Daughter having panic attacks about UNI

bestpud

johnswife wrote: »

Finger nails? what are those?

Actually i am smiling at the moment as I got an email from her (5.45), general chit chat and then she said someone knocked at her door and asked if she wanted any shopping. So she is going to go with them to buy something for dinner.
That's one tick!

Sounds good!

evildoctorbluetooth

so glad shes doin well, im starting uni on the 20th, and im nervous for the following reasons

1 that i wont get on with my room mates, im sure everyone thinks that, so i should discount it

2 ive been to several uni parties with my friends (im a mature student) with people saying while drunk "what my gf/bf dont know wont hurt her" while i wont be one of them(i have a gf whos lives in cheshire, im going to liv uni), i spose i dont want to feel left out if everyones coupled up regardless of who they have at home (does that make sense)
cheers guys

Lokolo

evildoctorbluetooth wrote: »

so glad shes doin well, im starting uni on the 20th, and im nervous for the following reasons

1 that i wont get on with my room mates, im sure everyone thinks that, so i should discount it

2 ive been to several uni parties with my friends (im a mature student) with people saying while drunk "what my gf/bf dont know wont hurt her" while i wont be one of them(i have a gf whos lives in cheshire, im going to liv uni), i spose i dont want to feel left out if everyones coupled up regardless of who they have at home (does that make sense)
cheers guys

1) Yeh it happens. But you have to think, its only a year then I can move in with whoever I like. One of my housemates in second year didn't get along with any of his hall mates (5 of them!) because they were nothing like him. He would only be in his halls to eat and sleep, rest of the time he would be in my halls as we all got along there. You learn to live with it.

2) heh. I had a gf in my first and second year back home, I didn't do anything stupid, got to see her every month and then at xmas, easter and summer. However we did split up a few months ago because we didn't see each other enough, sucks.

space_rider

Hope your daughter does manage to stay the length of the course.

My daughter went to Luton and came home to the East Midlands every week. I managed to get her a job where I work in the November so she could afford the train fare home and eat. She would have come home anyway job or no job. Every week she came home she said she wasn`t going to go back. I did in the beginning suggest that she didn`t come home but she still did. I managed to persuade her each week to go back and see how it is by the next holidays. Thankfully she managed to stay and by the last year she only came home every other weekend. For her final year she is going to London and is quite excited about the prospect.

This daughter as a 3 year old clung to the door of her nursery school and never really mixed with her peers. I would take her to parties but she wouldn`t let me leave her so in the end we started to say no to invites. At 6 it was suggested she see a child psychologist because she didn`t speak to her teacher unless she was forced. She would spend most of her time up in her room writing stories and didn`t mix that much with parents and other siblings. By her teenage she did get much better and had friends.

It`s hard to force them to be what they can`t be but I really hope the antidepressants work for her and she manages to cope with uni.

johnswife

Hi,

She came back this weekend but didn't need any persuading to go back. she has a trip today so i am hoping everything goes ok.

She waas a quiet child but went to parties etc. She became more reclusive from 13+.

Oldernotwiser

So pleased to hear that things are going better for your daughter (and you!).