Like a rubber ball !

Different_Corner

Morning
Think my BB days are over, no bonus there this morning.
On the emotional front I am trying to come back down, don't want to play games too old for all that, but need to get things done today. Distraction is the name of the game.
On the smoking front, I am still piddling about with the odd one here and there, no idea why I can't just let go ? 3 yesterday. So what's the point ?
Sale on ebay last night, 34p from quidco, and Amazon sale of £2.69, so that means I've made the 1% mark on the 20k challenge !:T

scrooge2008

Morning DC,

Sounds like you are off to a flying start. Have a good day.

mollypolly

Different_Corner wrote: »

On the other hand I feel oh so sad at having these 'feelings' for someone else, it means that although I'll never stop loving my DH, something has changed. Changed forever. And that hurts. Am I just on a nostalgic trip down memory lane ? And so I go round in circles.

I know this is far from MSE, but I'm oh so wary/cautious even scared. There's no rush I can just meet him as an old friend. But in the mean time I really need to come back to earth.

There said it.

Hugs to you DC.That is a lovely post.I was widowed a long time ago and thought at the time that I shouldn't ever love again but as time went on,as you say,things change.You must not feel guilty for this.....life does go on....no one can stand still.You are a different person now ....but I am sure you are very much stronger.Take each day as it comes and enjoy those feelings that have been buried for so long.
Maybe this man is the next one for you....maybe not....but there is nothing wrong meeting as friends and enjoying another mans company.I think God works in mysterious ways and we dont know what he has planned for us around every corner.
I had to go through the pain of losing my man but(and I know this may sound very disloyal/awful to some) 33 years later I wouldn't change a thing. I met and married another wonderful man and had another child with him and we have now been together for 30 years.

scrooge2008 wrote: »

That was a really lovely post DC.

I'll throw my penny's worth in too.

I like the saying, 'it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all'. You know that you can have a happy, successful relationship, and even though you must have endured incredible pain in these last 20 months, I am sure you treasure those 20 years together, they were a blessing.

You're still young, and have every chance of having another wonderful relationship, I hope this proves to be it. You certainly don't sound like you are rushing into anything, or misinterpreting signals.

In the meantime enjoy those butterflies.... Sounds like a great start to the New Year.

As Scrooge says.....Enjoy.....You are only here once.

Take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx

DeeDeeinDooDoo

Hi DC

Found your diary! Ooooh! The recent posts fair brought a tear to my eye. Can't really think of anything profound to say...

BUTT with regards to the smoking have you thought about switching to roll your owns. Apparently the whole palava/ritual of it reduces the amount smoked therefore less cost and eventually you may tire of it??

PS Love the sound of your two boys, must be very proud.

jo1972

How lovely DC, I got butterflies reading about it :rotfl:

Take it slow and see how it goes, don't you ever feel guilty for something that you deserve. Good luck xx

Pippilongstocking

I've snuck in too - sorry for being so nosey!! (I know we are virtual chums enough to barge in )

I can't imagine how your loss felt or still feels. (())

Someone once told me:
Listen to your heart, when you need answers about life. Your head can often confuse you. It is better to listen to your heart as it gives you more accurate picture of what makes you happy.

My DD and I always when together or apart ask 'what's your heart doing' - makes us both think about what our feelings are even about less meaningful stuff. (The answer is often just silly random stuff but its fun).

*my heart is currently thinking about going home and walking its dog and going to enjoy how sleepy he will look when I go in!*

So when emailing or whatever this chap, maybe you should ask yourself what's your heart doing and f its having a lovely time thats great - wherever it leads you.

(()) xx

Barges out again

Keeping_Motivated

Also butting in (hope you don't mind) to say just because you have been in touch with someone else and there may or may not be feelings there that does not mean you have stopped loving or grieving for your husband. You can grieve and be happy at the same time at this point, I mean life is not all on one level, you will have moments of grief and moments of happiness and that is ok.

And I also believe you can have feelings for 2 people.

So by going into this phase you have not drawn a line and shut your husband out, you are trying to learn to adjust your feelings for both. Good job us women are good at multi tasking eh

Different_Corner

You ever feel silly staring at a computer with the lump in the throat ? Thank you all for your lovely words.

Mollypolly, yes whatever is out there does move in mysterious ways. Even if this is not to be, it's made me look at me and who on earth I've become. I've cetainly lost a certain oomph in the last two years - understandably - but I really would like to be me again. Thank you for your lovely story, I totally 'get' it . I'm so glad and inspired by stories like that.

Fay, my heart has me up and dancing to Whitney's 'Million Dollar Bill', which is good for the soul and the housework. My head remembers this guy being an outrageous flirt, popular and with eyes and lashes that make you melt (you see how bad I've got it?) So armed with a bucketful of caution and hope of a good friend back in my life I shall go forward.

Jo, KM and DD, yes slow and steady, adjust and most of all enjoy.

hypno06

And remember, we want all the juicy gossip.......and if there isn't any, well make some up for us :rotfl:

mollypolly

hypno06 wrote: »

And remember, we want all the juicy gossip.......and if there isn't any, well make some up for us :rotfl:

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