Am I being unreasonable?

littleange

I personally think uni is more about the experience and the social life, as these days it doesn't often help with getting a good job, as previously mentioned, theres so much competition now with so many people going to uni.

Therefore I think if your working you miss out on a lot of the experience if you have to work while all your mates are off out.

nearlyrich

crazyscientist wrote:

Apologies if i have read this incorrectly but did you say that your son in question is not your current partners' son?

If this is the case then i think your income assessment should be done on YOUR income only (excluding everything to do with the boy's stepfather as he is under no responsibility to provide for him)

Check it out with the LEA, it may make a big difference!

It was changed to household income in 2004 the year my son started at uni and last year they started charging 2 x full fees so I have been scammed twice now, can't wait to see what they come up with this year:rolleyes:

freebie_junkie

littleange_com wrote:

I personally think uni is more about the experience and the social life, as these days it doesn't often help with getting a good job, as previously mentioned, theres so much competition now with so many people going to uni.

Therefore I think if your working you miss out on a lot of the experience if you have to work while all your mates are off out.

if you decide not to work tahts your decision, but your oparents shouldnt have to bankroll a party lifestyle!

if the government has decided that the parents must contribute to teh fees and its £1000's then thats fair enough, teh parents should do that as it assessed on income and thats only fair (mines only assessed on my income so i dont pay owt towards mine anyway)

but teh idea of parents giving 'pocket money' to their adult children or paying for their accomodation! makes me feel ill!

(and im coming from the perspective of a 22-year-old student)

babe_ruth_3

[HTML][/HTML]savvysue, I will e-mail and tell him but somewhere deep inside I kinda think he will just ignore it but I can but try.

Heth_2

I was very lucky (I guess msot of you will say spoilt) in that my parents supported me at university for my first degree. I couldn't get a student loan (brought up abroad) so they paid for my accommodation, tuition fees and gave me what was about 70 quid a week to live on. I had a lot less money than quite alot of my friends. In the summer I didn't get anything, so I worked or applied for grants from my college to stay up and study. I personally don't think that I would have had time to work to earn enough to live on during term time. I took my course very seriously (and also had alot more 'contact' hours than lots of arts courses) and it really was like a full time job. I feel lucky that I got a great degree and I'm sure I wouldn't have done so well if I'd been doing bar work for 15 hours a week.

Savvy_Sue

babe_ruth wrote:

savvysue, I will e-mail and tell him but somewhere deep inside I kinda think he will just ignore it but I can but try.

Don't think my son ever looks at it either, but at least I know he's being frugal, reckons he lives on £10 per week including food!

crossleydd42

Why do we still persist, uniquely, in the UK, with the notion of 'going away' to uni instead of going to the nearest one? Admittedly, some uni's do specialise to the extent that they are centres of excellence, (and the nearest is sometimes not within a day's travel), but this applies in exceptional circumstances.
Many of the problems flagged up here would not occur if this were the case.

littleange

Not many people wanna stay and settle down in their home town, they wanna start their own life somewhere new.

KeyserSoze_3

I second littleange_com's post, some of us just wanna move away from home, have our independance, our own space. I, personally, regurlaly go back home as i work during Easter, Xmas and summer at my local Asda. I still miss my family and my college and high school mates but at the same time i love university life and my new best mates.

miaxmia

Whilst my daughter was at Uni, although she lived at home, we supported her by keeping her car running and paying for the petrol, obviously she lived at home for free and we also gave her a contribution towards clothes and paid for any Uni books. She worked very hard, working both days at the weekend, and this money funded her social life, holidays and more clothes, presents she wanted to buy etc. She also worked every hour she could during the holidays. In her final year, by Christmas, her Uni work load was far too great, but she had managed to save some money to keep herself going for the last six months. I didn't begrudge helping her because she was working very hard herself - her course was pretty full time and most of the other students on her course didn't work at all. It doesn't matter how much you earn, when you are assessed it is based on what you earn and an allowance given for other young children in the family/other family members at Uni and not on what outgoings you are already committed with!!!