fancy him (not true), if he had talked though rather than turned it into a row then who knows but anyway there were other issues, all more his side than mine but related to the smoking.

If you think you can try though and hes willing too as well and its going to make you happy then try and work it out, maybe him staying at his mums though for a while might help you if you need some space.