The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

jujugaboo

sarahs999 wrote: »

juju, what drugs do you take for your high natural killer cells? And when do you start them?

I was taking steroids 25mg for about 2 weeks before transfer.

Lisa thanks for your kins words, I don't know how you have done it my hat goes off to you.

Chickpea - sorry AF found you, hugs. x

Good luck everyone else I read all the posts but sometimes can't rememeber who said what. Sorry. xx

fluffnutter

chickpea wrote: »

Hi - I'm afraid I have already had all the answers I am going to get - my infertility is due to quite low (albeit not, on paper, disastrous) AMH + an 'x factor' that means it just doesn't happen. It always looks perfect on scans and blood tests, but it just doesn't happen.

We are back to the clinic because we are doing 3 more cycles of injections (OI) before throwing in the towel, at least as far as interventions go.

I can't get enough of dildocam scans anyway, so that's something to look forward to!

Have you been pregnant and lost babies or do you never get to the decent embryo stage? If the latter, have you considered egg donation? It's what I had to do in the end. I know it's not for everyone, but it's the only way we could have a baby, and it's the best decision we ever made.

staffiecat

Hi all, sorry I haven't been on, have been away for work which felt like being in the dark ages because I had zero internet access!!

Had been thinking about you all and I am sorry to see all the sad news, hugs to JuJu, Onestep and Chickpea.
Winky, there are no words for your loss, I am so very sorry, sending lots of hugs.

Welcome missdaisies, hope your stay is short!
Maddie, good luck with the IUI, having the polyp removed should hopefully make a difference.
Gettingthereslowly - i think the hardest part of this journey is never being given a real reason for the infertility problems. I have various issues shall we say that could all contribute but non that really should have prevented having a baby.
Cake4brains - I won £10 on the lottery last week, thats gone straight into my ivf fund

Nothing really happening with me, quite literally. I should have ovulated cd17 or 18 but it hasn't happened and my post-op emotions that usually happen around ov have not appeared I could have missed the ov opk wise but usually I just know as have lots of pain. DH came away with me so we have bd'd every other day since cd10 (its now a chore of course) so I am counting today as start of 2ww, but without any real hope.

Love and hugs to anyone I have missed

xx

chickpea

fluffnutter wrote: »

Have you been pregnant and lost babies or do you never get to the decent embryo stage? If the latter, have you considered egg donation? It's what I had to do in the end. I know it's not for everyone, but it's the only way we could have a baby, and it's the best decision we ever made.

The best news from a fertility point of view for me is that I have a 3 yr old, conceived naturally. The bad new is he took 3 and a half yrs to conceive and nothing else has ever happened. I have spent the best part of my thirties TTC, with 40 on the horizon in 2013.

Egg donation is out of the Q, because my husband is quite a strict Catholic, so any IVF is out of the question!

chickpea

My, what a shock I had this evening. Such a weird night. My SIL showed up for a visit (we don't see them terribly much) looking visibly pg (about 4-5 months). I had to vanish upstairs to sob for half and hour, pretending I was cleaning.

The I pulled myself together and reappeared - and although she was drinking tap water earlier, when I reappeared, she had started knocking back the wine!

Either she is pg and doesn't know it, or is just a bit chubbier round the middle (after her last baby) than I realised!

Anyway - looks like I'm spared *that* grief for at least a little while longer!

_______

On the downside, AF is here with a vengeance..!

onestep

Oh chickpea ((hugs)). One of the girls I work with returned to work after Christmas with a large tummy & I could have sworn she was at least 6 months. Luckily I asked one of the other ladies before saying a bitter congratulations... Turned out she had just over-indulged ALL christmas..... :eek:

Winky,_The_House_Elf

Oh Chickpea! What we do to ourselves eh?

I had an erpc yesterday. I wanted to go the natural route and wait, but I realised that I am not prepared to wait weeks and then possibly have the miscarrige when I'm on my own with a toddler.

The whole thing was a lot better than I could have possibly wished for, and now I am feeling almost normal physically, just slight cramping and very light bleeding. The emotional damage will take longer, I keep feeling like I have been hit by a train.

My pity party was a lot more expensive. This week I over did it slightly, as everytime I sat down I became over-whelmed with grief. I got new floors laid in all the downstairs rooms, painted all the walls myself (Well I wasnt going to redecorate when I had new floors was I?) a new bathroom cabinet and blinds for the spare room!

I scrubbed the house from top to bottom, re-organising every cupboard and wardrobe.

NORMALLY I am a slob who has a cleaner who comes in for a couple of hours a week to do the heavy stuff and ironing, so all I do is a quick clean, hoover and mop each day (2 hairy dogs and one messy 15mo!)unload the dishewasher,pay the bills and , and DH does the laundary!

I think they call it displacement activity.

I amd now in limbo. I dont know where I belong. I hope you ladies don't mind me hanging around this board a bit longer, I certainly don't feel comfortable on the other TTC board, but I haven a clue what my fertilty situation is now. Was this a miracle after IVF? Never to be repeated? or does the rollercoaster of Frozen Embryo Transfer loom?

Cake4brains

(((Hugs winky))) And of course you can hang around. Hopefully it wont be for too long xx

Well my FET is booked for Tuesday. Absolutely dreading the phonecall in the morning to say if they have defrosted ok. Finding it difficult to sleep now so not holding out any hope for sleep Monday night!

And now a question for you lovely people..... I had booked a full body aromatherapy massage for Thursday cos didnt think my transfer was going to be this soon. Would you still go? I was thinking it might be ok as long as they didnt touch my stomach or lower back. But now Im wondering if I just shouldnt bother. Its at my local college, in the trainee salon so dont know if I asked them what they thought if they would even know

Runnerduck

hi, cake4brains, personally i would be a bit carefull as if you are unsure about it you may worry afterwards which won't help, and i know i was having reflexology last spring with my ivf i later miscarried, but my reflexologist refused to carry on after my transfer, as she said she would not feel happy treating me after the transfer until after 3 months and she was very experienced and has been practicing for years

shell_girl

Hi, hope you don't mind me popping in but it's a defnite no on the aromatherapy massage. A full body massage encourages drainage of all the waste systems and the elimination of toxins/ antibodies. Please don't risk it in case your body becomes confused about what it needs to eliminate.