MSE Parents Club Part 4

scruffy96uk

MotM Hello and welcome another man to join us ladies and bruno:rotfl:I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said but wow your doing a grand job with 7 girlies!!!!

newmoneysaver_2

Elle - just seen this (Cosatto Swift Lite @ £49.99) posted on hotukdeals - don't know if it's any use to you, all the reviews mention lightweight and easy to use, I think it lies flat too!

Fritha_2

elle_gee wrote: »

Preferably something with a cosytoes as it'll be November when I'm using it.

Little Snuggler is another good place for cosy toes :-)

Hello motm btw :-)

redmel1621

3onitsway wrote: »

I can fit 7 in the car, and there will only be 3 of us. DS is at playscheme Monday.

Hi 3, Thanks I got excited when you posted this, but i'll have to leave it this time...hopefully there will be another meet of some kind that I can come along too...when it is more convenient:rolleyes: (don't ask)

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Hello all, i'm going to be brave and post

1. If I ever wanted to meet anyone, I wouldn't be allowed as I would upset my girls, particularly the eldest two. I have absolutely no intention on doing so at the moment, i'm enjoying being a father, I love having them around and the holidays are great as we do so much together within our tiny budget (It's amazing how much you can do for free!) Anytime a female under say.....50, says anything to me, the eldest two are right there, protecting me and themselves, telling the woman how i'm happy as I am etc....even if the woman is just commenting on the Jonas Brothers books i'm buying for the girls or something. They see that as me being chatted up and someone trying to wriggle their way in

2. The eldest finished school this year and wants to go to college, but has said she won't as she wants to stay at home and help me around the house, help with her sisters and all the other things that most mothers do, but she's 16 and I want her to enjoy herself! She has friends that come around, she rarely goes out with them though. She is a popular girl. She's a pretty girl which she inherited from her mother (but fortunately didn't inherit her laziness, self centred attitude or general personality) and an intelligent one at that (I have no idea where she inherited that!)

How the heck do I convince her to go to college, even if it's part time? I'd love to have her home, but i'd love her to go out, enjoy herself and go to college and just be......young!

There is nothing I cannot talk about to my girls. I'm always honest and open with them, but they are the two things I am struggling with the most.

There is so much more, but I have said too much already I'll probably regret posting tonight and come back and hope no-one has noticed

Hi MOTM - I also want to echo what others have said...you are doing a great job! Even if all you mange to do is keep them fed and in clean clothes!!! Although it sounds like you achieve much more than that:D

I would say that yes it is very important to be open and honest with them, but don't feel you have to tell them everything you are thinking too. Obviously you will want to meet someone in the future, but feel free to keep this bit of information to yourself, not to hide it from them, just so it is not brought out in the open regularly otherwise they will look at every woman as a threat.... just emphasise the importance of friendships both male and female. Also, I don't know if you have any male friends, but maybe try and stick with making friends with men first, that way they will get used to you having non-threatening friendships first and will hopefully make them feel a bit more at ease about you going out etc..

With the college part of your query, all I can think is to encourage her to go part-time by showing how little of her time the course will take up and that she will still have plenty of time to help you out.

Mel x

ladybirdintheuk

oh, MOTM - one other suggestion. If she doesn't want to go to college "propper" this year, perhaps you could insist that at the very least she does an extra gcse or a self study course or something as an evening course to keep her brain in "learning" mode. I speak from experience when I say it is hard to go back to college after a break! (You can tell her I said so and all )

elle_gee

Good job Rhys is taking more milk - they want us to increase his feeds by a huge jump from what he should be on! Stopping another drug and yet more repeat bloods on Monday.. he'll have none left at this rate!

searching_me

back from the shop and a little tidying (before the big clean tomorrow) oh by the way motm is there not a home course she can do then she can do both x

feelinggood_2

Aww poor Rhys. What are they wanting him to increase too? I wish we could take the blood samples, needles and things for them.

elle_gee

feelinggood wrote: »

Aww poor Rhys. What are they wanting him to increase too? I wish we could take the blood samples, needles and things for them.

180ml per kg per day, so 61ml feeds if 3hrly or 81ml if 4hrly. I know it doesn't sound much, but a month ago he couldn't tolerate a feed of even 2ml bigger than the last when it was a strict every 3hrs. He should be on 55ml every 3hrs now for his weight.

At the minute, he's having between 65-90ml feeds whenever he feels like it plus 2-3 breastfeeds a day but we haven't been writing it down to work out what he gets in a day so going to start doing that.

He's a lot more awake and alert than he was at the beginning of the week and has just rolled over again - I left him on his front, sat the other side of the laptop to work out the milk calcs and when I looked back over the screen he was on his back! :eek:

ladybirdintheuk

elle_gee wrote: »

180ml per kg per day, so 61ml feeds if 3hrly or 81ml if 4hrly. I know it doesn't sound much, but a month ago he couldn't tolerate a feed of even 2ml bigger than the last when it was a strict every 3hrs. He should be on 55ml every 3hrs now for his weight.

At the minute, he's having between 65-90ml feeds whenever he feels like it plus 2-3 breastfeeds a day but we haven't been writing it down to work out what he gets in a day so going to start doing that.

He's a lot more awake and alert than he was at the beginning of the week and has just rolled over again - I left him on his front, sat the other side of the laptop to work out the milk calcs and when I looked back over the screen he was on his back! :eek:

It's fab when they do that With Izzy I look back and she is on the other side of the room trying to open a drawer or something! Which isn't quite so fab, but never mind.

Sounds like if you write down what he is having over the day he might not be too far off. Do they want him to have the 180ml per kilo (how many is that then?) as well as the boobie milk?