Ebay curse

flippin36

piratefairy wrote: »

It sounds like another of the inventive stories you hear from these incompetent timewasters. If it were me and I had been waiting 2 wks already just to be told that rubbish, I'd be opening my paypal dispute today. She can still respond, and if it does turn up as promised, yopu just close it.

I've had a long complicated story about a child who had died. It really annoyed me because I just knew from the ridiculous details of the email that it was a story but there was a niggling voice in my head saying there is always the chance it could have been true so I felt obliged to just hang on before leaving feedback/dispute - just in case it was true. Awful.

cyberbob

If I had had some major death in the family/cat Hurricane or whatever that stopped me paying for something on ebay. There is no way I would give the details to some seller on ebay. I would apologise and state that I had some personal matters to deal with and then pay for the item. This is why when people start telling these ever more extravagant stories I know its got to be made up as why would you tell a stranger.

kprigg

To be honest if something like this had happened to me then the last thing on my mind would be Ebay.
I would know that anything I had bid on would inevitably get an unpaid item strike & anything I was selling would get negs & chargebacks. But in the greater scheme of things it would not be the be all & end all (obviously for people who sell as a business it is a bigger problem).
I know that it would probably mean a ban from ebay, but that would have to be something I sorted out once Id dealt with the tragedy.
I have to say I dont believe anyone anymore when they tell me stories like this.

ladydisco

I just would just like to mention that my next door neighbour died suddenly aged 45. A week later his partner, asked me to help out as he had sold items on ebay and she didn't know what to do (and most importantly didn't want to let people down). His partner knew the email account details, so I emailed all of his buyers and told them what had happened, before parcelling all his sold items up and posting them off. In return she had the most wonderful emails back, and 3 buyers phoned her up to send condolences....it does happen sometimes (and I know that others abuse this too)...after experiencing this - I tend to hope that people are genuine...

flippin36

Thanks Ladydisco, you're right of course, there will be some geniune cases which is why its really awful when you get people abusing others sympathy. I suspect that your emails were well worded and not OTT which is why you got a righfully sympathetic response.

mrcol1000

ladydisco wrote: »

I just would just like to mention that my next door neighbour died suddenly aged 45. A week later his partner, asked me to help out as he had sold items on ebay and she didn't know what to do (and most importantly didn't want to let people down). His partner knew the email account details, so I emailed all of his buyers and told them what had happened, before parcelling all his sold items up and posting them off. In return she had the most wonderful emails back, and 3 buyers phoned her up to send condolences....it does happen sometimes (and I know that others abuse this too)...after experiencing this - I tend to hope that people are genuine...

There is a difference between not getting an item and being told its due to a death and someone buying something and not paying due to a "death".

little_evo

Sorry but this is a sore spot with me as this happened a few months ago in my husband's family. We had a item selling on ebay when my husband's mother suddenly went into hospital and before we knew it she had died and the last thing on our mind was ebay.

I came home and emailed the person who had won and explained what happened and the buyer kept sending my husband rude and nasty emails and even pulled our number from ebay to threaten us on the answering machine for not sending out his item. I deleted off all of the emails and the phone message and called the man up myself and since we had only lost my MIL who I was really close to a few hours before and I was highly emotional and gave him probably the worst rant of his life and told him his sputtering apologies were too little too late once he realised I was telling the truth and if he really wanted to help then not to email us ever again and leave us alone because my husband had enough to deal with as his father and rest of the family was relying so heavily on him. And I didn't tell my husband about it because he didn't need any more pain to deal with then and there.

I know it's sometimes hard to believe people all of the time, but wouldn't you hope a person would understand and give you some compassion through such a hard time in their lives?

cyberbob

Sorry for your loss. The problem is too many people make these stories up. Not to sound unfeeling. In the time that you emailed the seller you probably could have sorted out payment. It takes 2 minutes to pay by paypal. I'm sure in the same tragic time your gas/phone bill and mortgage were paid.

I'm afraid that you are the exception so many times tragic stories are made up so someone with a real one is never believed

I;m sorry for your loss again.

piratefairy

I think it's easy to tell when they are just trying it on, and when they are genuine. I have a friend who is in and out of hospital all of the time, and has a serious illness, but she hasn't even told her family for fear of upsetting them, so why would she tell people she doesn't even know on ebay. It's the last thing on your mind when / if something bad does happen, and if it is genuine, you would hardly have the time to email and explain why you are not paying, but not actually pay. surely it would be better if these idiots just asked if they could pay on payday or whatever the real problem is.

little_evo

cyberbob wrote: »

Sorry for your loss. The problem is too many people make these stories up. Not to sound unfeeling. In the time that you emailed the seller you probably could have sorted out payment. It takes 2 minutes to pay by paypal. I'm sure in the same tragic time your gas/phone bill and mortgage were paid.

I'm afraid that you are the exception so many times tragic stories are made up so someone with a real one is never believed

I;m sorry for your loss again.

Sorry if I wasn't more clear but I wasn't the buyer but the seller so I was only trying to explain the delay in shipping the item not in buying it.