MSE Parents Club Part 4

astonsmummy

Aston is a June baby, started school in september, I couldn't wait!
I wont lie to you, I am totally NOT an earthy type mother, dont get me wrong, I love the bones of my boys but I do not want to be stuck with them for longer than nessissary (lol that last bit is a joke) the real reason was that Aston was in a private nursery for 2 years and seeing as all his peers were leaving and I thought if he doesnt start school now he will be behind all his classmates when he starts in year 1.
I'm glad I sent him early, I think it's really bought out his acedemic skills (reading, maths, although he can spell his handwriting is awful!)

BrunoM

Ai-ai-ai, MIL drama, home drama, DIY, and a restless baby! I have had no time to feel strangely jealous (in a way which doesn't make me weird!) of the northern BF picnic, from which lovely photos

OH lived with me at my parents' place for about 9 months after moving from California - she got on fine with them at that time. However, as the "first child of the generation" was imminent, my mum was veeery excited and got a little bit pushy. In the absence of OH's parents, she was at the hospital for the labour, and (slightly unfortunately from my OH's point of view) came in as she was being sewn up afterwards.

She was also then very keen for visits, for encouraging OH to travel across London by public transport to visit their place and so on. OH was on the verge of PND, and I didn't realise how much this was bothering her til after the fact.

So I had to cut my mum off for a bit, I told her OH felt invaded and way too pushed, she needed private time, etc, and my mum was fine with that and very upset that she'd upset OH, who she likes very much. We had a month's break, then arranged a couple of minor short visits that went fine, and then a couple of months of afternoon visits for a couple of hours, most weeks.

Then we went back to California - hitting OH with huge waves of home-sickness and glaring comparison between her family network there and my mum here. My mum mailed asking to visit this week now we're back, and this precipitated a long argument between OH and I about how I think the idea of her visiting a couple hours most weeks, sometimes giving OH a break by taking Elijah out, is reasonable but she thinks it's pushy and invasive and she "won't reward her for pestering us".
So, gaaaaah. I've put my mum off again, and arranged for the following week, but this is clearly going to keep being an issue!

Sorry for long rant, just feeling ranty.

Home drama is simply that our previous landlords, who were generally friendly if a bit useless throughout our 2 years with them, arranged for the end-of-tenancy inventory (nothing missing but a recommendation that we contribute towards some carpet costs - fine), then went completely quiet. They are in the US for a year, so I have only email or their registered UK address, and they have now not responded to emails (two two separate addresses) for a month (we moved out 6 weeks ago). I will have to send them a registered letter threatening court action I suppose

In other news, I built a box. It doesn't sound like much, but DIY is not my forte and it was quite hard! It's a storage bench/toy box for the nursery, and it contained 72 screws, and I have a blister on my palm now

All stresses exacerbated by Elijah's mysterious nighttime behaviour the last two nights - he's been fine all day, but a couple of times each night he has eventually dragged me out by repetitive but low-key whimpering, that could last an hour or more... eventually when I conclude he's not settling I go in to find him sitting up in the middle of the cot, sans covers, moaning and looking mournful It's very traumatic! OH insists I should let him keep going and he'll learn to settle, but I can't sleep through it anyway, so I spend 15 mins getting him to settle then 30 or 60 minutes later it starts again! Just the last two nights. Is that weird?

Just to briefly think about someone other than myself, , sorry to hear of your stress with partner, 3 - for what it's worth, he probably didn't think of it as a big thing at the time and it wasn't a sign of "real desire to stray", he was just being stupid :rolleyes: hope you work it out.

Post now too long - must do work.

r.mac_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

...her husband is tendering for my job :eek: I had an inkling that he might be but Cass confirmed it for me today - tough competition!

gosh - competition! Good luck for your tender.....

the picnic sounds like it was great.

Sami_Bee

oh Bruno, most stressful couple of days for you but :T yey for building a box
and don't worry there was a couple of dads at the picnic

I think the big man up there approved of our picnic because the glorious weather he provided has gone back to grey and rainy today!

Sami_Bee

Caz I see you lurking! have you seen these?

ladybirdintheuk

Sami - Instinct parenting is the way to go I think.

Bruno - Oh my, sounds like you're having a great time No idea on the sleep thing. Is you OH being treated for her PND. It's not surprising she is homesick and finding it difficult, but it does make life difficult for you (and your mum!). I assume you've let your Mum know what is happening, and that it's not that she is doing anything wrong, just that OH is finding things hard at the mo.

This daft baby keeps falling asleep while feeding and falling off, then waking up in a panic! And she is sucking and snoring at the same time. Bless!

r.mac_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

It was all a bit small-worldish!! It was organised by the sister of a guy I know who has his own film company who has done a bit of work for me (oo-er!)....

Very strange to be sat with people who you kind-of know but not in the flesh IYSWIM!
For example - I knew when Sami got out a freshly ironed muslin that her mum would have ironed it for her :rotfl:


I didn't know however that 3 is a proper ironing freak!!! She irons SOCKS and PANTS and TEA-TOWELS :eek:

3 - you don't do you??? now that is madness but if you ever want to visit.....;)

sami - i love teh colour of your new phil and teds. I've only seen the red ones before - the blue is sooo much nicer

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

Bailey, 8yr olds all worship at the feet of Hannah Montana!

3 Hugs, don't know what to say, you must feel like the rug has been pulled out from under your feet.

Fab photo's from the picnic.

Elle hope you enjoyed that glass of wine, I joined you as my OH also said something bloody stupid!

RMac, I am also suffering from that special brand of tiredness that months of broken sleep induces, I just don't think its the same for the dads (sorry Bruno)

First day of the 6week holiday here today, if we make it to the end all in one piece I will be amazed! My hair certainly won't look the same if the amount of tearing it out I have done today is anything to go by!

ETA I iron muslins and tea towels but not socks or pants

thanks - I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering too. My mum came over yesterday and stayed the night ans ordered me to bed at 10pm. She then took charge of the baby monitor and typically my little madam slept 11 hours straight - proving to us that she can do it!:T I know that teething is a big part of it, so a couple of teething free nights would be great, but I did stock up on more calpol today just in case.....

Sami_Bee

removed by me

ladybirdintheuk

If she introduces herself as Olivia then that is who she is as far as i'm concerned. (I have quite a few TG friends who you wouldn't know unless they had told you, and also have met some very ugly women who were born that way... so taking this approach is safest for everyone!)

BrunoM

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Bruno - Oh my, sounds like you're having a great time No idea on the sleep thing. Is you OH being treated for her PND. It's not surprising she is homesick and finding it difficult, but it does make life difficult for you (and your mum!). I assume you've let your Mum know what is happening, and that it's not that she is doing anything wrong, just that OH is finding things hard at the mo.

Thanks Ladybird. She feels she has been over the low-key PND for months, but resents what happened during it. I have indeed let my mum know that "it's not her, it's us".

Also got work-related drama at the mo, but immediately after I posted I realised my error and deleted it, given other people here read MSE and I post under something that is very close to my real name...!