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QPR10

cg1982 wrote: »

yep im here all weekend to as normal

Heading off to Derby tomorrow lunchtime to watch the mighty QPR v Derby kick off 5.30 & live on BBC. We nearly always lose when we're on Tv and worse still, people often spot me in the crowd and television adds 10lbs :mad:

Back on here on Sunday to check in with you mad and almost rich bonkers

cg1982

QPRanger wrote: »

Heading off to Derby tomorrow lunchtime to watch the mighty QPR v Derby kick off 5.30 & live on BBC. We nearly always lose when we're on Tv and worse still, people often spot me in the crowd and television adds 10lbs :mad:

Back on here on Sunday to check in with you mad and almost rich bonkers

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

rich lol my hubby spent most of mine today:mad::mad::mad::mad: lol
atleast i did not have to buy him a iphone
well im here all weekend he got a new computer game so im neglected again

orange_plastic

simon31leeds wrote: »

Hi Bonkers buddies - many apologies but as I am at a loss who to speak to because my friends are my partners friends and I can't really confide in them and they say a problem shared is a problem halved I wanted some advice.

I've been with my partner for over 9 years now and although things have been up and down, on the whole I thought things were going well.

I was then contacted by someone on Facebook who said you may want to check out what my partner is up to with someone else they are friends with on facebook as they have some dirty secrets.

So although I know I shouldn't have, I have accessed my partners facebook and e-mails and find that behind my back he is cheating on me with another man who is married and has two young kids and a wife in tow.

Not only that, they are planning to move in together or get themselves a shag pad - some of the things I have read in conversations between them absolutely disgusts me. At the moment, if I saw this married man I am sure I would rip his head from his body which makes me worried I'm not thinking straight.

We have a house together with a mortgage, so I am thinking I need to confront him this weekend, tell him to get out by Monday and if he doesn't, I will expose him to our friends, his family and work colleagues so they can see the true side of him. I am then planning on getting the house on the market next week to try to get it sold and try my best to move on with my life. One issue is that I am not 'out' to my parents so am worried he will use this as a threat or blackmail to me so am in a dilemma if I should now come out to my parents which I have never done in the past as my dads health has been so bad and I think his health has worsened because he didn't take news of something similiar with my brother in the past. But if I don't come out to my parents I am worried he will go round there and make things 10 times worse.

I just want to know if I'm being logical as I'm now in such a state about this that I don't know if I'm thinking straight.

Apologies for the long message and it's totally off competition chat I know but I just wanted some advice on things by people who don't know me and him (e.g. all of our friends) and can give me an outsiders perspective.

Hi Simon

I think it is good advice to wait 24 hours before acting.

I would think carefully before following the advice some people have given to come out to your parents. For your own benefit it will probably be a good thing to do one day when the timing is right, but not necessarily now. No one on this forum can guess what your dad's attitude is towards your sexuality and whether coming out to him will pose a health risk. I think maybe people encouraging you to come out now may have overlooked the part of your post where you mention this.

If you confront your soon-to-be-ex and you think he is going to spill the beans to your parents you should make it clear to him that he could cause serious damage to your father's health and that if he goes ahead you will hold him legally responsible for such consequences. If you forewarn him, such actions could be considered a psychological attack.

You still have the option of keeping quiet and not letting on that you know what is going on. This would be useful if you need to make a few preparations for changing your life accordingly without rocking the boat, but it could be too painful for you. It could also be useful for seeking revenge, but I would advise that taking revenge is never a good decision and leaves everyone bitter including you. On the other hand you could pretend you didn't know and when he does tell you just act nonchalantly like you're really not that bothered, which would hurt without being !!!!!y.

Bear in mind that after nine years together he may not have told you yet because he is concerned for your feelings, although of course it is worse finding out the way you have. Sometimes things don't last forever and it is an horrible thing to have to do to tell someone you are leaving them. Obviously he is a bit of a chump for leaving it for so long though.

I would leave it until tomorrow, then talk to him calmly and reasonably. I wouldn't go into any details about how you found out, just point out that you didn't hear it from him. Don't lower yourself to his level, if you rise above it he will feel like a lowlife.

Big changes in life are disconcerting and leave memories you wish you could relive, but they can also be a breath of fresh air; it always gives me a sense of freedom in the big world and I suddenly realise a million doors have opened with endless possibilities...

Good luck!

bunn

kissmyarts09 wrote: »

Quick update....no more cheques have been received. I rang McVities yesterday about the remaining 3 cheques I'm waiting for and they tell me that they should arrive soon. Most have been paid out now but not all as they had a backlog.

The people I have already paid I have not included in the list.
I will be checking this afternoon to see if any more cheques have cleared in my bank account.


Raeh - waiting for cheque
LoopyLou - clearing in bank
Ikash20 - waiting for cheque
Easter65 - waiting for cheque
Simon31leeds - clearing in bank
PP2008 - clearing in bank
TJCP - clearing in bank
Dawnchorus - clearing in bank


People who owe me - no payments have been received by me from anyone yet - though nearly everyone except Sassisoo7 has made contact to say cheques have arrived and clearing or were much later wins:
Sassisoo7 - no contact since win on 2nd Sept
Citigee
Rsspence x 2
raphanius
broadpaws
itselliebell
hbee
princess x
vwcampervan x 2
money21

not read all post but i recived a cheque from hbee yesterday banked today
had no cheques, but sent ice fairy her share today

bunn

oh dear simon i feel for you, i will read proper in the morning, but in the mean time dont do anything you may regret? that sound stupid doenst it

lynn2302

My updated list

lynn2302 wrote: »

Heres my list, hope ive not forgotten anyone

People i owe

easter65 - paid
maggie777 - paid
calash - arrangement made
gillham - cheque in bank clearing
lolotoo - cheque not arrived yet

people who have paid me - Thank you very much

wookeyhole1
thriftkitten
barnabysue
helenthemadex

people who owe me

wookeyhole1 - has kept in touch with me
ells2123 - cheque cleared, sending cheque
ice fairy - cheque arrived, clearing
kazzystar - cheque not arrived yet, but has been in touch
broadpaws - cheque cleared - sending
calash - cheque arrived, clearing/arrangement made
beffffff - cheque arrived, clearing
lorenza - on their list
pippitypop - cheque arrived - clearing
twotimes - cheque not arrived yet but heard from

erine - not heard from
hannah.luvs.jay - not heard from


please, those i havent heard from can you send me a quick pm so i know you havent forgotten about me

beffffff

Hi Lynn,
Your cheque is in the post....just depends on Royal Mail when it will get to you. Was posted Weds lunchtime (as were cheques to Hayleyw1, wookeyhole, QPRanger and Maggie777)
xx
PS still keeping this up to date: http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=26118785&postcount=14807

clairelou44

Here is my list

People I owe:
Fizzbomb - still awaiting cheque from aug!
PP2008 - still awaiting cheque from aug!
KJjayBaby - cheque clearing
Dawnchorus - cheque clearing
Scruples - cheque clearing
Alienbuffy - waiting to see if we get the cheque


People who owe me:
Lockie21 - Cheque Recieved today - thank-you
rssspence -
aaroncaz -
immynjoesmum -
spidystrider -
short-n-sweet -
scurotto -
sammiewoo - waiting to see if we get the cheque so no need to update me.

Could all those who owe me please update me, Im happy to take payment by paypal if its easier for you


Sorry can no longer take payment by paypal

aaroncaz

If I pay by paypal, how do I do it? I need the email address of person I'm sending too, of course, does paypal take money straight off my debit card/bank account??(not like a echeque) I could pay you Clairelou like this, eaiser than posting a postal order and hopefully cheaper!

Ms_Chocaholic

What do people think of starting a thread where we can each post what our winnings (no chat) so we can work out what percentage MSErs won of the overall prize fund