Dh just wont

fizzel81

thank you for all the advice so far, he ate last nights dinner his comment being it was nice but next time can we have it without the beans ok fair point i have found something he will eat ds1 ate the veg i did with it but ds2 cleared his plate(8 months old must be easily impressed) i can see now its going to be a long battle for the last 5 years we have lived on convience food who was i kidding thinking i could change the last 5 years in a few weeks i will battle on and hopefully get there in the end

fizzel81

im also just about to go through the freezer some of that convience food has been there for a year see if i can free some space for this weekends grocery shop (the food wont be off but i wont be able to get any fresh meat etc in)

Rachie_B

fizzel81 wrote:

thank you for all the advice so far, he ate last nights dinner his comment being it was nice but next time can we have it without the beans ok fair point i have found something he will eat ds1 ate the veg i did with it but ds2 cleared his plate(8 months old must be easily impressed) i can see now its going to be a long battle for the last 5 years we have lived on convience food who was i kidding thinking i could change the last 5 years in a few weeks i will battle on and hopefully get there in the end

exactly,but dont stop now take baby steps and you will find you will stick to it more easily and hopefully get OH on side too in the process

you are doing well and doesnt it make you feel better knowing you are cooking from scratch / cooking your family HM food / and saving money into the bargain ?

nuttyrockeress

My OH loves it to I think. He thinks it's great to come home and have a home cooked meal pretty much straight away.

(I have always done home cooking - never have bought convenience foods in 7 years of living together)

The saviour for me is using my SC more and finding time to bake at the weekends. Normally I would be watching TV - (fair enough we are massive Ice Hockey fans and most of our weekend in the season is taken up with following our team and we are now in the close season) but I am enjoying baking and seeing the smile on peoples faces!

Perhaps as your DH what foods he likes, what his favourate is then work at adapting it?

snoozer

I do sympathise, carry on though, especially with your children, they will really appreciate it later.

When my DD and DS went to UNi they would ring frequently for the recipes for things I make so a couple of Christmases ago I bought them each a nice notebook and wrote the families favourite recipes in them.

They both have said that they are the only people in their digs who cook from scratch or eat any veg.

Mind you they were both home for the Easter Weekend and ate me out of house and home because "it's so much nicer when you make it mum" How to butter me up. :rotfl:

lynzpower

When I met my OH in June last year I was like :eek: at his diet. All processed. & I mean EVERYTHING. His mum does a mean roast in fairness with fresh veg & decent meat, but aside from that it was freezer food all the way.

I dont want to sound funny here, but pretty much any product thats frozen, processed & contains meat, I wont touch it and it wont come in the house. I delighted in watching Jamies School dinners seeing what was going into the twizzlers and turning round to him and saying, you know what, I wont let you eat that, its just not good enough for you. Think he liked the sound of that

OS to me is money saving, but really its about the quality of what we put in our bodies. If you eat out, whats more expensive? A generic burger from a takeaway, or a homemade chunky beef burger with fresh salad & all the trimmings? Or a wetherspoons style processed to hell chicken kiev or a handmade chicken kiev? The home/handmade ones are always the most expensive in the pubs round here. Thing is, the homemade prices are usually equivalent to the "bought" prices, if not cheaper as many here will testify.

The first time he came here I did him handmade chunky beefburgers & spicy cajun wedges followed by profiteroles. Cost me £3 for the lot. If I bought profiteroles in sainsburys or tescos, they would have cost 2.50 easy. This way, I made the chocolate sauce with Galaxy, his favourite.

Hes now very much converted, and Im teaching him how to make some of the recipes himself. ( not all of them, still out to impress ) His burgers are better than mine! We do have "lazy food" frozen bolognaise sauce in the freezer or the odd vegetarian frozen item like linda mccartney sausage rolls, or country pies ( the only difference between these and meat versions are no rogue gristle, just lovely) and we have started to have at least one vegetarian meal a week ( an achievment believe me) in orderto positively impact on the environment.

And all this from a man who a few short months ago would have eaten value ham...

fizzel81

i know this is no real relevence
omg just had a huge shock at the amount of convience food we had in the freezer im glad i defrosted it now as it gave me a chance to chuck some bits away (some of them had been in there over a year were half opened etc i chucked a large sack of stuff away (the thought of eating it turned my stomach as it was bought by dh at various times.
we have about 2 weeks worth of dinner stuff(not inc veg potatoes) so now i have the choice do we blitz through it all for the next 2ish weeks do i become stronger and bin most off it (highly tempting) eat it which will save us a bit off our shopping budget or combine it with heather home made food if i go for option one that free's up so much space for buying fresh enableing me to cook from scratch

purplegirluk1

What a nightmare!! If I had to put up with that OH would get a swift boot up the bum and shown the door :mad: But seriously, if he isn't cooking the food then kindly ask him to butt out, my OH does no cooking and so has no right to come in a moan or be unhelpful (which we wouldn't do anyway, he values his life too much to cross me in the kitchen!)

In my experience keeping stum in best, the more you explain they seem to feel like they can't provide enough for you. I enjoy my OS ways and OH knows all about it but I know if I go on about it he feels like he should be giving me more money for food cos he thinks I am worrying when really i'm enjoying makimg meals with little money so we can spend it on better things (like saving for our own home)

Good luck though, I am sure it will work out well. Oh yeah and don't buy the jared food if you can make your own,thats just silly!! Tell him its better for her and your doing it weather he likes it or no :rolleyes:

Rachie_B

fizzel81 wrote:

i know this is no real relevence
omg just had a huge shock at the amount of convience food we had in the freezer im glad i defrosted it now as it gave me a chance to chuck some bits away (some of them had been in there over a year were half opened etc i chucked a large sack of stuff away (the thought of eating it turned my stomach as it was bought by dh at various times.
we have about 2 weeks worth of dinner stuff(not inc veg potatoes) so now i have the choice do we blitz through it all for the next 2ish weeks do i become stronger and bin most off it (highly tempting) eat it which will save us a bit off our shopping budget or combine it with healthier home made food if i go for option one that free's up so much space for buying fresh enableing me to cook from scratch

the money saver / hate to waste in me says use some of it but make it healthier eg having something from the freezer with HM potato wedges and veggies / salad

then once its used up ,go shopping and start from there

PoshPaws_3

If I were you, I'd plan out a week's menus and weave the convenience foods into it, mixing and matching with home made stuff (like having a frozen Lasagne with home made wedges and salad) and interspersing it with totally home made meals, until its all gone. That way, you reap the benefit of not switching your DH over to home-made all in one go, which should keep him happier.

As for how to deal with his resistance to it all - I completely agree with the "don't talk about it" advice. To start off with, I'd keep it all completely to myself and just dish up the food without comment. If he asks what's for dinner that night and its a home-made dish, say something like "oh, its pie tonight and burgers tomorrow", so that the last thing he hears is what he was wanting to hear in the first place. After a while, you can start to do things like draw his attention to reports online or in the newspaper about how bad hydrogenated fats are for heart disease/blood pressure, how bad too much salt is and how much salt goes into processed and pre-prepared foods. Don't go for overkill on the information, just drop it in every so often. If he's an intelligent man and he's not been starving to death or having the food police call round in the meantime, :laugh: , he'll work out for himself that the way in which his diet is moving, is a very good thing. Before you know where you are, he'll be waxing lyrical about how healthy you're all being and how he was instrumental in making the change.