July 2011 Brides

Curious_George_2

its very up and down here,
we have booked some brilliant things for the reception (im not allowed to talk about it though as there are spies everywhere and we want to keep one particular thing secret!) but we are very excited about it
we have lots of bits and pieces all of a sudden, my list has lots of things crossed out
I just wish i had the money to pay things off but we are so broke

on the down side, my ex MIL is on her death bed with bone cancer, shes not expected to last the week so obviously thats in the forefront of our minds and wedding plans have taken a back step while i prepare my 10 year old to lose her grandmother...

and... ive also fallen out with one of my bridesmaids, she has been a mental case ever since she met her new bloke and things havent been the same between us (or her and her other friends) for months,
everytime she has a bad week she takes everything out on me and ive just about had it with her, she loves my OH and apparently would love to only see him from now on and not deal with me,
we all had a meet up yesterday, 6 supposedly good friends and she made it so awkward and was really rude, humming and singing through any conversation she wasnt interested in...
she is currently diseccting every word i say on facebook and phoning our mutual friends to ask if its about her
im sick of it, im one more comment away from giving her back her hen weekend money and telling her to get bent.

sammy_wheeler

ohh im trying to imagine what your surprise is- sorry that you feel you have spies- how horrid

sorry to hear about your ex mil thats really sad

sorry to hear about your bridesmiad- not surprised you arent happy about it

Curious_George_2

sammy_wheeler wrote: »

ohh im trying to imagine what your surprise is- sorry that you feel you have spies- how horrid

sorry to hear about your ex mil thats really sad

sorry to hear about your bridesmiad- not surprised you arent happy about it

ok, spies might have been a bit far fetched, but there are guests who know i post on here and a few wjho know my user name and i dont want this particular thing getting out...will pm if you like though


BM is a complete drama llama with a princess fixation, she will happily tell the world her life is 100% lollypops and rainbows but in reality its a struggle to get through each week for her because life isnt really like that, and because im probably the only one who knows how unhappy she actually is (cos everyone else believes the crap she tells them) she takes it all out on me... and frankly im not in the mood for it!

anyway... back to my surprise! pm on its way! :j:j:j:j:j:j:j:j:j

sammy_wheeler

im stealing the phase drama llama lol

ajmoney

I will be married 5 months today
We are popping round to the photographers with the deposit this week as he lives round the corner and we want to put a face to a name. I emailed a make up lady but haven't heard back so will try and ring tomorrow. I am trying to work on the band price as I don't want to pay what they have quoted.
We are meeting the vicar next week and will be ordering the invitations after that. Also planning on sending out mid March, haven't decided on the RSVP date yet. Trying to get some ideas of music to discuss with the vicar, we sat for hours the other night and can't come up with anything.

Amymo

Ooh ajmoney, I hadn't realised it was 9th today, five months for us too! I've started to feel a bit nervous, it's all getting a bit close now and I'm having some really odd wedding related dreams, eek! Haven't done much recently but I'm having a makeup trial next Saturday and meeting a chair cover company at the venue to see if they fit, still no hairdresser though! I also have a very reluctant bridesmaid who made me feel I twisted her arm to do it, rather than being delighted as most other people's BMs are but hey ho keep on moving forwards!

Curious George, sorry to hear about your exMIL and your bridesmaid should know you have enough on your plate

abis21

Hello Everyone :j

TC1978 - have you heard anything about your OH's redundancy? I know what yr going thru, my OH also had redundancy threats a couple of weeks ago. 10 out of their team of 60 had to go, and I was panicking like mad as he was one of the last ones in. Hes safe now, thank goodness. But it was such a worry, and you daren't do anything 'weddingy' in case you can't afford to. Hope you get good news.

Rose1960 - did you decide what you were putting on your invites? I don't think I'd feel very comfortable giving you a present before your wedding if i was a guest. Can you not book it on a credit card and see what contributions you got afterwards? Maybe a 0% credit card, so if you had to you could pay it back over months afterwards? Or could you not consider going later so that you saw how much money you had available before booking?

Curious George - Sorry to hear about yr MIL Must say, I would also like to know yr surprise too tho! And I've never heard drama llama before and think thats ace!! :rotfl: Doesn't sound like shes that good a friend to be honest tho. Maybe she was at one point, but people change. One of my best friends has become so so distant now, and doesn't text back, or turn up to anything I try to organise. Theres only so many times you can cope with these things. I've come to the realisation now that we were very good friends for a certain time in our lives, when our situations were the same, but that now we'll just say hi if we see each other in the streets. I get too upset and disappointed when she lets me down by not coming places now, so she won't be invited to the wedding, as I'd rather deal with that before hand than have her not turn up or send me a rubbish excuse on the day.

Oooooo, sammy!! 163 days!!! Hows your invite designing going? I had a little go at it the other day. I wanted to just send an email with an attachment on with an invite. One of my friends did this, and it looked really classy and lovely (any very MSE too :T) My attempt... Well, I think I would have been better asking my 4 yr old daughter to do it!!! I am just not artistic at all like that.

AJmoney - I'm still thinking through music ideas etc. We have to send our forms back to the registrar with reading choices and songs on. My daughter wants 'tonights gonna be a good night', by the black eyed peas, cos thats one of her favourites. So I said we might have that for an exit song. Not sure about any others yet tho. Keep trying to listen to some songs at home to give me some inspiration!!

Amymo - I was having *loads* of wedding related dreams, mainly about running out of time or other people organising things for me (my worse nightmare being a control freak :rotfl:) I wrote a list of everything, and did a spreadsheet of costs, and since then the dreams have stopped. Is there anything you are particularly worried about?

Not loads happening from me. Have ordered a sample of foam roses from ebay which have arrived, and the colours are all gorgeous and am really pleased with them. Gives me a better idea of how many I will actually need, so thats good. Still need to book the DJ. Accidently spent the money for the DJ tho on other things. So keep putting that off now, as don't have the money, lol!! Maybe they would just like a deposit for now Its my OH's 30th birthday today, so have mainly been busy organising and making things for his birthday. Will be back to wedding planning again next week I suppose.

I also just do NOT know what to do about photographer... I had an amatuer lined up for it. Shes a local girl (23 i think), and she has a full time job and does photography as a hobby. I've seen some of her work from children and she is *amazing* with kids, which is really important to me with having my little girl as a bridesmaid. She is also really cheap :T I've seen some weddings that she has done too - and those pictures have been fab too. Butttt, she emailed a month ago to say she was having some problems and couldn't commit to the date anymore and she was sorry.

So I emailed her back and said I really wanted her to do it, and gave her lots of compliments on her photos, and said that if she couldn't do it, then fair enough, but that I just wanted to change her mind that was all. And I haven't heard anything since.

Have looked at other photographers, Our budget is very very small (£250 or so). Most professionals charge £500 +, and lots of them are booked already. Have found someone who will do it for £175, but he has hardly done any work so far. 1 wedding, with 4 photos on his portfolio. And none of children. So I don't think he is the answer. But I don't know what is. I know friends and family will take pictures. I have some keen photographers in the family, but I will want those people in the photos. Just don't know what to do. Really want to start bothering my amateur girl again, but I know thats not gonna help :rotfl:

Curious_George_2

abis21 wrote: »

Hello Everyone :j
Curious George - Sorry to hear about yr MIL Must say, I would also like to know yr surprise too tho! And I've never heard drama llama before and think thats ace!! :rotfl: Doesn't sound like shes that good a friend to be honest tho. Maybe she was at one point, but people change. One of my best friends has become so so distant now, and doesn't text back, or turn up to anything I try to organise. Theres only so many times you can cope with these things. I've come to the realisation now that we were very good friends for a certain time in our lives, when our situations were the same, but that now we'll just say hi if we see each other in the streets. I get too upset and disappointed when she lets me down by not coming places now, so she won't be invited to the wedding, as I'd rather deal with that before hand than have her not turn up or send me a rubbish excuse on the day.

MIL still hanging on but it will more than likely be today, she has refused all life saving measures and is just on pain relief, I wanted to go up and sit with her but shes got her sons with her and the hospital seem to be refusing entry to anyone who isnt blood relative at this point, this might sound weird but she has a LOT of friends who have visited, almost a constant stream so they have to cut it off somewhere

I think your right about BM, we havent spoken at all since the coffee morning, but i know shes been talking to just about everyone about me and i just dont have the energy for it,
I just dont see her at the wedding at this point... but im fine with it now, if she wants to be funny with me then its her missing out this year, our wedding will go ahead and be just as much fun for all involved wether shes there or not! i think she forgets that...


(plus the mercenary side of me kicks in and starts thinking... well, she has 4 kids, 2 of which are a nightmare... so thats 6 less on the guest list! lol)

sorry to bring the thread down a bit but thats whats going on here at the moment!

ajmoney

How have you gone about finding someone to do your make up? It is stressing me out a little as there don't seem to be many people near my venue. I have a hope that my possible hairdresser can recommend someone but if not I haven't got a clue.

ajmoney

Have been nosey and been looking on some of the other month threads for ideas etc. It has calmed me down knowing that the months before ours still have things to do. Have just sent off emails to 3 make up companies, my mum did the keg work when she was looking for make up lessons as a Christmas present for me. Hopefully I will hear SOMETHING back.

Do you all have written confirmation/contracts for everything? It has occurred to me that we haven't and I'm sure I have seen a little clause in our wedding insurance so must sort that out.