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spidystrider

I am glad you have managed to come to a decision. I know it won't be easy but you will get through it.
Starting all over again will be scary but worth it and I am sure you will find someone worthy of you in the future. Just don't rush into anything, take care of yourself and don't let anyone get you down.

missielizzie

Hi Simon,

So sorry to hear about your situation. I've dipped in and out the Bonkers thread, and you've always been so helpful and seem like such a nice guy.

Glad you've seeing things more clearly now. Hope you manage to find the courage to speak to your parents. Hopefully they will surprise you with how supportive they'll be. You may even find it doesn't come as a surprise to them, as you say you're living with this guy and have a mortgage together. Happened to a friend of mine who spent years deliberating whether or not to tell his parents, only for them to say 'oh that, we knew ages ago'!!

Facebook has a lot to answer for! :mad: I must say, I feel a little twitchy myself when my OH is always on there - imagine him chatting to all his ex-girlfriends...

I hope you get it sorted out and there's not too much confrontation. I send you lots of love and luck. Keep smiling, I'm sure there will be great things just around the corner for you x

clairelou44

I am about join the list of people getting fustrated on here! Someone told me they would pay me my half of our winnings by paypal a week ago and still nothing and no reply to any of my messages. Most of the people who owe me money have been good at keeping me up to date and I hope Ive been the same with those I owe to but come on you guys letting everyone down - its not fair and its not right!

cg1982

i owe
measmummy (in bank clearing)
kittylatty (PAID)

people owe me
carlingtop................PAID
calash.........................PAID
touiaunt......................PAID
jodster1980................PAID
chealseagirl
spidystrider
oilpot
annie1.........................PAID
skipton.....................PAID
barnabysue
aronS
orange plastic.........PAID
princess
scurutto
lockie21
rsspence
haynrich
always harassed even stevens

cg1982

always harassed i will get back to you on pm just a lil bit busy catching up

Lockie21

Update -

Just posted cheques to -

wookeyhole1
PenelopePitstop2008 (still owe you another one not yet arrived)
Upsa Daisy
Clairelou44

still waiting for cheques to -
Spidystrider
cg1982

will let you have your share as soon as they arrive and clear.

QPR10

simon31leeds wrote: »

Hi Bonkers buddies - many apologies but as I am at a loss who to speak to because my friends are my partners friends and I can't really confide in them and they say a problem shared is a problem halved I wanted some advice.

I've been with my partner for over 9 years now and although things have been up and down, on the whole I thought things were going well.

I was then contacted by someone on Facebook who said you may want to check out what my partner is up to with someone else they are friends with on facebook as they have some dirty secrets.

So although I know I shouldn't have, I have accessed my partners facebook and e-mails and find that behind my back he is cheating on me with another man who is married and has two young kids and a wife in tow.

Not only that, they are planning to move in together or get themselves a shag pad - some of the things I have read in conversations between them absolutely disgusts me. At the moment, if I saw this married man I am sure I would rip his head from his body which makes me worried I'm not thinking straight.

We have a house together with a mortgage, so I am thinking I need to confront him this weekend, tell him to get out by Monday and if he doesn't, I will expose him to our friends, his family and work colleagues so they can see the true side of him. I am then planning on getting the house on the market next week to try to get it sold and try my best to move on with my life. One issue is that I am not 'out' to my parents so am worried he will use this as a threat or blackmail to me so am in a dilemma if I should now come out to my parents which I have never done in the past as my dads health has been so bad and I think his health has worsened because he didn't take news of something similiar with my brother in the past. But if I don't come out to my parents I am worried he will go round there and make things 10 times worse.

I just want to know if I'm being logical as I'm now in such a state about this that I don't know if I'm thinking straight.

Apologies for the long message and it's totally off competition chat I know but I just wanted some advice on things by people who don't know me and him (e.g. all of our friends) and can give me an outsiders perspective.

Firstly Simon sending you a big hug you must feel absolutely awful at the moment especially as you thought things were okay. :EasterBunI couldn't find a hug will a chocolate bunny do?


You are in total shock my immediate advice would be to do nothing for a day or two act normal as normal as you can, if he asks whats wrong tell him you are ill, get over the shock and then plan your next move.

Think carefully what to do next and more importantly how to do it re confronting him, telling his other mans wife & coming out to your parents (surely they've already guessed you've been with him 9 years!)

It seems the best thing to do is to sell up and move on it will be difficult for you so be strong. I don't know what one does in these cases with a shared mortgage.

Try & rest this weekend treat yourself well and confront everything in a few days with a clear head.

We're all here for you

simon31leeds

Thanks everyone - I appreciate your comments and words of advice - here comes the weekend eh! Oh joy!

spidystrider

Just remember Simon, we're here all weekend (sad individuals that we are:rotfl:)
so if you need someone to talk to don't hesitate xxx.

cg1982

spidystrider wrote: »

Just remember Simon, we're here all weekend (sad individuals that we are:rotfl:)
so if you need someone to talk to don't hesitate xxx.

yep im here all weekend to as normal