Making Cards - Ideas for a card craft beginner (Part 3)

RustyFlange

wam73 wrote: »

I'm not a total regular on this thread but in answer to your question Rusty. I don't think your being unreasonable at all. My daughter is now 19 but when she was small I hit these problems all the time. Her father never thought about my feelings at all regarding his girlfriends and he had a few. You should really talk it over with your ex other wise everytime your kids visit him you will have a niggle in the back of your mind. He really should have told you about the move but like I said some people dont think their actions involve others. This is a big issue for the kids as well.
Not very good at talking on forums can never get my point across well but hope this helps a little. x

Thankyou Wam, I appreciate your reply, I tried talking it over with him on the phone this afternoon but apparently it is none of my business and how dare I blah blah blah he really kicked off with me on the phone, threatened court action again and all the rest of it!! I can't just sit there and take it so I had a good go back at him then hung up :rolleyes: but there are various other niggles I have aswell cause I know she drives and DS has told me several times that he goes out in cars up there without car seats!! not just hers but his uncles aswell etc, thing is that 2 years ago I bought DS a new car seat and gave his old one to his dad (only replaced it as it was starting to look a bit tatty, it was still in good strong condition it was just me being fussy!) but it isn't used. I can see we will end up back in court ... or rather I can forsee me being dragged back through the courts again :rotfl: Just what I need again!!

wam73

Brings back memories!! and then you get accused of being jealous or interfering. When all you have is your childrens safety and happiness in mind. I feel for you. Hopefully if it is the courts you have to go through they will see your point of view. x

rainmac

Rusty, Rusty, Rusty, as Wam (hi Wam) has already said you are not being unreasonable at all. Of course you need to ask questions, DS is your son and you want to ensure he is safe and happy when he visits his dad. Can you not say that DS won't be visiting unless they promise to use the car seat and confirm what the sleeping arrangements are. You're not being difficult, you just love your son. Sounds like we need to do a re-order of the quick-drying cement

rainmac

Here's my sketch challenge card

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mumhug wrote: »

Palema your cards are great they look fab

Thanks mumhug I am really enjoying the challenge of making my own cards.

Gemm85 wrote: »

palema welcome to the thread and your 90th birthday card it great, love the glittery numbers and your gran will love it

Showed my mum and dad the card for my Grannie last night and they liked it as well so I hope she will like it too!

melissa75 wrote: »

Palema - welcome to the thread - I'm now following your blog - your cards are great - I love your xmas tree ones!

Thanks Melissa
I got the Christmas trees from Lakeland, I have never really thought of getting crafty things from there before. Got them in the sale for £1.49 for a pack of 48 I bought 2. The banners were £2.49 for a pack of 154 and the tags were £1.49 for a pack of 120 and I bought 2 packs. The other toppers I bought a couple of year ago from Hobbycraft but never used them until now. I am really enjoying making the cards.
I also have alot of friends all over the UK and abroad and my cousin took some lovely photo's of a snowy Edinburgh Castle so I thought I could use those photo's to make Christmas cards for them as well, When I get the pics printed off and make the cards I will put them on my blog!

dawnteabag

Oh Rusty, It's such a horrible position to be in. You feel like whatever you do you're doing the wrong thing in some way or other. I've been in that situation too.

Things will settle down eventually but in the short term I'd recommend going for damage limitation. I'd bite my tongue about most of it but make it clear that you're concerned about the safety issue with the car seats. Something along the lines of "you took me by surprise the other day, I'd prefer it if you told me about moving in before so that I can at least prepare the kids or be able to answer any questions that they have. I can see why you would think it's none of my business but could you please please please ensure they use the car seats" (perhaps offer to buy a spare if necessary (it would be worth it for your peace of mind)
My ex and I have thankfully moved on from the shouting at each other stage. I just count to ten then phone my mum as soon as he's gone to vent!
PM me if you'd like to chat more won;t you

Hugs

Marg

Afternoon All

I'm starting to feel a bit more human now, thanks to the wonder of Lemsips, Benylin, & some Whiskey! Hope the other poorlies are also getting better though I fear DH's sciatica will take a while to go Sal.

Welcome newbies and returnees

Flourgirl - Looking forward to your photos - so glad you had a good time. Could you recommend the hotel? If so please tell, we'd love to go there in the spring. What a shame your Dad was misdiagnosed. Hope he's better again very soon (I had that once & thought I was going to die I felt so bad).

Rusty - You can't take any chances with your son's safety & you wouldn't think ex wouldn't either! Wonder if you wrote to him rather than on the phone then he can't kick off at you and your very reasonable expectations are on record (keep a copy). I have no experience of the rules but I had to be CRB checked just to help backstage for 5 nights at Gang Show - how does it apply in 'family' situations?

Palema - Are Lakeland doing craft stuff again? or did you get them a while ago?

Choccy - sorry to hear about your friends Mum - I bet she's so grateful for your support.

Melissa - thanks for the spendy links!

flourgirl

Marg this was the hotel and we booked direct with them (it was sooo much cheaper) and then booked the Easy Jet flights seperate. The total cost per couple was about £280, which is cheap for new year, although we did book in April. The hotel was fab and directly accross from the railway station it was literally a 2 minute walk. You buy your tickets at the book shop it costs 4 euro return for 2 people and takes about 10 mins into Santa Lucia from there you catch the Vaporetto to St Marks a 1hour ticket is 6.50 euro each. Or you can walk. We took the boat there and then walked back.

More Venice piccies on my blog

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Marg wrote: »

Palema - Are Lakeland doing craft stuff again? or did you get them a while ago?

I only got them last week. I don't know if they will stil have anything left though as they were in the sale.

chocolate.orange_2

Flourgirl Venice looks fabby, so do those cakes

Rusty You know what i think about him. Its really not repeatable on a public forum !! Marg has a good point about crb check . I know anyone now has to have them when helping with school children, might be worth enquiring about

Oh dear, i just burnt boiled eggs . I heard a pop and thought it was snow falling off the roof . Nice to know the forums can still make me burn food