The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

jujugaboo

Sorry QQ that you have to wait another month, how frustrating, well at least you get to see DH. Enjoy!

I have my baseline scan on Tuesday and get my procedure for my natural FET. As my cycles are bit longer than most I am not sure how they are going to do it and with only one frostie I just hope it defrosts ok.

mrshappy

Oh QQ, that's poo. I hope you have a lovely time with your DH though x

Primmer

QQ - sorry to hear its been put off to next month (hugs) next month will be the one enjoy your time with DH

QQuaver

jujugaboo wrote: »

Sorry QQ that you have to wait another month, how frustrating, well at least you get to see DH. Enjoy!

I have my baseline scan on Tuesday and get my procedure for my natural FET. As my cycles are bit longer than most I am not sure how they are going to do it and with only one frostie I just hope it defrosts ok.

Mine was natural cycle one too:)
I did get a trigger though when the follicle reached 20mm:)
Good luck:)

2ba3c

Sorry you have to wait QQ, it seems like we spend our lives waiting eh?

I'm just popping my head in, we're going to attempt to have one last try with our donor around ovulation. Crossing fingers and toes. I tried soy this month (and last, but we didn't get to try last month) - it's made me incredibly spotty, but who knows if it will work - time will tell!

Not at all sure what we will do after, but I finally have my first gynae appt at the hospital on the 30th, so I'm sure they will make some suggestions (around losing weight, I bet).

Question though - has anybody self funded and gone down the NHS route?

QQuaver

2ba3c wrote: »

Sorry you have to wait QQ, it seems like we spend our lives waiting eh?

Yes, zzzzzzzz..........

I'm just popping my head in, we're going to attempt to have one last try with our donor around ovulation.

Good luck:)

Question though - has anybody self funded and gone down the NHS route?

Some PCT won't let you do NHS funded ones if you self fund beforehand, so you should double check.

Cake4brains

Oh Runner Ive just seen your news :j:j:j Thats fantastic, Im so pleased for you, it brought a tear to my eye :j:j:j

countrybum

Enjoy your time with DH qq

2a - fingers crossed this is your cycle xx

Now I know I don't post much as I often don't know what to say:o. All I seem to do is ask questions!!!

At last we've had our appointment at FS and are going ahead with IVF (next cycle, too scared for this one and we keep saying, 'we'll wait just one more month, it might happen'!!). Today is CD2 so we'll prob be starting around the beginning of June. To say I'm scared is an understatement!!! I keep changing my mind ranging from 'I want it to start right now' to the other extreme of 'are we really sure this is a good idea?'.

Anyway, obviously when I'm in my right mind, yes of course this is a good idea. I need to stop waffling and get to the point of what I wanted to ask ......What is IVF really like? I'm hoping I'm ready for the emotional side - both our families know and my DH is pretty awesome when it comes to support. Just not sure what to do about telling work? What about injecting and the drugs? Did you manage it ok? How were the side effects? What about egg collection? It sounds pretty horrific:eek: to me!! Mild period pain??? I can't see it somehow!!!

Right, that really is the end of my waffling!!! Sorry for all the questions!

Runnerduck

countrybum wrote: »

Enjoy your time with DH qq

2a - fingers crossed this is your cycle xx

Now I know I don't post much as I often don't know what to say:o. All I seem to do is ask questions!!!

At last we've had our appointment at FS and are going ahead with IVF (next cycle, too scared for this one and we keep saying, 'we'll wait just one more month, it might happen'!!). Today is CD2 so we'll prob be starting around the beginning of June. To say I'm scared is an understatement!!! I keep changing my mind ranging from 'I want it to start right now' to the other extreme of 'are we really sure this is a good idea?'.

Anyway, obviously when I'm in my right mind, yes of course this is a good idea. I need to stop waffling and get to the point of what I wanted to ask ......What is IVF really like? I'm hoping I'm ready for the emotional side - both our families know and my DH is pretty awesome when it comes to support. Just not sure what to do about telling work? What about injecting and the drugs? Did you manage it ok? How were the side effects? What about egg collection? It sounds pretty horrific:eek: to me!! Mild period pain??? I can't see it somehow!!!

Right, that really is the end of my waffling!!! Sorry for all the questions!

hi, countrybum i'm sure you'll be fine, once i got over the first night nerves with the injections, they were fine, and the last time the needles were so fine i hardly felt it, i did have pain after EC collection the first time but i think it was unusual to and last time at this clinic i was completely fine, i was very bloated before egg collection this time as there were a lot of folicles but that was more uncomfortable than painful.ET is just like a smear, and the chap doing it at this last clinic was such a laugh i was too busy joking with him on his 'prayer mat' around my lady bits, it was over before i knew it I found it a lot harder emotionally than physically, the first time was not so bad as i was optimistic, but now on the forth time i was a bit of an emotional mess, personally i have told family and friends as i am no good at secrets and the couple in their seventy's that i worked for when we started now know all the ins and outs of ICSI and i still visit them with updates, and they phone to see how i am. With a supportive hubby you will be fine, good luck xx

Cake4brains

Countrybum, I think the idea of IVF is far far scarier than actually doing it. Because its all waiting around and taking medication and scans it didnt actually feel like we were in the middle of it, if that makes sense, at one point I thought to myself "Wow Im actually having IVF treatment right now!" I just expected it to be 'more'. More stress, more hard work, more clinical. And it really wasnt.

At the end of the first cycle I was actually surprised how easy it was. Once the first injection was over with it wasnt an issue. The egg collection was very uncomfortable for me as I have an ovary that likes to hide, but it was over in minutes and I had no lasting pain. The egg transfer is the easiest part.

Emotionally, like Runner says, as long as you have some sort of support, you will be fine. Although saying that, I didnt and I handled it rather well I think!

Lots of luck xx