The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

geranium72

Just popping in - well done to everyone sticking to plan
I have had a weekend which has invloved a drink Fri, Sat and Sun -not to my normal excess but even so must try harder

I am going for the next 4 days AF now to try and get back on target

Tangochick - so sorry for your loss

Wanna_Bee_Free

Tango Chick, so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your posts on here.

Hi everyone, I disappeared back into the previous pages to catch up and have been very touched by all the posts.

jo1972 wrote: »

WBF, I've noticed you've not returned since seeking out 'that' page....I hope the feet didn't frighten you away, maybe we'll send out a search party for you! xx

I've recovered from 'that' page now, just up to about page 60 so still running behind. Hello to BlueNose and Mum of Boys and other newbies.

Miss P, well done for giving away the bottle of beer, you're doing so so well. I've managed one more AFD yesterday so that's 6/8 for me please

BB, big hugs and try to get him eating and outside for daylight if poss in the morning for a short bit of fresh air. I am very behind but just wanted to say good luck and I hope things will improve.

Cazza's Mazza, very well done for getting to that meeting.

And everyone else too, so much to catch up on don't know where to start.

Have a good day everyone.

graemecarter

tangochick wrote: »

Hello, I'm lurking here, keeping an eye on you lot. I'm so glad you're trying to beat this.

It was my husbands funeral on friday, loads of friends & family, all shocked & sad.
Many feeling guilty & going round & round in circles like i have wondering, what could we have done? when did it start? why did it start? why didnt he talk to them about it? His mum feels guilty cos she gave him money, his sibling cos she's a doctor & should've noticed, his mates cos they all drank together.... so many victims.
At 40, he was the first of his friends to die, so school & college friends came from all over, including Australia, Bali & Canada, what a shame he wasnt here to see them.
Many apologised to me for not taking me seriously when i'd asked for help, its nobodys fault, he told them i was just nagging & exaggerating & he had become an excellent liar.

My 2 little boys (age 2 & 4) were adorable, they placed some red roses on the coffin & asked lots of strange questions, where is daddy? Has he got a pillow? How did he get up there?
It shouldnt have happened, its such a waste. I want to shout it from the rooftops ! WHAT A WASTE !
I feel so angry, so sad, i can't quite believe it then i think of him laughing with the kids & its gut wrenching.
Good Luck to all of you, you've done the hardest bit acknowledging a problem. even the week before he went into hospital, he wouldnt admit it.
x

Thanks for that.
If there is a post on this forum that encapsulates the dangers of alcoholism and likely progression of this illness, this is it.

Alcoholism is an illness that has to be beaten by the individual concerned. While friends and family can help, the desire to stop drinking has to come from within.
There is no-one to blame. There should be no guilt amongst friends and family. He poured the alcohol down his own throat, and his alcoholism told him he did not have a illness.
This is the tragedy of it - it makes one deceive, lie, and kid themselves.
Alcoholism untreated gets worse, rarely better.

snowymalone

I'm so glad I read this thread. I'm giving up the sauce as well. I can see the danger signs looming, and I don't want to be in a position where booze dictates how I live my life. So while I still have the upper hand, I'm giving it the shove.

Yes, I'll miss it. I drank very heavily in my youth, but then so did everyone I associated with: I largely gave up when I settled down, but over the past couple of years it's been sneaking up again, to the point where yesterday I bought two bottles of wine for Sunday lunch rather than one, because that wouldn't be enough (despite only three people in the house being wine drinkers, and the other two usually stop after one glass or two at the most.) I drank the other bottle myself, in the kitchen whilst preparing lunch and then whilst washing up.

By 7.30 I was sorely tempted to nip over the offy for more supplies - I resisted temptation, but it took several minutes of dithering to make that decision. That's scary. This morning I have a thick head, indigestion and a sense of shame.

Time to give up, now. Sod tomorrow, today = no booze.

barshamhillbilly

maman wrote: »

Jo, weather looking promising for your holiday. BHB obviously has everything in his neck of the woods...wildlife, home-grown food, pool, sun, the gorgeous Lady Wideload..what a life!!!

:D:D:D:D:D

Hi Maman

Though on the down side - not much sleep last night :rolleyes:. Scarily my body and brain must be try to tell me something :eek:. I do feel much much brighter this morning though.

When I don't have any alcohol I don't sleep well for the first few days, as most of you have experienced. Last night I only had 3 units ..... and didn't sleep very well ..... which must mean my body didn't think I had any :eek::eek:.....if you see what I mean. So now I'm so used to having a larger amount of alcohol every night having a 'little' sends my body round the twist .:o

Re the weather - Jo - you certainly know which week to pick, hope you find a 'quiet' beach ..... I would let you into the local secrets, but I may then have to kill you. :rotfl:


Have a great day everyone

BHB
xx

barshamhillbilly

Tangochick - thank you for posting at such a tough time. Best Wishes
BHBxx

barshamhillbilly

Fay - have you found me that deserted island yet


Well done for 'stepping away from the fridge'

BHB
xx

Pippilongstocking

BHB 15 inhabitated out of 88 - one of the uninhabited ones has wild cows on it - thought of you immediately - dinner would be provided?............http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swona

Feel rubbish today - ergh - bad sleep etc - waves to you all on the way to work - bleurgh.

anh1904

Friday - one bottle Red.
Saturday - one bottle champagne (shared) (plus one Stella at lunchtime)
Sunday - Alcohol Free Day
Monday morning - overslept!!! Pah!

barshamhillbilly

fayjmck wrote: »

BHB 15 inhabitated out of 88 - one of the uninhabited ones has wild cows on it - thought of you immediately - dinner would be provided?............http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swona

Feel rubbish today - ergh - bad sleep etc - waves to you all on the way to work - bleurgh.

I feel a big BBQ coming on