Weekly Flylady Thread 10th August 2009

toottifrootti

rosepink1984 wrote: »

he's not very good at showing he loves me,most men arent good at this:rotfl:

and I'd managed to convince myself that he didn't love me anymore.silly person:rolleyes:

I know it's really hard for him to show affection sometimes, he finds it very hard to express his emotions, but I feel so bad about myself that I need him to tell me he loves me and be a bit more affectionate than he has been lately.but its not all about telling someone that you love them. the fact that he looks after you when you are low or ill shows what he thinks about you.

He's very good when he knows I'm feeling low, he gives me hugs and stuff when I'm crying, I just need him to be a bit more like that at other times.
I do know how wonderful he is tho, and that I'm a very lucky girl to be married to him. He has many good points, which I value greatly, which is why I was so upset when I thought he didn't love me anymore!again you being a silly person:rolleyes:

I feel guilty going on about it on here, I know some wish they had someone to share life with, I'm sorry. yes i wish i had a partner especially now but dont feel guilty its not your fault just appreciate what you have.

It sounds like you are very insecure in your relationship and its making you doubt his feelings - I think you should realise that he would have left you before now if he didnt want to be there - you have been ill, you have no job, by your own admission your flat is a messand you feel bad because of your weight so if he didnt love you do you not think he might have left you before now? You need to work on your self esteem a bit and see what a difference that will make to your confidence and your ability to be rational regarding whether or not DH has said 'I love you' that day?

Its not all lovey dovey all the time - well not in my opinion - being loved and cherished is far more than just words. I hope I havent been too harsh and offended you.
toots xx

boddy

julie jim Im in for a HHC.

juliejim

Come on then boddy.

Mum_on_a_mission_2

Hi all,

back from my mini break away - all full up of cuddles and fun times as only smaller children can do - so ready to face the rat race again.

going to be a good girl and load the WM now, make DH another cuppa (he drove) and then catch up on the thread later.

HHC here I come...whheeee....

Moam

rosepink1984

Jinky have a lovely weekend with Dazco

Hugs Natty, what a friend she is! She sounds like a great pet owner too – I can’t stand it when people don’t take proper care of their animals and I’m very glad the cat has come to live with you as you obviously care about it’s welfare.

Rach well done on the weight loss! That’s fab!

HWGA hope you get some good sleep soon, you must be worn out with having so little sleep. Don’t you get any help so you can have a break?

Hi Tim, welcome to the thread. Don’t let [STRIKE]Valli’s flirting [/STRIKE]the ladies put you off, there are a few fellas that post on this thread! Hope the issues with your neighbour get resolved. Great idea to give him a watch!

Have a great time on holiday Sunnygirl

Welcome back Disdisbiff, wow your kids go back early, where on earth do you live?

Boodle I’m glad your DH is sensitive to your moods and knows you need hugs too xx

kazwookie wrote: »

Tim welcome to the thread, the person you gave the watch to, will next be telling you he doesn't know how to tell the time!

If he does, tell him to be quiet all the time it's dark outside! :rotfl:

soappie wrote: »

Oi Toots!

You listening to me? You are an extremely naughty and bad, bad lady.

The doorbell has just rung and there was a lady standing there with a big bunch of flowers for me from you. You really shouldn't have spent your money on me but I thank you from the bottom of my heart. You very nearly made me cry......xx

Aww, how sweet!:A

Boodle wrote: »

Ooh... steak sandwich. I was looking forward to our curry...

I had one for lunch! It was yum!

fedupandskint

Wiggly Wednesday ~ Master Bedroom and landing
DONE!!! :j:j:j

Bedding washed and dried on the line and bed remade

No more flying tonight as cream crackered from work. Planning tomorrow to finish the list and do the ironing :eek: :eek: :eek:

Hope everyone else is ok and I'll catch up on the thread later on Just off to update the list now

fedupandskint

Magnificent Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining area
Level Two
Sweep and mop the floor

Thursday Thrills ~ Bathroom, loo and Study
Level Two
Declutter the desk and do 15 minutes filing
Wipe over any electricals and desks and tables
Clean the bath/shower/loo/hand basins etc.. shine those taps!
Level Three
Vacuum/mop floors
Scrub the tiles
Extras

1. wash the windows
2. Wipe over the paintwork, inc. the doors!
3. [STRIKE]Soak the shower head in vinegar to get rid of the limescale[/STRIKE]
4. Dust and Deweb!

Friday funtime! ~ Little bit of everything that needs doing!
Level One
Declutter and vacuum the floor inthe chillies/spare room
Level Two
Throw out 20 things from each room!!! .. I like this!
Bake a cake.. or some buns.. or just something you like!
Fill a binbag for charity shop
Level Three
Wipe out one kitchen cupboard
Dust and deweb a fluffy room!
Empty and wash out all the bins downstairs!
Extras

1. Wash any windows you have neglected!
2. Wash a set of curtains or nets
3. Cacth up on some important calls/emails!

rosepink1984

toottifrootti wrote: »

It sounds like you are very insecure in your relationship and its making you doubt his feelings - I think you should realise that he would have left you before now if he didnt want to be there - you have been ill, you have no job, by your own admission your flat is a messand you feel bad because of your weight so if he didnt love you do you not think he might have left you before now? You need to work on your self esteem a bit and see what a difference that will make to your confidence and your ability to be rational regarding whether or not DH has said 'I love you' that day?

Its not all lovey dovey all the time - well not in my opinion - being loved and cherished is far more than just words. I hope I havent been too harsh and offended you.
toots xx

No I'm not offended, you have summed all my bad points quite nicely! :rotfl: You are right, and I know I have problems and low self esteem.
You are right, relationships are not about being lovey dovey, but neither are they about being ignored every evening and weekend while he's on the computer. I know I've got things to work on to make our life together better for both of us, I've been working really hard on being less critical and other things too. It has improved things. I need to work hard in many areas to try and improve myself and be a nicer person. I find some things that DH does or doesn't do difficult to cope with and maybe he will be able to do some work so his behaviour is easier to deal with. Hope so.

You haven't offended me, and you have some very wise words.

fedupandskint

toottifrootti wrote: »

It sounds like you are very insecure in your relationship and its making you doubt his feelings - I think you should realise that he would have left you before now if he didnt want to be there - you have been ill, you have no job, by your own admission your flat is a messand you feel bad because of your weight so if he didnt love you do you not think he might have left you before now?

Its not all lovey dovey all the time - well not in my opinion - being loved and cherished is far more than just words.

I think toots is right here,

With my OH we stopped showing each other affection when just the smallest token would have made all the difference as we learnt when we nearly split for good. It really would have made all the difference, instead I retreated inside myself and stopped communicating with him and with others.

How about trying a little chat about how you feel and a little cuddle and see how you feel afterwards

Hope you are ok rose

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Boodle wrote: »

Ooh... steak sandwich. I was looking forward to our curry...

I'll save you some - one piece of steak from Ocado, cost £6, super tender and tasty, easily been 3 meals for me - and it's one thing I will NEVER get tired of eating!