Can noise from kids be anti social behaviour?

z1985m

Doesn't matter if it's an old thread or not. stop being so petty, you can clearly see it's a new user.

LisaB85

I live in a cul de sac and lived here as a kid, during the summer the people next to us had their grandchildren stay over who us local kids were friends with, I remember non of our parents allowed us out until 10am and were in by 9pm or at least in a garden. I don't remember ever screaming like we were being murdered or being overly noisy and if we did we would be told.

I agree with the point about screaming like they are in trouble because when they really are screaming for a reason nobody will listen to them.

There are lots of kids round here and most of the time they are ok, you can hear them but it isn't that bad and is only really during the school holidays. I do feel for those who have to put up with it all the time, it's like people taking kids into a pub and letting them run riot I think we need to respect each other, respect that children do make noise and the parents to respect that people don't want to hear them constantly.

I think parents believe just because they love their kids everyone else should too.

slimgym

Indeed, it starts with the parents and dumping your kids out onto the street unsupervised gives them no limits or boundaries. Where we used to live the screeching yelling and general noise became unbearable during the summer, you had to shut the windows and doors just when you wanted them open. Out until 10pm whether light or dark, parents screeching across the estate "your dinners ready" etc. You can see where the kids get it from

Caught 3 of neighbours 10y/o kids chucking stones over the fence at my patio doors one day, took them home, parent took them in, later they were out playing so I went round to ask what happened. She told me as none of them would put their hands up to it she could do nothing to punish any of them but just told them to stay away from my house. All three of them learnt the lesson that day if you blame each other no-one can do anything.

Transformer

Since school break up a few days ago the noise out side my house has become unbearable, from kids sitting in dads car and playing honk the horn repeatedly, to same family plying set their house alarm off and see how many run, to them standing in street and deliberately screaming for help to see if anyone notices. and to be honest sad to say round here they way it is going on there is a risk of some kid needing help and screaming so and the adults near by swtiching off as even their own parents ignore it.

Young boy hit by a car for playing chicken, who thankfully was okay with car owner saying to parent do you realise how this could have ended up, to get no reply other than pee off basically.

So it is unbearable at the moment due to I would put it down as lack of parent supervision, but I do remember how kids can be noisey having normal fun too and did not mind that I have to remember when my kids were playing out side and I sat to supervise them outside the door with other neighbours.

But just seems nowadays when school is over the neighbours(new neighbours and seem to young to have kids, as in want them but not the responsibiity) leave the kids to own devices and either are on the booze or drugs near me, hence me a few days ago knocking on a nearby house to ask them were they aware their young toddler was sat on the window frame half in half out on a top floor three storey house.

So it annoys me but I try to switch off but just try to keep an ear for the word help wether a kids screams it in play because one day you wiil never know.

Its the parents at fault not teaching the kids how to play fun but safely and respecting others at same time, as in dont hit a ball against dads car no but would have no trouble if same dads kids were hitting another car and the dad does not chastice them, you hear him shout when his car is accidently hit

The kids will grow up like their parents!!

katemuddy

Anyone who thinks it is acceptable for children to play out late at night causing a nuisance obviously hasn't experienced it on a daily basis over a long period of time..

I am subjected to anti social behaviour on a daily basis to the point I have lost sleep and spent time stressing over it. Kids constantly coming in my garden to get a ball up to 12.20am aged between 4 and 12 yrs...

This still happens even after the police have been and warned the families not to do this, there is little by law that can be done due to no current legislation guide lines on reasonable timeframes of playtime, as long as there is no loud music and the parents are supervising they can pretty much run riot all night if they want, and even when you witness any act of vandalism or anti social behaviour it is your word against the parents..

The only way to resolve it is long and hard drawn out affair consisting of working with multiple agencies, police, council, social services (where applicable) over a period of filling in 100 pages of a diary of events, regular calls to the above getting ref no's dates and log no's.

So anyone who says it doesn't warrant an ASBO is having a giraffe quite frankly..

The parents should be issued with an ASBO because it is irresponsible parenting, every child has a right to a regular routine, including meal times and bedtimes, every child has a right to an education and to be taught at the very least moral value at home, to respect others and their property, it is a basic element in learning. oh and to play quietly at some times to give us sufferers a respite for a few hours.

rant over.

slimgym

This is awful and I can only empathise about what you are going through. I tagged in to this topic many years back when we were suffering the sort of thing you're describing. We had lived in the house 15 years and there was a gradual shift in the people around us. I remember the dread I used to have for any school holiday and going away every weekend to escape the disturbance because there was never any peace.

All advice amounted to people can do what they like, whenever they like, there was nothing you could do. As you said they want you to keep a diary which only goes to bring focus on it - and then they decide whether any action can be taken once you've spent time noticing in great detail how bad it was. The authorities don't seem to realise you're not dealing with rational people here. They won't learn, they don't care, and they're well aware of it.

There were screechy kids playing footie against the house, kids chucking stones over the fence at the glass patio doors, a 14 year old whose parents bought him a drum-kit - he used to practice shouty thrash metal to accompany it, and a woman in her 60's who let her dog run loose and it shat everywhere.

We moved house. I hated having to do it and we're renting so it's costing a lot of money, but after 3 years we couldn't be happier. I now rent out that house to someone who is either more tolerant to it, is more in keeping with the neighbours ways or is resigned to the fact that this is how you have to live life in the UK today.

Best of luck. I hope you find an answer that works for you.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

Once it starts raining again the little !!!!!!!s will be back inside annoying their parents.

Gordon_Hose

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Gordon_Hose wrote: »

it might be an old thread but lots of us suffer both then and now with noisy and inconsiderate neighbours

Gordon_Hose

Start a new thread then.