Dh just wont

Debt_Free_Chick

Lillibet wrote:

Lard AND salt:eek::eek::eek: Blimey, I think the ready prepared ones might be healthier actually!! I just throw mine (unboiled) into a tiny bit of hot sunflower oil for an hour, maybe with some herbs if we've got guests!!!!!

Calm down dear

It really depends how often you do this and what the rest of your diet is like.

Sure .. if you have these once a day, then that's not likely to be at all beneficial.

But if your diet is overall "well-balanced" then this, as an occasional treat, is not likely to prejudice your health

I always do roast potatoes in either goose fat or beef dripping - sorry, there really is no substitute. But we have them 2 or maybe 3 times a month. In between, we are "whole-food or fresh-food" focussed, so I think we earn our occasional treats

It's the overall diet balance that's important - not the specifics of any individual meal.

Eat well, be happy :j

fannyadams

I think that only demotivating thing about OS is when you've lovingly prepared a delicious home cooked meal from scratch (ingredients cooking) it's taken you at least 1 hour including prep time instead of 20 mins out the freezer in the oven time and your kids take one bite and say YUK!
Still, they now know that mum doesn't run a cafe and if you don't eat it then you'll get nothing! Am I cruel?

sarah0404

My partner often wouldn't eat things I make. He was raised on a very processed/tinned/frozen diet. His family ate the same food, practically everyday. I make mostly vegetarian food, and he thought vegetarian food was for wimps! He is coming round now though. He'll at least try the things I've made. If he doesn't want what we're having then he gets nothing. He has to make himself something to eat. And he is too lazy to do that.

I think he is a bit of a snob really. My washing machine broke down, and I had to buy some disposable nappies. I decided to buy a pack of the Tesco Value ones. After all, they were just going to be used once and chucked in the bin. They were much cheaper than all the others. My partner nearly died of embarrasment. He refused to let me buy them! He didn't want people thinking we were cheap. (I did buy them in the end though)

Don't worry too much about the roast potatoes. They're hard to get just right. We've had a few disasters with them.

As someone else mentioned, I also had a mum who would buy value products and put them into different packaging. My brothers said they only liked the Robinsons Orange juice. My mum bought a cheaper one and decanted it into the Robinsons bottle. No one noticed! Same with shampoo. My brother was very particular about his hair, he didn't know that his fancy shampoo was actually a cheap one from Superdrug!

Good luck, and don't give up!

shetitasatic

Most of the celebrity chefs recommend cheaper cuts of meat cooked long and slow. I've just done Mughlai (spelling?) chicken from Nigella's 'Feast 'and she is adamant that this should be made with chicken thighs NOT breasts!!

Talking about parents and getting your own back - after a particularly difficult time with her DH my darling very elderly MIL (now sadly not with us) made his cocoa with ExLax :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Keep on with your gourmet, wholesome OS cooking and I'm sure he'll get the message in the end!!

katglasgow

I pass information on to my husnad strictly on a need to know basis and also try tyo keep him out of the kitchen when I am cooking! Saying that, I have probably changed over to OS quite gradually and I do see that he is changing too. When I first met him he didnt even recycle, and he has also been brought up on the attitude that bready made food/jars etcc are "better". I try to introduce OS chages to him quite gradually. E.g. I would concentrate on getting the chicken and potatoes to be appreciated and continue to buy tinned rice pudding for a while longer. My husband also finds food appetising or not according to how it looks - so he is often attracted to ready made meals because the picture on the box "looks nice" - what a dafty, he has certainly never read a label to find out what % meat it might contain, how many e numbers etc... So I also try to near this in mind when cooking a make a effort to make it look nice (chopped parsley kept in freezer for garnish etc...). Yes men can be easily fooled, buy keep the pace slow and steady!

moggins

I think it's really funny how this generation are kicking back, our mothers were growing up in a generation where women were starting to be encouraged to go out to work (womens lib and equal rights etc), where all these convenience foods were new and exciting and therefor must be tried out.

I also think women tend to question what their mothers do and why a lot more than men do, so men get into this rut of "Mum used to serve me this so it must be right".

I think we really should bear all these things in mind when raising the next generation

halloweenqueen_2

There is a gorgeous cottage pie on www.recipezaar.com number 19091, i'm not the best at making cottage/shepherds pir but this is gorgeous, sorry no beans!
Could you make up batches, like servings, or a few small cottage pies. Maybe however you will discover he is actually descended from royalty, Mr HQ used to think that, but he wasn't used to homecooking and now he hates eating out because its not as good as at home awww bless!! (or I've ruined his taste buds!!!) Of course, not being used to home cooking , I don't have to compete with how mother used to make it either!!

r.mac_2

sleepless_saver wrote:

Could you try a bit of gentle reeducation? e.g. instead of focusing on the money saving bit help him understand that the food jars of veg will have additives and preservatives so what could be healthier for ds2 than fresh veg, freshly prepared? And chicken stock is the basis for the best soups, sauces and really yummy food, so just don't mention the OS side of it.

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I agree with this post - there are so many additives in prepared food these days. Could you try the "I'm giving myself extra work to make sure i give my kids the best" argument next time?

Also I agree with other posters that have said that being quieter about the changes you are making might help until he has become used to the changes.

You could also add up all the savings you have made in a jar, and when they have added up show him.

But most of all remember - you are being strong and doing the right thing. I know he is your DH and you love him, but don't let him put you off - you are doing well. you should be proud of your efforts sweetie xxx

Sarahsaver

Just ignore the miserable !!!!!!.
I used to be married to a man who delighted in my unhappiness, and would do or say anything to keep me in a 'low' position, if u see what i mean. Say nothing, do not ask, or even tell oh what or why you are doing things. Don't enter into a discussion with him. You do not have to justify yourself. You are not his employee!
I stopped washing ex h's clothing as a protest for him being such an !!!!!! and he didnt notice for a month, little did he realise I burnt half his stuff as it was over filling the laundry basket. He didnt even notice ...:rolleyes:
Before anyone asks why I didnt donate it to charity, it was already full of holes from his 'special' cigarettes;)
If OH dont like it get him to cook. Mind you when i id that with the ex he used to go and get a takeout hence him being an ex...

elisebutt65

Oh you poor thing - I'd throw the cnotents of the saucepan cupboard at him!!!!

My BF loves it when I ask him round for dinner/tea. I usually do a curry Thai/Indian or stew with dumplings - all things that can be made and saved for later - lol. He used to eat loads of ready meals but I've been teaching him how to cook properly now and he can make a basic curry with paste, not a cook-in sauce now, stirfrys and real pasta sauces - It's quite satisfying teaching someone else to cook as well

I love baking with the kids, even something as basic as jelly or crispy cornflake cakes - lol. I had to stop doing drop scones as my weight went up alarmingly fast - ooops - stealing kiddies food!!!

Having said tht, eldest DS is the fussiest git ever!!!! He would live off cheese sandwiches if I let him. The only real meat he likes is my secret recipe spare ribs. Nan did them for him last time we visited and he whinged cos she used a chines style sauce.

My mum always cooked from scratch and she always moans at me if she catches me with a packet or jar in the cupboard I sometimes have few in case I'm knackered after college. Sometimes it's hard to do a whole meal whenyou just want to lie down -lol Mind you, that's not often - If I am knackered, kids end up with omelettes or scrambled egg on toast.

Why don't you get some cookery books from oxfam and go through them with him and see which meals he really fancies, get him involved with the cooking - bit contrary to everyone elses opinions I know, but if he helps with the cooking he might not be so down on it??