Like a rubber ball !

scrooge2008

That was a really lovely post DC.

I'll throw my penny's worth in too.

I like the saying, 'it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all'. You know that you can have a happy, successful relationship, and even though you must have endured incredible pain in these last 20 months, I am sure you treasure those 20 years together, they were a blessing.

You're still young, and have every chance of having another wonderful relationship, I hope this proves to be it. You certainly don't sound like you are rushing into anything, or misinterpreting signals.

In the meantime enjoy those butterflies.... Sounds like a great start to the New Year.

hypno06

ooh, butterflies, and feeling like a 17 year old - that sounds like just what the doctor ordered!

Seriously, you are not expected to grieve for ever - that is not to say you will ever forget, or stop loving DH, and neither should you be expected to......The feelings you have had over the last few days are unexpected for you, so you are unsure how to deal with them, and how to react - that is perfectly normal......when anything takes us by surprise it takes a little while to absorb it and work out what to do next!

If you had a friend, who had lost someone after a long partnership.....and then had these new but unexpected feelings, and who confided in you because she wasn't sure what she *should* be feeling, I am pretty sure you would give her a big hug and say "run with it".

So, this is my virtual hug for you and to say "run with it".....whether it develops into anything is really neither here nor there at this stage, what you need is the reasurrance that it is ok to feel like this.......and it is - it really is ok.

Different_Corner

Thank you Scrooge and Hypno. Kind and wise words. I know what you are saying is true. And I'm 'allowed'. Am going with the flow.

I remember this guy being totally anti-smoking, so there is my additional motivation. (Like I need any more .)
I don't know how this generation cope with all these forms of communication when in this total emotionally wrecked state. Every time I get a text, my stomach competes in it's own olympic finals.

hypno06

So.....how has the non-smoking gone so far?

Different_Corner

Is not easy, am not giving up giving up. Two today, it's the after work, no-one home half an hour to myself thing. But you know tomorrow maybe mad dog gets an early afternoon walk ?

savingholmes

Well done on quitting smoking

The guy sounds interesting. Statistically those who loved most are most likely to be happy to go into another relationship when a loved one dies... This is because they recognise they had happy times together, enjoyed being together and are happy to move on....

I like the film ps I love you - which is basically about a guy giving his wife permission to move on with life after his death through a series of love letters and gifts... It might help you to watch it - probably with a close friend rather than on your own tho....

Different_Corner

Morning
Yes SH, strangely read the book a month before DH passed away. Saw the film about 6 months after and had a really good cry.

Anyway had a decent nights sleep. Have been having many positive thoughts this last 24 hours. The 17 year old inside doesn't recognise the image in the mirror. Maybe is time to pull self together physically. Especially if applying for new jobs/interviews etc is at last on the cards. And after all is MSE 'new year'.

POSITIVE_AND_FOCUSED

Hi DC

Just reading your last few posts. My heart is pounding for you! I admire your bravery. Good luck and just go with the flow with your new friend. xx

hypno06

Good morning beautiful positive people (can't you tell I had a good night's sleep!!)

I hope the dog enjoys his early afternoon walk - just what is needed I reckon! Keep strong and have a good day x

Different_Corner

£5 on BB, withdraw and add to £20k challenge. :T