MSE Parents Club Part 4

My_Fathers_Daughter

elle_gee wrote: »

Okay, I took this..



..as applying to me as I am the only one who is "only expressing". I'm sorry if that's not what you meant, but that's how I took it, and I didn't take kindly (as you can probably tell) to your suggestions for increasing my supply when I hadn't asked for help and, having spent eight weeks on a neonatal unit having "you must express for the health of your baby - all formula is like poison to him" drummed into me, I had unsurprisingly tried expressing every few hours.

I've mentioned it before, as have a lot of others here, we all have feelings of being a "bad mum".. totally unfounded and probably irrational every time, myself included (whatever has happened, there's nothing we can do about it now, we just have to move on and carry on.. as I have to keep telling myself!).

Like rmac (and MFD) suggests, group hug and virtual biscuits all round?

:kisses3:
I think you are wonderful and so does my husband

I will join you in a virtual biscuit or two. In fact...would you like one of my vienese whirls...they are LUVVERRLLLYYY

My_Fathers_Daughter

searching_me wrote: »

emlou they have to give you either part time or a full writen reason to why not it is a legal to say full time or not to a parent of a child under 5 x

Sorry SM but this is simply not true.

Everybody has a legal right to request part time or flexible hours and an emplyer has to give it due consideration.

I have had to tell someone full-time or nothing in the last 12 months.

r.mac_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Good stuff Glad it's going so well.

Has anyone used the pampers simply dry? I'm not sure if I should get them :think: maybe I could get some and then swap them, Chris's in size 5's so it's feesable that OH 'got the wrong ones'

I missed the bargain - never mind. Am I the only one not totally confused by all the different ranges of nappies within the one brandI can't possibly try all of them and as baby grows she changes and so ones that did fit no don't IYKWIM :rolleyes: I decided I liked huggies best, but then LO was inbetween their sizes and pampers fitted better, but I bought a different fit one day and they leaked and were the wrong shape and so now back to huggies but it's all so complicated. What was wrong with Terry's towelling nappies:o:confused::p:p;)

searching_me wrote: »

emlou they have to give you either part time or a full writen reason to why not it is a legal to say full time or not to a parent of a child under 5 x

AFAIK - a company only has to properly consider your request to go part-time. They don't actually have to agree to it. If you were going to argue the point they would have to show you evidence of that consideration process.

emlou2009

:eek: viennese whirls! yum!!

my nan had a exciting thing from m&s yesterday, it was called a strawberry sundae tart it was a tart case with jam and buttercream and a bit of sponge! very sickly but very tasty

elle_gee

Can I just chip in and say it's actually anyone with children under 16, or disabled children under 18, now They changed it recently.. April, maybe.

Info here: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Employment/Employees/Flexibleworking/index.htm

searching_me

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Sorry SM but this is simply not true.

Everybody has a legal right to request part time or flexible hours and an emplyer has to give it due consideration.

I have had to tell someone full-time or nothing in the last 12 months.

my bad i was told they had to ... ignore me i was mis informed x

My_Fathers_Daughter

pinkpig08 wrote: »

HA! HV just been and weighed Caitlyn - she's 8lb 4.5oz so has put on 6.5 oz in a week hurray! DH can go and tell his mother THAT! When we were there at h
the weekend and Caitlyn was fussing alll the time she said 'Oh get her on the bottle' and 'all mine were bottle fed'. Even last night DH said he doesn't think she's getting enough. I told HV what they'd said so she made a point of writing in the red book that she's got a healthy weight gain and that she is breastfeeding well and said 'you can show them that!' Sorry if I sound awful but they seem to think they all know what's best for my baby. DH's mum also told him I should put her in the cot. His dad asked me if I nursed her (he means hold and rock) so I said yes. 'Ah, you should put her down'. !!!!!!??!! She's 3 weeks old!

On a good note - my childminder rang earlier and said she'll be able to fill my place from around October to January which means I won't have to pay her for that time More in my pocket for clothes and toys lol!

Off to catch up now!

YAY Caitlyn!!

I got some of this from hubbys family too...along with 'that's why he is clingy' (he is 3/4/5 weeks old !!!!!!!!) and he will settle better if you bottle feed him :rolleyes:

I also used to get 'how long are you going to do THAT for?'

I just used to say 'oh right' and 'for as long as I can be ar5ed' and they gave up saying anything after a while


Good news on the Childminder - how does that affect your £21 a week?

elle_gee

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

:kisses3:
I think you are wonderful and so does my husband

I will join you in a virtual biscuit or two. In fact...would you like one of my vienese whirls...they are LUVVERRLLLYYY

Thankyou And vienese whirls sound like just the thing.. Our house is really lacking in biscuits.. how did that happen?! :whistle:

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I got some of this from hubbys family too...along with 'that's why he is clingy' (he is 3/4/5 weeks old !!!!!!!!) and he will settle better if you bottle feed him :rolleyes:

I also used to get 'how long are you going to do THAT for?'

I just used to say 'oh right' and 'for as long as I can be ar5ed' and they gave up saying anything after a while

I'm still getting that from monster-in-law.. :rolleyes: Will have to remember the second answer.. if I'm brave enough! MIL scares me - she's like a really strict headteacher..

cazscoob

emlou2009 wrote: »

:eek: viennese whirls! yum!!

my nan had a exciting thing from m&s yesterday, it was called a strawberry sundae tart it was a tart case with jam and buttercream and a bit of sponge! very sickly but very tasty

hmmm i wonder if they do these at the M&S in the garage lol!!!

redmel1621

Thanks for all the well wishes:)...I waited till dh had put his work away then we had a lovely chat. He is adamant that I am not to feel guilty and I am to go straight to the docs if I get even a hint of those feelings again. He did try to encourage me to go anyway, but I am stubborn and am sure I feel fine currently.

Mel x