Bed wetting help

Pont

I was very lucky as both DDs were dry day and night at an early age. However, I remember a friend, whose DD was the same age as my eldest, asking me how I 'handled' it (luck!) as her DD was still having accidents at 6 years.
I bought several very pretty sets of underwear/sleepwear so she felt 'special' and woke her up at about 11pm everynight to have a pee (she was half asleep so held her on the loo!). If there was an 'accident' I quickly subbed in a new set of underwear without her knowing.
This method worked for us but every child is obviously different. I think the main advice is they will all get there in the end so don't worry too much.

squidge60

Please dont feel tempted into waking them,i feel it really is one of the worst things you can do imo ! think about doing away with the pullups as well i know its hard but i think they are a bad idea as well tbh.good luck whatever you do.

cheepskate_2

Until the bladder recongnizes the need to go while asleep , then bedwetting will occur Waking them up in the middle of the night does not stop the bedwetting but merely interuppts sleep and if you catch them stops them wetting the bed.

I was a very late bedwetter and all the standard practices/bribes etc were tried but didn't work. One day it stopped and i never wet the bed thereafter

Is there a mattress protector you could get and a load of bed sheets, seems a bit nicer than them knowing they wear pullups or nappies.

I was lucky and both my boys stopped wetting the bed at night when they toilet trained in the daytime, but i think i was just lucky.

fernliebee

http://www.twinkleontheweb.co.uk/acatalog/details-11YOYO.html

I haven't used these as my DD is still in regular washables so we still have this stage to come, however I have been reccomended this style as you can change the absorbancy by stuffing it less and less iyswim. HTH.

Pont

squidge60 wrote: »

Please dont feel tempted into waking them,i feel it really is one of the worst things you can do imo ! think about doing away with the pullups as well i know its hard but i think they are a bad idea as well tbh.good luck whatever you do.

squidge - not being argumentative but why do you think waking the child is wrong? If it works for some people what's the problem? IMO there isn't a 'right' way or a 'wrong' way to address this - finding the way that suits your child is surely the best way.

From my experience, from DDs friend's mum, finding a resolution is the important factor. It never crossed my mind (until said mum mentioned it) how bedwetting at 5/6/7 years of age can impact on the child. She mentioned how her DD was never involved in sleepovers etc (always made excuses why her child couldn't go) so felt her daughter missed out on all of the young 'girly' things. I think that's very distressing for a little girl.

Interestingly, and I'm sure it's down to luck/timing etc., but I told mum concerned to send her daughter for a sleepover with my DD - not a problem. She did and her daughter was dry all night and she continued to be so (no I didn't wake her in the middle of the night!).

afroscot

I bought the waterproof sheet/quilt cover and pillow case set from Argos. Not very expensive but the quilt cover is really noisy. I decided pull ups were not for him as the bed inevitably gets wet anyway. This at least means I am not washing a quilt every day!

Lets hope all our darlings get it sorted soon!

Zziggi

GP/HV/School nurse don't view bed wetting as a "problem" until they are aged 7. My DS is now 7 and has been referred for help. Until they are this age you are on your own I am afriad.

We've been to the enuretic clinic and they said pull ups/pyjama pants are the absolute worst thing you can use as kids get lazy in them and just pee (however they didn't suggest what a stressed mum should use instead!). ALso we were told to cut out oranges and blackcurrants in ANY FORM out of the diet as these often irritate the bladder. We were also told to totally cut out lucozade and red bull from the child's diet (who feeds their children this stuff at 7 years old?!?) and to only give DS water to drink.

Still hasn't worked though....

LearningToSave.

have you tried lifting them before you go to bed?
i ask because until about 8 months ago we had the same problem with my daughters(age 4.5 and 6.5)...couldnt get them dry and in the case of the eldest the largest size no longer fitting.
i decided to try waking them for toilet at about 10 or 11 at night before i went to bed and we have only had 2 accidents in the whole 8 months since we started doing it.i was worried about them not going back to sleep etc but theres never been a problem with that either.

kippers

My DD1 was 8 and half before she stopped wetting the bed at night. My DH was older before he stopped wetting the bed as a child. I was told that it is hereditry so please don't worry, it will happen when they are ready....the problem is nobody talks about their older children wetting so you only compare with children who are dry at night (obviously parents don't mind talking about children that are dry at night)

kippers

squidge60 wrote: »

Please dont feel tempted into waking them,i feel it really is one of the worst things you can do imo ! think about doing away with the pullups as well i know its hard but i think they are a bad idea as well tbh.good luck whatever you do.

Just wanted to say we did take our daughter to the loo before we went to sleep (about 11pm) and it didn't do any harm. After a while she started going herself in the night and then one magical night she didn't go and she has carried on like this since with no wet beds and it did save on pull ups.