Pregnant after Fertility Issues / Long Term (12m+) TTC

FairyElephant_2

Thanks Nicki - I'll take a look at that site (when I am a bit further along - DH is a bit paranoid about me planning anything too far ahead!!!!!).

Somnium

Nicki wrote: »

Is this because you wouldn't have room to dry them, or are you thinking storage-wise?

Both really we are in a one bed starter home and its teeny tiny. storage is always an issue anyway but I plan on buying plastic containers for under our cot to store clothes, and am gonna have a clothing clear out at some point so there is space in my wardrobe for stuff. We currently have no dryer so either take clothes to the inlaws or using a drying rack which constantly is in the way. (This issue should be solved soon tho as Mil has just given us a cheque for £500 to buy a Washer/Dryer combo). I suppose my main hangup is the dirty nappies, no idea where they'd go and I can imagine our dog would try get at them all the time. Really dont like the idea of them stinking out our small home or tripping over a bucket every five min lol. But would def use if we had a bit more space, but saying that I'll probably have to go back to work after 5/6 months so wouldnt be that easy after then.

FairyElephant_2

In your situation Somnium, I'd prob be going for disposables too Hun!
My best mate is a bit horrified at my idea of re-usables, but I think it's mainly 'cos when she had #1 she was in a teeny 1 bed flat with no drying space, then they lived with her mum for a bit, and she was back at work before they got their own place. I've not really said too much, but am hoping to convince her by example to have a go at being more MS - she's really lovely, but spending is much more her style than saving! When she has #2 and is at home on ML though perhaps she can be 'positively influenced' - especially now they have a mortgage to pay!

Nicki

Somnium wrote: »

I suppose my main hangup is the dirty nappies, no idea where they'd go and I can imagine our dog would try get at them all the time. Really dont like the idea of them stinking out our small home or tripping over a bucket every five min lol. But would def use if we had a bit more space, but saying that I'll probably have to go back to work after 5/6 months so wouldnt be that easy after then.

I'll report back when (if!) I've been using them for a while! My main reason to want to use them was because having had two in disposable nappies, with bins being emptied once a week, I didn't want to have a week's worth of dirty disposables hanging round my house. At least with reusables I worked on the basis that they wouldn't smell when washed, and the disposables really do pong after a day or so even if you use a nappy wrapper. The propoganda for the reusables (no idea if its true or not) is that if you have a bucket with a tightly fitting lid, and you dry pail rather than soak them, the smell is minimal. The dog would actually find it harder to get into a proper nappy pail than the bin, as the lids do snap on tightly to keep inquisitive toddlers out!

Just based on what I've bought though, the paraphernalia for the reusables doesn't take up any more storage space than that for disposables, assuming you plan to have at least two packs of disposables in to prevent running out at a bad time, and if you are getting a washer dryer it might make it do-able. This is based on you saying in your first post btw that you'd rather do reusable than disposable. Having used disposables for my first two, and not even started on reusables this time I'm not going to preach to anyone who chooses to go down the disposable route from the get go!

Somnium

Will probably stick to disposables as Mil is happier with that idea and as she is paying after all. Dont plan on using nappy wrapper as have been told they dont hide the smell very well, specialy with new borns. Our bin is just outside the front door so wont be an issue to take each nappy out. May have a go at re usables but I dont think OH likes the idea and will be extra expense really.

Somnium

Hope everyone is well, very quiet here today.

whitewing

Hello Somnium,

While it's quiet I shall come on here and say 'thanks for the invite, FairyElephant'.

I am 7 weeks yesterday, so still early days. Have picked up my maternity pack from the doctor's; a massive carrier bag full of stuff that I am trying to summon up the energy to look through!

I am going to use disposable nappies I think. Haven't decided about breastfeeding yet. I have a DS, nearly 13, who was unplanned. Happy with him but not so happy with his dad. I found breastfeeding difficult at that point and didn't manage beyond 6 weeks. I couldn't express at all. Hated the pump thing. I'm not sure how much of the stuff I found difficult was a reflection of my life at the time. Funny how different it all is this time round.

I think we are going to turn down the chance for the neural fold scan/blood tests. I had an amnio and CVS last time for DS and went thro a lot of worry but he is perfectly all right (in the end they couldn't confirm that until he was born). What's everyone else doing?

Nicki

whitewing wrote: »

I think we are going to turn down the chance for the neural fold scan/blood tests. I had an amnio and CVS last time for DS and went thro a lot of worry but he is perfectly all right (in the end they couldn't confirm that until he was born). What's everyone else doing?

I did the combined test this time round, though I had refused it with both of my others. This was the bloods and nuchal fold scan, not anything invasive. We decided beforehand that if our risk was high we wouldn't do the invasive tests and wouldn't terminate though. Our decision was based on the fact that we already have a severely disabled child and at 40 I was higher risk for Downs. We wanted to know in advance if there was a strong likelihood of a problem with the new baby so that we could research provision and support before he or she arrived as being in the system already, we know that the amount of help you get with this kind of thing from the medical professionals is laughable :rolleyes:.

My risk came back as 1 in 650 which I thought was really good until the girls over on the pregnancy thread started posting their risks to be 1 in 10,000+. I still think though that 1 in 650 is not bad odds, as there is a 1 in 5 chance that the little one will be autistic like their sister, and we were prepared to go ahead with ttc on that basis.

It's a personal choice though what to do, and if you know that you would keep the baby no matter what, then I can see why you would want to avoid unnecessary worry.

whitewing

For my DS, the risk from blood tests was 1 in 49 of Down's. I was only 23 at the time.

How do you know about the autism risk? (I may be aspie, according to a test I did online, although I've never been diagnosed).

Nicki

whitewing wrote: »

For my DS, the risk from blood tests was 1 in 49 of Down's. I was only 23 at the time.

How do you know about the autism risk? (I may be aspie, according to a test I did online, although I've never been diagnosed).

DD has autism and severe learning difficulties. The research suggests that where one child in the family has a firm diagnosis of autism another child born to the same parents has a 20% chance of also being diagnosed as opposed to a 1% chance for the general population. However, as you sound like you know, there is a very wide spectrum and a vast difference between being profoundly autistic in the classical sense (as DD is) and borderline aspergers, and the 20% is only for the next child to fall somewhere in that range, not necessarily to be affected to the same degree.