Weekly Flylady Thread 17th August 2009

rosepink1984

xx_Jo_xx wrote: »

have just realised that the X factor is back on at 7pm!!! Im switching my phones off, opening a bottle of wine and a bar aof chocolate - and everyone else can shuffle off!

It was great wasn't it! I see we have quite a few fans on here. We went round to a mate's and watched it with him, it was great fun! What about that lovely teacher who came on at the end, he was lovely!

Valli wrote: »

Does anyone else feel downright nasty female doggy and spiteful at this time? I could cheerfully set the house on fire
(but for the mess LOL)

I quite often want to murder everyone around me, and it's perfectly obvious that everything they do is to annoy me and if they are not doing anything that's annoying too!

It’s probably too late for you to see this, but I hope you have a lovely time Kaz xx

Soappie, I’m jealous of you watching Wycliffe, I love those and Wexford too

Ellen you have had a fab money making week! Well done!

Gentle hugs Valli, hope you are feeling better now

Quillion your Sunday lunch sounds absolutely deeelicious!

Thanks Froddy for the 101 in 1001 I’ve saved it to read later

Bonsi glad you are getting some new trainers and a holiday next year, sounds like it will be good!

Me, I’m so glad you are getting some help with the move, that’s great! Sorry to hear about your ex-MIL

Big hugs Zoe, I’ve got no advice to give but it sounds like you are a great mum and I’m thinking of you all

We've had a busy weekend - DH and his dad went to collect the new car,it took 7 hours! :eek: Men!
And then we went to a mate's for the evening where he fed us spag bol and we had a good laugh at the x factor, and then today we had a lie in and then went to our Bible meeting which was lovely.

I need to hoover where the COD was and put it back there, and finish off the top drawer and all the gibble that's on the top of the COD - all the stuff that I don't know what to do with!

gratefulforhelp_2

zoelikesjam wrote: »

I seperated with DD1 and DS's dad when ds was born due to domestic violence. He never hurt the children nor did he do anything in front of them so he continued to see them everyweekend fr the following two years. Despite him being a compleat waster and a total a*hole to me, the children enjoyed spending time with him. However we've had to go through court and cafcass to sort out acess time and they came to the agreement that it was joint residence, i had the children from sunday to thursday, him a long weekend. Things were going well'ish however on mothers day things came to a head and long story short he assulted me infront of the children. The poilce were involved, he was arrested and charged and solicitors and social workers became involved. They all advised we withdraw contact as DD1 was having terrible nightmares and had to have a little bit of councilling. She's 4. Anyway, we got a non molestation order(like an injunction so he cant come near us) and we moved house away from him and all his family. I am now fighting for full custody with minimal visitation. However i am really struggling with this. Jaimee loves her dad, and she is too smart for her own good. whilst she knows daddy was naughty and needs to be told off and she understands why she cannot see him she is obviously constantly asking about him, and asking if we can call him. I never ever wanted to stop them seeing there dad however much of a banker he is but now he has hurt them, yes it may be mentally but that can be worse sometimes, i dont know if i can trust him. I am in moral turmoil atm an its eating me up. Im pulling my hair out and i dont know what to do :mad: Its having such a bad effect on me, I just feel so guilty for stoping them seeing dad and then in the next breath i think im doing the right thing.

Right, rant over. sorry about that i just had to get it off my chest. :eek:
Anyway, im going to make some twinks hobnobs and some fifteens now! x

Hugs, Zoe. Was in a similar situ with xH, though he showed signs of violence and uncontrollable temper to DD1 (3 months old). I allowed only contact supervised by myself, which was unbearable, but better than the alternative.
If the experts other than yourself (the key expert) are saying withdraw contact, then maybe it would be better to do that, for a specified and shared limited time (you decide how long). Then you could share this with your little ones, and agree a time to review it? Am no expert in the legals, but you sound as though you are being ultra reasonable.
Good luck with this.

pigpen

Zoe.. big hugs to you.. you havebeen so very strong in coming this far and achieving what you have achieved. At age 4, she may be a bright spark BUT she has no idea of what the possibilities are.. you obviously are able to consider IF he ever did anything to one of the children.. she can't see or understand or probably not evencomprehend that as a possibility.. he is her daddy and she loves him.. but YOU can see beyond that. You have to do what you must in order to protect you children whatever their feelings on the matter are, if you consider a risk too great, don't go there. You have the law on your side and the right to protect the children. Supervised access may be an option as frodders suggested, with a SW present or a trusted family member or friend.

You are NOT stopping them seeing their dad.. HE did that by behaving like a prize trossock.. do not even think you are in any way to blame here.

If any of us can offer any help, please just ask and we will as far as we can.. (((hugs)))

It is your job to protect and nurture your children and let them enjoy these years. You know what he is capable of and if he can be trusted with them.. only you can make that decision.

Quillion

My lunch was lovely. I have plated my mates and her daughters up so they can collect it on their way home.

Done 4 loads of washing and even managed a couple of hours sunbathing.

greenbee

Princess_Jane wrote: »

Hello,

ask my fella again and he says the bit he doesn't understand how to work how much the appliances is costing you - is it meant to do that?

Didn't bother with that... I thought it would probably take too long to put the costs in, so just recorded the usage and worked out the cost myself. TBH I just wanted to see what the difference was between various things and various cycles - which used more or less. If you focus on the cost per wash etc., you'll think it doesn't cost much - it's only cumulatively that it gets expensive. If you know relatively what uses a lot and what uses a little then you can decide where to cut back or what to change.

toottifrootti wrote: »

had lovely chat with my intended victim

Still working on it are you then

Had a lovely afternoon at the pub for the basingstoke meet...

Have now hoovered downstairs and am about to do upstairs. HUGE cobweb under the water tank which may be where the spiders are coming from :eek: so need to have a really good go at all the floors and the airing cupboard. Think I'll wash as well as hoover, and maybe get the tea-tree out again.

Than have to deal with the fruit and veg glut in the kitchen... eating it looks like a good option

Zoelikesjam

HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLP!!!!!!!!

Just made my 15's and gone on to make my twinks'hobnobs and the sodding scales have broke! Can anyone tell me how much 8oz is? I've got a pint glass or normal coffee mug. I need to know how much 8oz of flour sugar and oats equals and how many grams of butter 8oz is Anyone help?!!!! xxxxxx

Dustykitten

Hello to all

Had a wonderful time in France, usually I'm glad to be back from holidays but could have stayed longer.

I hope you are all ok but the thread is too long to check. Hugs for anybody having a rough time.

I'll be back on board next week for now the car is still full!

greenbee

zoelikesjam wrote: »

HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLP!!!!!!!!

Just made my 15's and gone on to make my twinks'hobnobs and the sodding scales have broke! Can anyone tell me how much 8oz is? I've got a pint glass or normal coffee mug. I need to know how much 8oz of flour sugar and oats equals and how many grams of butter 8oz is Anyone help?!!!! xxxxxx

Will check and get back to you if no one else has by the time I get back up here. In the meantime, I have a spare set of scales in the garage, so PM me your address and I'll post them when I post the cookbooks to Jo tomorrow!

lav1979

Magnificent Monday ~ Living room, Hall, Stairs and Porch!
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter all the floors
Tidy away the coats and bags and shoes etc[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Vacuum all the floors, shake the muck out of any mats
Dust and polish any electricals
Wipe and wate and plants[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Check all those smoke alarms! hoover it
[STRIKE]straighten any books/CDs/DVDs etc on shelves[/STRIKE]
Tidy the understair cupboard[/STRIKE]

Extras

1. Wash any windows in need
2. Wipe over sofas if needed
3. Clean the mantle.. polish and put back only what is meant to be there.
4. Wipe skirtings and dados and door frames!

Tuesday Twinkles ~ Kitchen and dining area
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter and wipe worksurfaces
Sweep and mop the floor[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Scrub the sink clean and polish up those taps.. attack with a toothbrush to remove those grotty bits GLEAMING !!!!
Clear and clean window sills
Wipe the table, replace cloth if needed[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wipe units, kickboards and appliance[/STRIKE]
Clean the oven and hob
[STRIKE]degunge the fridge
[/STRIKE]
Extras

1. Wipe the back door.. inside and out
2. Clean a small appliance.. defuzz the kettle, decrumb the toaster etc
3. Scrub out the grill pan
4. Clean light fittings/lamps

Wednesday Wobblies ~ Bathroom, Landing and Loo!
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter the floors.. mop or vacuum as appropriate
Empty and wash out the bins![/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Wash any shower curtains, bathmats etc that need it
clean the bath/loo/basins/showers etc .. polish up those taps so they shine!
Scrub down the tiles [/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wipe over any paintwork, including the doors!
Clean any light fittings
Empty and tidy the towel cupboard, restock loo roll holder if necessary
[/STRIKE]
Extras

1. Wash the radiator and windows.. polish the mirrors
2. Decant any dribbles of shampoo/bubbles etc into a fuller container so you have fewer bottles lurking about
3. Sort through a box of junk, or a drawer or cupboard in one of these areas!
4. Spend half an hour doing something for yourself!! Because you're worth it!!

Thrilling Thursday ~ Master bedroom
Level One
[STRIKE]Strip and wash bedding.. remake bed as soon as sheets are dry. not at bedtime!
Do some filing!! See if you can clear one hotspot![/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Declutter the floor.. shoes away, clothes away.. mess away!
Vacuum the floor now you can see it!
Sort through one cupboard make sure all is neat and tidy within![/STRIKE]
Level Three
Wash the curtains/nets NOT GOT ANY YET
Dust and deweb.. don't forget the light fitting and bed frame!!
[STRIKE]Tidy the bedside cabinets.. get rid of all the empty packets and used tissues..:p[/STRIKE]

Extras

1. Wash the windows if necessary
2. HHI
3. Catch up on phone calls!!
4. Binbag dance!

Friday Flyby! ~ Childrens rooms/spare rooms or neglected rooms!
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter the floors[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Strip and wash bedding.. replace with clean
Spend half an hour doing something for YOURSELF!!!! You work hard and deserve it![/STRIKE] PIGGERS LOVE U LOTS
Level Two
[STRIKE]Drag the junk from under the bed and put it away nice and tidy
Vacuum/mop floors
Dust and deweb[/STRIKE]
Level Three
Sort through a box of toys or 'stuff' and get rid of the junk and rubbish!
Sort through a cupboard of clothes and get rid of the stuff tat no longer fits and make it all tidy
Extras

1. Straighten up the bookshelves
2. Wash the windows if needed
3. Scrub down the
4. Tidy up computer/PS's etc and unsnaggle all the cables!!
   
5. sticky paintwork
   

TOOTS CAN I HAVE TWO STARS PLEASE SLOWLY GETTING MY BUTT INTO GEAR :jAND YOU MUST BEHAVE !!
JUST POSTING THE LIST - HAVE ACHIEVED THIS WEEK SOOO HAPPY HAVE BEEN FALLING OFF THE WAGON, CANT BLAME FLYLADY BAR (VALLI - ARE U STILL IN IT!!! LOL WHERES MRS B ?:D) NEED VODKA - PIGGERS WILL U JOIN ME :j
WILL CATCH UP ON THREAD AND POST
ZLJ - BIG HUGS XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

greenbee

Butter - approx 200g
Oats (mine was a combination, but probably about the same) - half a litre (just under a pint)
Sugar - quarter of a litre
Don't have any open flour...