Alcohol self help thread II

feelinggood_2

How did you realise that you couldn't drink at all?
I'm going to the pub on thursday. I usually get thru a couple bottles of wine or something. I was planning on not drinking, as I know the 3 guys quite well, but, one of the guy's is bringing his wife. I don't cope well with other women - I'm ridiculously insecure and feel worthless in comparison to anyone else. I know I shouldn't drink, is there anything else I can do to stop myself feeling absolutely awful? Drinking to cope with social situations isn't good, its not me being a fun person, its me having to drink to feel like I am a 'normal' person who is worthy of conversation.
I should try to not drink. What do I say to OH, who will try and encourage me to drink?

Al_Mac

I don't know that I can't drink, I chose not to take the chance.

The pub situation is one I'm still avoiding:o Been with close friends and family:D

The situation you will be in, will be one of the hardest I could imagine facing. I'm hoping other people will have some advice:o

I would say make sure OH knows you intend not to drink, as you keep saying, you have your meds, a very, very good reason not to anyway:cool:

feelinggood_2

The only problem is he seems to actively encourage me to drink - and belittles me when I can't not drink. Then he has a go at me for 'faking' and 'exaggerating' my alcohol problem! I can't win. His answer is 'just have fun'. Fun at what cost? Right now, in my state of mind, I am not safe to get that drunk, I don't know what I'd do.
Hmmm, social anxiety is no fun at all! That seems to be common theme with alot of us doesn't it? Hopefully I'll be getting my cbt, conselling and physcotherapy soon. That'll help fingers crossed

suffolkb

There is a program on BBC2 at 9 tonight about a group of alcoholics. Please watch. This is what is waiting for us if we choose to continue.

clint1974

http://www.bbc.co.uk/bbctwo/listings/programmes.shtml?day=today&service_id=4224&filename=20061121/20061121_2100_4224_27936_100

Rain in My Heart

Tue 21 Nov, 9:00 pm - 10:40 pm 100mins

Documentary which follows four alcohol abusers from the impoverished Medway towns of north Kent. Filmed over the course of a year, Paul Watson's camera follows them from Gillingham's Medway Maritime Hospital to their homes, resulting in a film that illustrates the troubles they face and the impact of their behaviour on those around them. The fact that two of the four died during filming is grim testimony to the illness of alcoholism.

feelinggood_2

4 sips of my glass of wine, and I came to my senses and poured it away

Al_Mac

Good girl

feelinggood_2

But I still want some
Go away craving, bad craving!
Wheres me chocolate, I'll have that instead.
Oh, how old are you almac?

lewt

Al_Mac wrote:

Sorry lewt, at this point in time, got to agree with beer:p

That depends on weather your real alcoholic or not i should think it could be possible that some are just heavy(problem) drinkers.

your not to know they dont work iif your too frit to try them are you?

i know you have a fair bit of clean time behind you al and have said that it was the fear of your mrs leaving that did it for you.
can i ask you do you still obsess?

i read back a little way last night am i right in thinking that feeling upset is the same person as feelinggood?

feelinggood_2

Yeah, I'm feelingupset and feelinggood. I changed from upset to good to try and be more positive.