The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

glasgowgirl

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This is what I find the hardest thing to deal with. The self-sabotage part of me that's nagging and cajoling me to buy wine, even when the rational part of me REALLY REALLY doesn't want it. It's the supermarket experience that Fay talks about - the standing in the wine aisle by yourself, talking to yourself, telling yourself to shut up, to just forget it, you're not buying any!

The expression "I was in 2 minds about it" was made for the internal alcohol debate.

xx

115K

:wave: to all the newbies.

beachbeth wrote: »

The main thing that is stopping me drink at the moment is that my monthly 'friend' is due this week and I know that if I drink I will end up with a bad headache that lasts 3 days. Trouble is, my 'friend' is also making me feel tetchy and irritable and I know this will stop if I have a drink and I will feel more relaxed.

With "friends" like that who needs enemies.:rotfl:

Mine is due too so I am thinking about going to the shop and buying chocolate bars.:EasterBun

I'm not going to give up really. I still think this thread helps me to have more AF days than I would if I wasn't counting them. I am going to be AF today so that will be 4 days AF this month so far.

I hope everyone is okay:A

Pippilongstocking

Waves hello to all now that I am awake - how you all doing

Chum arrived last night with a bottle of wine - Yeah I caved go figure I am weak and silly- but I didn't drink alone which is the biggie for me and only half a bottle with none in the house we only drank the bottle that arrived - so I know what you are saying Gargave about being alone and getting into bad habits in London - this thread helps hugely for me - nelly no mates living on an island with almost NO chums.

I am really thinking of moving to a MUCH smaller island with my campervan and just sttaying there - just like the bloke BHB mentioned - and BHB - the funeral sounds a bit like my granpa's where we were all eventally laughing at the various motorbikes a 70 year old man could own etc - it was more a celebration of his life than something sad - hugs to the family and watch out for MP whip.

I am going to attempt to say HI to some of you - can't usually do this - I'd blame the recent diagnosis for dylsexia but TBH I just think I am normally a bit dippy.

Budgie - glad you found a route for DH - alternative routes are often our first choice - they seem to be more in tune with our philosophy - although you are right about Scotland and certainly where we live the healthcare and so forth is amazing - every time we have got in to ER with the kids (stones in heads on beaches, falling down stairs etc) we had a doctor in A&E waiting for us - we take so much for granted here - although it was a real choice to move to somewhere with all those services in place. Goodluck with it all and enjoy seeing DS.

Miss P - no updates for me - but schools back on tues and life needs to get back to normal so you do have permission to kick my BUTT if I don't say I am AF. Waves to piglet pants too.......

Beachbeth its hard - it does get less clangy with those bells - please see a doctor re tablets -

Glasgow girl - well done on the af routine - life is very differnt without the stufff isnt it????
Lots of new faces Gargrave, Taruntare, Eyeopener and Pagan - Hello and welcome to bedlam

RA, GC and Bis do make alot of sense and it was so nice to read the post directed at Eslet - Bis as always you appreciate and celebrate life without alcohol - its a rocky road but I do hope to get there one day.

Darling E hope you are OK and sending you a hug - WB happy birthday - 50's a great excuse to behave badly and have fun (yeah with AFD's) and MP where are you again?? Memory is very bad you know.

For those of you I forgot - I apologise - I have a pad a paper here and have gone back a few pages - but I am as I said before useless.

Just know this - in this life very few folks have absolutely changed or touched our lives - and you lot are definately helping hugely in mine so I thank you very much.

I mean anyone who understands the 'Jim Carey' style rant in the supermarket isles containing wine - completely is very appreciated

PS waves to 40SM, Jo have fun, Debtmonkey well done - Home made muesili - WOW, YM hope you are enjoying or recovering from your holiday well done on the cycling - the terrain often looks liike Orkney!!!!

PS 115k yup might need to find some choklit here too - maybe we are all just going to be having similar experiences this week - OMG!!!!!!

Pippilongstocking

Caz - hobbies - reading is good - bit difficult after a glass or so of wine, I love gardening - but thats also my 'profession' - writing a journal is an eyeopener - I am trying to do that - dog walking, beach combing and leaving some of the during the day chores until the evening - keeps you busy - you enjoy the day time when no cravings and then busy yourself during your danger time with chores - but maybe that only works for me

Lots of us I know love cooking and growing food - although BHB takes this a step further than the rest of us!!!!!

barshamhillbilly

fayjmck wrote: »

I am really thinking of moving to a MUCH smaller island with my campervan and just sttaying there - just like the bloke BHB mentioned - and BHB - the funeral sounds a bit like my granpa's where we were all eventally laughing at the various motorbikes a 70 year old man could own etc - it was more a celebration of his life than something sad - hugs to the family and watch out for MP whip.

Thanks Fay - could you look out for a nice island for me please :-

Inner Hebrides, a few trees, white sandy beach, rock pools, a nice fresh water spring, no mozzies and a nice sheltered bit for my tent please

Am happy to be just dropped off the boat on the beach, so no need for a ferry for the campervan :cool: :rotfl::rotfl:


On the beer front - none today but have bought some Martini type stuff for a change. It's relatively low alcohol so should keep it down to about 3 units today
Should keep MP's whip at bay today anyway

Best Wishes
Andy
xx


PS. OOPs - forgot - :hello::hello: Hi Newbies & good luck :hello::hello:

(Must be something in the water this week :D)

maman

:hello:

Welcome to all newbies,you'll love it on here everyone is so supportive.

taruntaru, lots of us find we need to make excuses for not drinking to our friends. You could try something extreme, like pregnancy or more normal like poverty or just say you need to cut back.

gargrave, I'm a cutter down and so I choose to drink at weekends and mid-week social occasions (:o). I understand what you are saying about shift work but perhaps if you were to make a note on your shift rota which of your days off constituted your weekend (e.g. when out with friends/people round) then you wouldn't get into the habit of just drinking on any days off or on your own. Well done on your big target.

barneyd, good on you making a pact with your SIL. Will you be introducing her to us?

cazza I think you are doing fabulously well plus it's good that you have a choice of meetings available as a sort of safety net (and then there's us of course!). I think things to do by way of pastimes is really useful but I'm reluctant to do too much that takes me out and away from OH too often or similarly retiring to bed with my book. So many of us had got used to just opening a bottle automatically each evening and sitting in front of the telly it's a difficult habit to break.

debtmonkey, I'm so glad that you're managing some AFness with your OH at home and delighted that she seems to be coping herself too.

beachbeth, there are lots of plausible explanations for the itching etc but please get yourself to the doctor. I don't remember but have you talked to him about your drinking?

BHB, I know what you mean about routine but please don't wish the holidays away!! It looks like jo may have struck lucky and we'll be having summer some time this week.

fay, I've got some nice, new CK red wellies and I've been waiting for just the right occasion to wear them. Promise, we'll be the first to know when you fix a date.

Good luck to everypne planning an AF day today. I'll be jumping back on tomorrow.

gargrave50

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

PS. OOPs - forgot - :hello::hello: Hi Newbies & good luck :hello::hello:

(Must be something in the water this week :D)

Yes too much alcohol in my water up til now

beachbeth

maman wrote: »

:hello:

beachbeth, there are lots of plausible explanations for the itching etc but please get yourself to the doctor. I don't remember but have you talked to him about your drinking?

Yes I have. He gave me some tranquillisers and told me to take 3 a day. These tablets have a similar effect to alcohol and grab onto the same receptors in the brain and so you don't feel so much like drinking. However, they are addictive so he told me to come back in 3 weeks. I suffer with depression and find it hard to keep visiting the doctor (especially this particular one). So I tend to take one of these tablets if Im feeling stressed but don't want to drink. I haven't had one for ages because I don't want to get addicted and try to do without alcohol when I can.:o

Pippilongstocking

Touch and go in the supermarket - being pathetic I texted a chum - and got told to step away from the wine -

Ta JO!!

Hope now - its wet and dreary here - hence the dialiance to the supermarket - shops close early here - so NO alcohol in the house - and NO shopping as have just put on my PJ's at 3.15 - lol the things we do to keep safe and sound.

Waves to all - BHB right with you for the island - what if we do a richard hammond and make Darwin into a Dampervan and sail him over???? 80+ islands here many of them deserted

Maman - your wellies do sound very posh - trying to create an outdoor DFW - AF (ish) wedding - two stubborn redheads in one relationship - you can figure the plans aren't exactly going 'smoothly' -

Pagan71

changing_ways wrote: »

And Caz , well done :T, you sound so focused and positive.

Welcome newbies, Pagan1 what was the chicklit you read? Was it one of the Marian Keyes books? I'd heard one of those dealt with alcohol but can't remember name.

Hi, yes it was Marian Keyes "This Charming Man". The chapters about Marnie's battle with alcohol were very well written. Thanks for the welcome too