Need advice please about my pregnant sister and abusive partner

minnie123

She does want to stay at her home but not with him - she wants him to stay away until the situation is sorted either way. She also has two staffies she is worried sick about leaving as she knows he will not feed them if she leaves.

sidefx

minnie123 wrote: »

He didn't used to be like this - they always had a few rows but nothing serious in the slightest. It has been getting gradually and gradually worse. It was never as bad as it is now before she was pregnant never. I can say myself he can and has been the most loveliest person to me and I am shocked at how this has turned out today.

Well this is her wake up call, she can't possibly go back to him. With a baby on the way she needs to look after herself and her share in the property.

She should report him and the CBA will be able to advise her of the best thing to do regarding the house. Don't let her go back!!

shell_girl

Classic pattern of abusive behaviour- they are usually described as 'charming' 'kind' and the 'perfect partner', because that's what they want everyone else to believe... it undermines her even more if people around her wouldn't find it easy to believe what he's like behind closed doors.

He's waited, as another poster has said, until she's as vulnerable and dependent as she could possible be, again classic behaviour- after all- if he'd physically attacked her on the first date then she'd never have entered into the relationship would she?

This must be very difficult for you as well, please remember that if you need someone to talk to the helplines in my signature can give you support and information too.

minnie123

I can't physically make her do anything she is making her own choices - I feel sick with worry and probably won't sleep tonight because of this. I just can't really get my head around him and what he has done. He bought her a ring only a few days ago saying he would love to marry her and then he flips completely - he is like jekyll and hyde. He has been offered anger management from his GP before but never followed it through and he is on medication too.

He is actually up in court in a few weeks for a road rage - he loses it with everyone now not just her - he is out of control. Another incident a couple of weeks ago seperate to the other road rage a girl was driving slow because she was unsure where she was going he was going mad she got out her car and apologised for being in his way and he went crazy at her and telling her to get her BF so he could beat !!!! into him. She must have been really scared.