Dh just wont

fizzel81

as you can see im in debt hence why i started comeing on here to see how i could cut back ive done the stardrops and microfibre cloth thing, i use soda crystals when i use my washing machine and only half the powder.(he wont and puts full powder in)

my problem is DH take yesterday for example he invited our neighbours over for dinner and we had roast chickren home made spuds with peas sweetcorn and carrots

i asked him to leave the chicken carcuss out on the side so once i had washed the pan i could use it to make stock, his reply we only use the best bit of the chicken he then put it in the bin :mad: my roast potatoes did not taste as nice as the frozen ones we used to have :rolleyes: he said nothing about veg but did not like the idea of me using surpless and freezing for ds2 instead of buying food jars

he moaned the rice pudding cost more to make that you can buy a tin for

tonight im makeing cottage pie and im dreading the comments that will come from it

he doesnt like my home made bread and says he cannot work out how its cheaper than buying a loaf

has anyone else had problems like this and how did you manage to sort them out

Rikki

I think if people haven't grown up with old style they find it difficult to adapt. My Mum always made stocks from the bones and homemade pies etc so I do now. My two boys have grown up with homemade too and don't like the taste of processed food.

It will just take time I think. You know what is going into the food you prepare and it is alot healthier. Sometimes it takes a while to get used to the taste of home cooked foods.

MonkeyGirl

I didn't really come up against this too much just the odd occasion when I sent him out to get some mushromos and he came back with two jars of white sauce. But what I did learn quickly was they either eat what they are given or go hungry. Also suggest that if he can do any better he can try but he isn't allowed to use proccessed foods etc.

I'm sure someone will come along with a more sensible idea than me. Good luck with it and just stick at it. You know that what you are doing is healthier for all of you and is going to work out cheaper in the end.

You could always provide a weekly / monthly spend thingy stating how much you spent on food per week / month before and how much you spend doing it this way hopefully you will be saving more doing it from scratch and he will be able to see for himself.

Lady_E

Dont worry about any comments that he might make about your cottage pie , you may be worrying about something that is not going to happen . I guess his lightbulb moment has yet to come ......maybe he would like to do the cooking etc for a week on the money you have budgeted .Well done for doing a good job so far , how about doing the fruit cobbler that was on this thread a few weeks ago .....that will win him round !!!!!

stressedoutmumof1

Hi there. Don't worry - I've been there and got the t-shirt :rotfl:

Last year we went through a particularly bad money patch (about 200 quid to last the entire month, food, petrol, phones everything) so for 4 months we could only spend about 30 quid a week on food, DH had to get used to it - and he did. He now prefers all my HM stuff (although I have to agree a tin of rice pudding is cheaper than making it - but HM tastes infinately better )

Maybe if you do a gradual change - my DH will only eat the white meat off the chicken - but he doesn't know he's eating the remains in soup, stock, gravy etc . Also look out for the bogofs on chicken breasts - you can sometimes get 8 breasts for a fiver.

Keep up the good work - and don't lose heart - it may take some time but it will be worth it in the end!

fizzel81

umm he may complain tonight when he realises ive put a tin of baked beans in the cottage pie so i could freeze half the mince for another meal

calleyw

It cost me very little to make rice pudding. And comparing an value tin of rice pudding to a HM one then I am :eek: But it cost very little anyway as 1KG bag of rice cost £1.19 and a pint of milk and a little for the cooking. And HM is much more tastier and get a lot more than you get in a cheapy tin.

I think it is going to be a case of tough love. He either eats it or goes with out. That is what I would do. I know that I am fussy. But it does not really effect the meals I make tha much.

I almost always make extra and my husband has it next day as soup or in omlette. I am sorry but I find this oh we have left over meat and veg better sling it very strange. As it wasteful so why not eat it.

I mean what do you think sausages and burgers are all the left over bits. But bet he eats them though.

Just keep doing what you are doing. And fingers crossed he will come around.

All the best.


Yours


Calley

Debt_Free_Chick

fizzel81 wrote:

umm he may complain tonight when he realises ive put a tin of baked beans in the cottage pie so i could freeze half the mince for another meal

Do you tell him what you're doing or not?

My suggestion is, if you are currently telling him, is to stop and leave him in the dark :rotfl:

When I first started OS nearly three years ago, I would tell my OH what I was doing as I was proud of making the most of what we had. Unfortunately, he was very snobbish about this and made helpful (not!) comments like "rationing has been out for the past 50 years" or "bring back the coal man so you can follow him down the road and pick up the bits that fall off his lorry" or "if you want to live like the poor, I'll cut my share of the housekeeping and we'll see how you get on"

All of this was said in jest, but underneath he was being a snob. He thought that OS branded us as "poor and not able to live a good life" and he really, really objected to this.

Also, I think there's a danger that we can ram OS down the throats of those who don't yet understand ... they just see us as constantly bragging about how good we are and, by implication, how wasteful and extravagant they are.

So ... if you talk about it - SHUT UP!

Just go quietly about your OS business and wait until you get a compliment. Then quietly say ... "Oh, the chicken soup? I made that from the carcass of the one we had for lunch on Sunday. You'd be amazed at how much good chicken sticks to the carcass - but it all falls off when you make a stock with it" :j

As for yesterday's carcass, I'd have fished it out of the bin and run it under a cold tap. I mean ... it can't have gotten filthy, eh?

But then, I have no shame

Stick with it, if you think it's right for you. But come here to tell us about your successes until your DH cottons on.

cheers

p.s. my OH is now full-on OS and bores our friends with details of our joint exploits :j

cha97michelle

Can you not tell him you promised someone you would save the leftover bits for their dog? And then sneakily blend it/make into stock when he is out?

My OH has never moaned, but it has taken me quite a while to work out how to make things like roast potatoes to his taste.

The key is practice, and ask for tips on here. Everyone is always willing to help.

good luck anyway.

saving-grace

fizzel81 wrote:

umm he may complain tonight when he realises ive put a tin of baked beans in the cottage pie so i could freeze half the mince for another meal

fizzel,we ALWAYS have baked beans in our cottage pie - we think its much tastier that way!
Sounds like you have a struggle on your hands with your DH but just keep trying, bit by bit. Don't get downhearted , you're doing really well.

comping_cat

I agree with Debt-free-chick, what he doesnt know about, he cant moan about. The only thing i would say, is surely he would want his children to have fresh food (even frozen is fresher than shops if frozen the same day) than processed jars, that are expensive and have goodness knows what in them!!!!