The Morals of my Friend. Am i being a prude?!

pinkpig08

I've been drunk before - it's never made me sleep with a friends' boyfriend though.

The_Banker_5

I blame t'internet.;)

MrsTinks

The only time I have been so drunk I did something I didn't "know" I was doing was when I passed out! I certainly didn't mean to do that! :rotfl:
As for using the "we were both drunk" excuse: It's pathetic.
sure I might flirt more when I'm drunk but I'd never use it as an excuse for sleeping with a guy let alone a friends other half!

vixarooni

Its wrong, but i suppose when were in the early 20's it goes on doesnt it. Some people just cant keep the legs shut and the willy in.

Gavin83

That would be one of the few situations I'd consider a friendship dealbreaker. If I was in that position I'd tell the victim friend what I'd been told and refuse to speak to the offending friend anymore. There's no need for it at all.

Krystaltips

I completely agree with those that say reconsider your friendship. I actually ended a friendship with someone I considered my best friend since school because she slept (and got pregnant!) with a (now very ex) boyfriend of mine.... You just don't do that sort of thing to a friend!

Marcheline

You're not being a prude at all, or a goody goody. You've just got some sense, values and respect for yourself and other people. I wouldn't carry on a friendship with this girl (or anyone in your group who thinks this behavious is ok) whether she said it in a boastful way or not. The fact she told you at all is enough for me, saying it in an "oh no what have i done way" shows stupidity (as well you now knowing she's a ho), cos now it will def come back to bite her on the bum one way or the other.

I'm 24 myself and in my group of friends (about 10-12 of us) not one girl or guy behaves like this. If they do, they certainly don't tell the rest of us about their conquests, whoever they are.

You need to find yourself a better class of friend!

Dinah93

When I was 21 (24 now) I was living in a nice houseshare. One of the other people I lived with took me aside and said he didn't really think it was his place to tell me, but he'd want to know if it was him. Turns out my best friend, who was also a flatmate, had been sleeping with my boyfriend of 3 years before we'd broken up (broke up because I felt that we didn't have the same priorities - guess I was right!). To say I was devastated was an understatement, I felt completely betrayed. But at the same time I knew how hard it was for my housemate to have told me this, he didn't have to, and it would have been a lot easier on me if he hadn't. I was very grateful to him, as it stopped me wasting my time on a false friendship. What this girl and boy have done is dispicable, alcohol is a pathetic excuse, if you're just drunk enough to still be able perform, you're drunk enough to go 'hang on, that isn't my missus!'. I would strongly advise you to be a good friend to the girl who is in the dark, how would you feel if all your friends knew about something that affected you so much, yet didn't feel able to tell you. As a hint, the only one of my 5 flatmates I am still in touch with is the one who told me.

galvanizersbaby

I agree with Dinah93 OP I think if it were me I would have to tell the unfortunate friend - as much from a sexual health point of view (which could be relevant if the girl in question is skanky enough to do this)

Also if this does come to light in any way and the girlfriend finds out the goings on she may well become aware you knew and didn't say anything

McKneff

Yes she is going to be really devastated 3 times over , her friend, her bf and you. She wil be devasted and say 'why didnt you tell me' and will probably never speak to you again.
To be perfectly honest i would shun the 'tart' tell your friend so that all your other friends can keep her away from their boyfriends too. She and the bf actually deserve each other. Your so called friend has put you in a very bad position so you owe her no loyalty.