MSE Parents Club Part 5

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jillie1974 wrote: »

caz and mrs t-
thanks for your honesty.
i have to admit lots of people saying 'gas and air only' or 'just use pethidine etc' i hadnt given too much thought to the possibility that i would have to use epidural. but after talking with tia te other day i realised it was the best thing for me. birth plan now has...

Whatever is best for mum and baby
epidural
as much mobility as possible (i know i may not get this but even to walk round my delivery room a little would help)

the one i want at the end of this is a safe delivery and a baby

I wanted a natural birth ideally. I wasn't keen on an epidural because of the catheter and being stuck in bed, and I didn't want other pain relief.

In the end, I had a very unnatural birth - induction, epidural, lots of monitoring and was prepped for a c-section.

Immediately after the birth and for a little while after, I had feelings of inadequacy and was quite upset.

However, now (19 weeks) I don't feel bad or upset by it. It still wasn't my ideal, but it all happened for a reason, and it was the best thing for us.

Next time round (if there is a next time) I'd like to try without an epidural. If I'm in the same situation again, and end up being induced with high blood pressure, I will take the epidural with no guilt or shame.

searching_me

anyone wanna do maths??? ... no??? ... ok suppose i'll do it :rotfl: ... the super sluth is on the case (zoes watching disney playhouse) ...

caz sounds like you got your hands ful today x

SusanC_2

jillie1974 wrote: »

birth plan now has...

Whatever is best for mum and baby
epidural
as much mobility as possible (i know i may not get this but even to walk round my delivery room a little would help)

the one i want at the end of this is a safe delivery and a baby

Those two are mutually exclusive. (Although active labour would decrease the likelyhood of your needing/wanting an epidural.) Have you read Active Birth by Janet Balaskas?

cazscoob

yes i have my hands full but the simpsons are on so all is quiet in the morrison household PMSL!!!

Jillie talk this through as much as you can with midwifes/doctors beforehand so you know exactly what will happen. i think that not knowing whats going on at the time is more scarey and if you know whats coming then you will be more calm and focused. i hope that you get the birth you want but be open to take whatever is required

cazscoob

thats a nice bouncer elle and the better frame IMO! i like to be able to bounce erin when she wont settle and falls asleep!

MrsTinks

Alexandra seems to have taken to doing one huuuge poop late afternoon - but quiet ones so first you know is when they overflow the nappy :eek:
This time the victim was the jungle swing... it's now in the washing mashing with another innocent by-stander... Raffi! Oh I hope she doesn't realise he's gone :eek: He'll be back in an hour! Honest!

Becles

Tesco are selling DVD box sets of childrens stuff for £6.71 for 3 DVD's, and you get 200 extra Clubcard points.

I got Charlotte a mix one with Bob the Builder, Thomas the Tank Engine, Pingu and others on, but there were other sets too.

I'm putting it away for Christmas

MrsTinks

Oooo cool thanks Becles I'll do some stocking up too Even if not for this or next year hehehe

cazscoob

thanks beccles will need to get in for a look! i scared myself yest with how close christmas is! we have baby turkeys at work so have ordered one of the poor victims(they are the best fed turkeys ever and have a huge field to run crazy in!) and am putting £10 per week away from now til then and that will buy my turkey, fruit and veg and hopefully a few extra goodies:D

MrsTinks

I never do turkeys - my local butchers does do them but I always get ducks - much tastier and much prefer duck to turkey... failing that get a goose it's like a turkey with taste :rotfl:
We still haven't decided what to do about christmas... hmmmm decisions!