Boyfriend been looking at dodgy stuff on the net

MrsTinks

janninew wrote: »

Hi
My ex use to enjoy looking at !!!!!! quite alot and told me it was perfectly natural, i didn't really have a problem with it as long as it wasn't effecting our love life! But i thought i would give him a taste of his own medicine and started to look at naked men online, and how fast his opinion changed!! He hated it and told me i was being pervvy!!

Maybe the OP should start watching !!!!!! too and see how he feels? I really have nothing against either sex looking at !!!!!! as long as it doesn't effect your relationship, if it does then you have problems.

It could backfire My husband now buys his and hers !!!!!! mags as we have different tastes :rotfl: And the deal is he can buy his mags as long as when he does he has to buy me one too

janninew

MrsTine wrote: »

It could backfire My husband now buys his and hers !!!!!! mags as we have different tastes :rotfl: And the deal is he can buy his mags as long as when he does he has to buy me one too

I like your style!! I personally have no interest in looking at naked men (no problem with women who do though - good for them i say!!) But my experiment was rather interesting and he stopped looking at !!!!!! as he didn't like me looking at naked men! Seems to be one rule for men and a different for us women!!

Stephb1986_2

If I was the OP I would go on his laptop and look at loads of lesbian sites and stuff and loads of naked men lol!

See how he feels about it. !!!!!! really just doesn't do it for me it's never interested me.

Steph xx

woody01

From a blokes point of view:

If there are women with little/nothing on, and it's as easy as it is to get this stuff on the internet, the there is the answer.

Pervy.........probably.
World ending......nope.

We are back to the stripper nights out here i think in a roundabout kinda way.

Women go to a hen night and a fella gets his clothes off - Its classed as a 'bit of fun'!

Bloke goes to the local titty bar - He's a some kind of weirdo or pervo.

See the difference?

Stephb1986 wrote: »

If I was the OP I would go on his laptop and look at loads of lesbian sites and stuff and loads of naked men lol!

See how he feels about it. !!!!!! really just doesn't do it for me it's never interested me.

Steph xx

If she goes to a load of lesbian sites will he really care?
99.9999999% of red blooded males wouldn't. (I know i wouldn't )

Odette

Omigosh, op I undertstand him interacting with other women in a sexualised manner is crossing the line, but I dont believe watching !!!!!! is. Alot of people, (men and women) find !!!!!! can be very helpful in a loving relationship. I for one watch !!!!!! with my partner sometimes, its fun! Maybe you should suggest it to him?

Watching !!!!!! does not make you perverted or weird or a cheater. I watch !!!!!! by myself and im an educated professional woman of 23 (or so it seems ).

Lilith1980

It sounds as though you may both have issues with regards to trust if you're saying he checks your text messages, and what with you checking his internet history.

One of my ex boyfriends used to check my phone all the time and in the end I put a code on it so you had to input the code to get on the phone. I had nothing to hid but it was the principle. Unfortunately, this made him even more suspicious!

If you both have issues of trust then maybe you need to go to Relate, but a relationship cannot survive without trust.

foxy-roxy

He is 29 and i am 26

foxy-roxy

i have no problem with !!!!!! and he knows that, he has dvd's and i have watched them with him a few times, its just the sneakiness of it that shocked me, but like i say the !!!!!! stuff - not bothered about now, it was me best mate that got to me, but will let it go i think.
As some of you have said there could be alot worse things and looking at women only shows he is a healthy red blooded male, but i think our relationship has gone stale and he may be bored with my body as he certainly doesn't drool over me anymore lol.
Ah well i suppose thats what happens after several years together.

Thank you for all you replies, it really has helped me see that it is not such a big deal after all.:T

Astrowife

He sounds like a hypocrite. Checking up on you many times a day is NOT normal and "being hurt by an ex" is not a valid excuse. Be very very careful with this man, he sounds deeply paranoid and controlling and I think his internet habits are the least of your worries.

System

Re:the !!!!!! It is just something you have to accept that men do. i know my bf looks at !!!!!!, but i'd rather he'd be looking at !!!!!! that flirting etc with real people.

the whole FB thing does sound out of order, i'm in a similar prediciment at the moment (not as much him but some other woman who seems a little bit over friendly for my liking)