The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

fedupandskint

Just read Fay's post about her grandpa and it reminded me of my dad and how I wish I had his old jumper he wore day in day out. Nearly moved me to tears.

Well I am still on 12 for the month. When the last 2 bottles of wine go from the house it is gone and will not return again very often.

I am thinking about giving up completely when I reach this point - may do.

OH has some symptoms of swine flu which have calmed down a little over the last couple of days. He is strong thankfully despite some critical underlying health conditions so is not bothering with the Dr or tamiflu.

Hope you are all ok on here, I haven't read the thread much this week as work has been sh*te and exhausting on all angles and another colleague left this week making it 5 in 2 months who have left. Plus one on long term sick. Wonder why? Cos it is sh*te!

budget_babe

Pricey sweetheart,

Thankyou for that :A I have been kind of out of sorts.

But you were on my hitlist so to speak.

Sincere congratulations on the job, but hey. I knew you would get it anyway

I just had one of my Budgie feelings

It really will be the best thing for you sweetheart, but remember the buzz word is now:

DELEGATION

If you need any help then just let me know, and I will so arrange a timetable for your family, Tell them to beware :eek:

Love and hugs
Budgie

maman

:hello:Just catching up.

Not AF today, been out with elderly (even moreso than me :rotfl:) rellies for lunch and tea.

Thanks fay for explaining situation with OH. I think I need to get a map of Scotland out to take it in properly! It upset me reading your post yesterday about you being really sad, I hope the w/end with OH is good for you. He's obviously stuck around so he must care for you a lot and know how special you are.

Budgie, you seem to have been in a bad place ever since that horrible holiday. Of course we understand but hope you'll get back to your happy Budgie soon. When do you see DS again? Visits with him are always good for you.

Hope you have a good evening with OH jo and then start a new you on Monday.

Have a good evening everyone:A

RecoveringAlcoholic

I was the alcoholic father who now wishes that he could turn the clock back 20 years.


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

mollypolly

RecoveringAlcoholic wrote: »

I was the alcoholic father who now wishes that he could turn the clock back 20 years.


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Thank You....XX

Wanna_Bee_Free

Well done price is right!!!!! Yay!! :j

It's been very very odd reading all the heavy posts so long after posting. Will try harder to keep up.

RA, thank you for your post. Feel very choked up now with all the heartfelt honesty on here the last few days.

I drank friday night and saturday but am planning to have an AFD today and join in tomorrow.

40somethingmum

budget_babe wrote: »

As our Darling Jo says :eek::eek:




Fay sweetheart, I so love the quote about the road less travelled. Thankyou for that :A. You have certainly been in a very reflective mood? I sympathise with your father, you did what you had to do at the time. You sent the letter 2 days before he died, I am sure he would have read it, but without question by writing the letter you made your peace with him. To share a little of my own experience My father also drank to excess to the point that he spent all the money we had on it, we had nothing, if anyone was to give me pocket money as a child I gave it to my mother to buy food. From a very early age I knew not to expect alot, before my 5th birthday I was told that there was no Santa Claus so I never expected alot in life. My mother suffered a nervous breakdown when I was 12 years old and went into a mental hospital, it was only 2 years ago that I have discovered that she is a diagnosed Syzophenic (sp) I once posted that if I could time travel I would of changed my childhood? But in away it has made me the person I am. Going back to fathers that drink, when my Darling Son was born prematurely my parents visited me in the hospital. My son was in the Special Care Baby Unit and my father kept asking the time, I in my ignorance thought this was because he wanted to visit my son in special care. It was though because he wanted to know when the pub would be open. From that moment I said that I would not let him visit us again as I was so utterly upset. But do you know what is the most remarkable thing? My father gave up drinking and from that time onwards he has never drank again. He has been a wonderful Grandfather to my Ds and my husband cannot understand why I hold no ill feelings? I don't because he has changed, it is a shame I had the childhood I had, but I have made damn sure that my Ds has had the best of everything. That is why I am so proud of him, I sometimes wonder how I have managed to turn out normal, (whatever normal is?) Sorry I did not mean to say all that but I just wanted to return your honesty. Sorry I have more to say to people but for now I think I need to stop typing as I feel a little upset. Hugs Angel Fay and take care.

Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Darling budgie,

This post made me cry so much. This is the proof that you are truly an angel:A:A. I feel so guilty after reading so many of the posts lately saying that their parents were alcoholics ...... I can thankfully say this was not the case for me. It brings it home thought that I do not want to leave this legacy to my sons. Admittedly(sp?) my boys are loved and well cared for ( spoilt infact:D) but when does "safe" moderate drinking turn into something else ??


40SM

40somethingmum

RecoveringAlcoholic wrote: »

I was the alcoholic father who now wishes that he could turn the clock back 20 years.


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Tears flowing again. Like budgie I am a bit out of sorts at the moment.

40SM

jo1972

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jo1972

Morning all :wave:

Budgie, so lovely to see you posting again and sorry to hear you've been unwell (((()))) your post was very honest, thank you for sharing. It just goes to show, as RA also backs up, it's the drink that makes people what they are, take the drink away and they have no pent up frustrations, unjustified irritations or low self esteem. I'm so glad your dad has turned the corner and given your lovely DS a grandad that he can be proud of

Good for you RA for saying it like it is

Morning to everyone else, hope we're all well, bluddy hot here this morning, or maybe its cos I'm so dehydrated as I drank like a fish last night. All plans of sensible drinking out of the window when it turns out that the couple we were going out with do indeed drink like fish and everytime I turned round I had another drink in front of me. It got to the point where I had absolutely no idea how many drinks I had as I had them lined up in front of me :eek: Eventually I just had to leave it and asked OH to get me a bottle of water. Got home starving to death and thankfully had marinated some chicken in madras paste and cooked it before I went out, ate that and took some tablets, then thankfully managed to sleep as I was feeling really sick from drinking too much _pale_. As I got a lay in this morning I'm not suffering to badly but my body says no more please. Plus I danced like I'd never heard music before and had heels on so my legs barely move this morning.

Had a lovely time with OH though, the other couple had a huge row and I think have probably split up overnight, I said to OH least it's not us this time, it's usually us that provide the caberet entertainment Hopefully they'll be fine once they wake up sober this morning.

Right, off to get ready to take my dear ole mummy shopping, I fancy a rib roast beef joint today, I hope they have some in Mr T's and I'm going to buy something yummy for afters to keep away the drink cravings.

Have a lovely day