MSE Parents Club Part 4

ladybirdintheuk

Claire_Jones wrote: »

Rant: I've been suffering with really bad hip pain going right across my pelvis ever since I was about 8 months pregnant with DS2. I couldn't sleep on my back as I ended up with a crampy type pain in my back. I still can't sleep on my back and it hurts if I lie on my front as well although not as bad. I then have to slowly move until I can change position/get up.

It also happens but a lot more painful if I'm standing up or walking for periods of time without stopping and sitting down for a bit. Everytime I try to walk when its hurting I'm in a lot of pain and having to shuffle my feet rather than walk and usually either holding my breath or crying through the pain.

I mentioned it to the health visitor when DS2 was a few weeks old and she said wait until his 6-8 week check and mention it if not gone by then. Finally had his check yesterday and was told to book a separate GP appt, which I did. Saw doctor yesterday evening and he basically told me I was too fat, to lose weight and do more exercise. (I mean no sh*t sherlock - I never realised I was overweight!) I know my pelvic floor muscles are knackered and asked for help and he just told me to carry on doing exercises, which I realise I need to do but what if I'm doing them wrong or some gizmo will help more. Just made me feel so de-flated and basically the GP wasn't interested until my bits are hanging out and I've prolapsed (which feels like it won't be too long at the moment!) Just wait until I really lose it want help with our sex life then I might as well become a nun!

Sorry that got worse as I typed it

Sounds like it could be SPD ... a lot of doctors don't know it exists (which is daft, as it is really common!), it is caused by a hormone called relaxin which makes your joins more stretchy. Your pelvis is actually made of 4 different bones, and if the ligaments between them get stretchy then can sometimes move against one another and get painful. (thats how it was explained to me anyway). I was lucky that mine went away pretty much straight away (I have the occasional twinge if I try and get up "wrong" but other than that it is fine) but for some people it can hang around for much longer. I would try and see a different doctor and ask to be referred to phsio. (physio should be able to advise you on pelvic floor stuff too I would imagine?) When I went they gave me a support belt thing to wear, which stopped everything moving around. They also gave me crutches, but I imagine that wouldn't be very practical with 2 kids! Of course it could be something entirely different, but physio would be able to identify it for you.

It frustrates me when they fob people with this kind of problem off by telling them to loose weight - how are you meant to loose weight when it hurts to move? :mad:.

Might be worth asking to see a female doctor, that way a) she might be more sympathetic and b) you defintely will get an appointment with someone else! Good luck!


Can I have a rant now? We had a rubbish night too - Izzy woke up just as I was falling asleep last night. She was completely exhausted but also in pain (I think it was her tummy, but not sure) - she went back to sleep really easily, but then whenever I put her down she woke up again screaming. Kept resettling her but there was obviously something waking her back up again. Gave her some calpol, but not sure it made any difference. Eventually got her off to sleep at gone 1. Then DH woke me up at 6am because he was randy. Still can't get it into his head that I'm not interested at the moment, and even if I was I wouldn't be at that time of the morning anyway. Need to sit him down and have another chat at a "neutral" time and remind him again that 6 months ago I tore in all directions AND THEY HAD TO STITCH MY CLIT BACK TOGETHE, so I am a) all covered in scar tissue and b) still rather traumatised. We only discussed it about 2 weeks ago, but I obviously [STRIKE]he didn't listen[/STRIKE]I didn't explain myself very well . And him keep pestering me and getting arsey with me when I'm not interested, is really not helping.

scrummy-mummy

Hi Ladies (and Gent(s))

Do you mind if i join you, been reading this thread for a couple of weeks now and thought i would put my toe in the water.

Am SAHM to Scarlet & James, which i love. Am also starting diet today, now that James is 6 months old so probably will need encouragement/motivation. It's so hard with the cruddy weather though as am allergic to exercise but do love walking and visits to the park with my little ones.

SM
x

cazscoob

just trying to feed erin and charlie was playing up, abi said she would play with him and they disappeared. charlie appeared with a cup of milk and abi has just told me he took her into the kitchen and took his cup out, so she made him a cup of milk and he said thank you!

welcome scrummy!

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

I asked if I could take him with me, but they wouldn't let me. They also didn't want OH to go with me, but I explained to the little petite midwife that I'd just had an epidural, and there was no way she was going to catch me if I fell.

How much of the first week do you guys remember? I know my Mum was here for four days, but I don't remember much else.

I don't really have much recollection of things till 6 weeks.

I wonder if they would of said that if your OH had not of been there, think our bit is quite strict, and in all honesty if they had of told me i couldnt of took him i would of *politely* told them to eff off

I will reply to your PM in a sec hun x

Oh and I remeber pretty much everything, I didnt feel much different after having Ryan anyway, just sore lol

redmel1621

Becles wrote: »

All of mine have been in their own room since birth

So have mine...except ds1 who was in our room for 4 days.

astonsmummy

Morning all.
I'm off to take DS1 for a sight test.
Just a quck question, Ryan is now 15 weeks and still hasnt had his 2nd set of jabs yet, just been on the phone to the docs and they said ''oh we are running a bit behind'' (dont think he had his first set until he was nearly 11 weeks!)
I'm a bit peeved tbh, should I be or am I just being a silly bint?

astonsmummy

Me and OH have sex when DS2 is in the room, he's asleep so who cares lol

redmel1621

Claire_Jones wrote: »

I'm gonna have a rant and and brag I'm afraid so feel free to skip my post!

Brag: DS2 is only 10 weeks old and we had him weighed yesterday - he's 15lb 6oz and screamed his little heart out when he had some injections. I gave him a dose of calpol before bed and he slept from 9pm last night until 6am this morning!!!:T I was really good and managed to only check on him once. However DS1 made up for it and woke me up twice in the night but don't know what the hell for.

Rant: I've been suffering with really bad hip pain going right across my pelvis ever since I was about 8 months pregnant with DS2. I couldn't sleep on my back as I ended up with a crampy type pain in my back. I still can't sleep on my back and it hurts if I lie on my front as well although not as bad. I then have to slowly move until I can change position/get up.

It also happens but a lot more painful if I'm standing up or walking for periods of time without stopping and sitting down for a bit. Everytime I try to walk when its hurting I'm in a lot of pain and having to shuffle my feet rather than walk and usually either holding my breath or crying through the pain.

I mentioned it to the health visitor when DS2 was a few weeks old and she said wait until his 6-8 week check and mention it if not gone by then. Finally had his check yesterday and was told to book a separate GP appt, which I did. Saw doctor yesterday evening and he basically told me I was too fat, to lose weight and do more exercise. (I mean no sh*t sherlock - I never realised I was overweight!) I know my pelvic floor muscles are knackered and asked for help and he just told me to carry on doing exercises, which I realise I need to do but what if I'm doing them wrong or some gizmo will help more. Just made me feel so de-flated and basically the GP wasn't interested until my bits are hanging out and I've prolapsed (which feels like it won't be too long at the moment!) Just wait until I really lose it want help with our sex life then I might as well become a nun!

Sorry that got worse as I typed it

I would make an a appt with another doctor, asap...and keep on making appt until one of them takes you seriously. If you are in pain they should be listening:mad:

3onitsway wrote: »

Redmel - i'm also using the 'middle child syndrome' excuse to try and get a no. 4! :rotfl:

:rotfl:

scrummy-mummy wrote: »

Hi Ladies (and Gent(s))

Do you mind if i join you, been reading this thread for a couple of weeks now and thought i would put my toe in the water.

Am SAHM to Scarlet & James, which i love. Am also starting diet today, now that James is 6 months old so probably will need encouragement/motivation. It's so hard with the cruddy weather though as am allergic to exercise but do love walking and visits to the park with my little ones.

SM
x

Welcome Scrummy-Mummy:D Feel free to pop in as little or as often as you want, they talk a lot on here but just jump in whenever you have anything you want to comment on or add, or brag about, or moan about:p....you get the picture;)

Mel x

Sami_Bee

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

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Can I have a rant now? We had a rubbish night too - Izzy woke up just as I was falling asleep last night. She was completely exhausted but also in pain (I think it was her tummy, but not sure) - she went back to sleep really easily, but then whenever I put her down she woke up again screaming. Kept resettling her but there was obviously something waking her back up again. Gave her some calpol, but not sure it made any difference. Eventually got her off to sleep at gone 1. Then DH woke me up at 6am because he was randy. Still can't get it into his head that I'm not interested at the moment, and even if I was I wouldn't be at that time of the morning anyway. Need to sit him down and have another chat at a "neutral" time and remind him again that 6 months ago I tore in all directions AND THEY HAD TO STITCH MY CLIT BACK TOGETHE, so I am a) all covered in scar tissue and b) still rather traumatised. We only discussed it about 2 weeks ago, but I obviously [STRIKE]he didn't listen[/STRIKE]I didn't explain myself very well . And him keep pestering me and getting arsey with me when I'm not interested, is really not helping.

Have you told him this bit? (that clearly?) My OH doesn't understand anything other than clear direct orders (or just ignores me any other time) I have told him,"The more you pester the more I'm put off" and "If you want to get me in the mood help me out with the housework/boys and actually be nice to me!!"
for some reason he doesn't understand that sitting on his laptop complaining he's tired, the dishes haven't been done, Ed is crying then next minute saying he's in the mood is NOT a good plan:rolleyes:

scrummy-mummy wrote: »

Hi Ladies (and Gent(s))

Do you mind if i join you, been reading this thread for a couple of weeks now and thought i would put my toe in the water.

Am SAHM to Scarlet & James, which i love. Am also starting diet today, now that James is 6 months old so probably will need encouragement/motivation. It's so hard with the cruddy weather though as am allergic to exercise but do love walking and visits to the park with my little ones.

SM
x

Hello and welcome SearchingMe started a thread for shifting baby weight I'm sure someone will post a link for you soon to get some support in the weight loss, I'm not in the club

astonsmummy wrote: »

Morning all.
I'm off to take DS1 for a sight test.
Just a quck question, Ryan is now 15 weeks and still hasnt had his 2nd set of jabs yet, just been on the phone to the docs and they said ''oh we are running a bit behind'' (dont think he had his first set until he was nearly 11 weeks!)
I'm a bit peeved tbh, should I be or am I just being a silly bint?

I wouldn't be too worried unless you think he's going to be exposed to any of the illnesses soon? there needs to be at least 4 weeks between them too

Buttonmoons

Think I'll join in too if thats okay?

I'm 21 and have a 3year old DD called Keira. (bane of my life is her birthday cards spelled Kiera!)

DD has her 3year 4months jabs on the 11th of Aug, I'm fretting already. At least when they are a baby they don't know it's coming, and it's two needles, one in each arm I believe, pretty sure after they poke her the first time, I'll have to wrestle her to the floor and hold her down for the 2nd. Why don't they have 2 HV there, and poke poke at the same time. CRUELTY TO CHILDREN!

Still struggling to get her to eat a balanced meal(picky eater) won't give up her dummy (thankfully she is too embarrassed to use it in public) and she's been using the toilet to pee, since she was 2, but STILL won't poop in it. Bit worried about that as she starts nursery next month (I know I will cry and look a loon).

She agrees with me that "NAPPIES ARE FOR BABIES" "DUMMIES ARE FOR BABIES" "I'M A BIG GIRL MUMMY" That's great Keira, why don't you do it then? I've bribed her with Dora the explorer rollerskates, IF she poops in the toilet. We'll see how that goes....

I think DD was in our bedroom until she was about 8/9months? I really can't remember the exact age, but we had sex whilst she was sleeping, she seemed to be able to sense when you left the room and would wake......not like they know what your up to at that age anyways........Mummy's got a tickle toots, go back to sleep....good girl, hehe.